Womens interest in male nurses

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I am a nursing student, currently studying to be an RN. I am really enjoying the experience, however I have an issue that is concerning me.

When chatting up women and the conversation comes up about what I do, and I reply studying nursing, their eyes widen and the mood seems to change. This is not related to women in the field but those outside. As soon as I utter the word nurse, I seem to go from a confident manly guy to a nice guy to them. I know women want confident manly sort of men, but women also say they like a man to be sensitive and caring. Can’t a male nurse be sensitive and manly? Do these women see nurses as somewhat effeminate, at worst gay?

If a woman is able to climb the corporate ladder and make big money in business and still have sex appeal, does a man need to limit himself to traditional masculine roles to prove his maleness and be attractive to women or can he do a traditionally feminine job of helping and caring for people.

I understood that when women refer to equality, it is for both men and women. They it’s a great idea for men to be nurses, but individually, their actions seem to speak louder than their words.

I would be very interested in your opinions on this both guys and girls

Specializes in Critical Care, Neuro, Cardiac, Step Down.

You know not many people can leave work at the end of the day collect a great paycheck, feel worthwhile AND save a human being's life. I feel privileged to be a nurse, the fact you are a man is moot. I am a man, I provide for my family and work my butt off for my patients. Unfortunately those women will never see how sexy it is for a nurse (male or female) taking charge in a code, going toe to toe with a doctor for a patient, or crying with a family. Don't let societies misconceptions or an ignorant person degrade your importance just because your not in the NFL. Be proud in telling people what you do!!

P.S. I am a man, I married a nurse. She saw how great I looked in my blues and it was love at first sight! There's nothing more sexy than confidence, advertise that when you say your a nurse.

Specializes in Peri-Op.

When I am old and in nursing homes or hospitals you can guarantee I will be coping some feels on the young female nurses. lol sexist or not, that is just a fact just like the lady earlier said.....

Specializes in Emergency Nursing.
When I am old and in nursing homes or hospitals you can guarantee I will be coping some feels on the young female nurses. lol sexist or not, that is just a fact just like the lady earlier said.....

If you can't control yourself when you're elderly, after years of experience and practice, how can you be trusted to behave yourself when you're young?

May I say, this is exactly the kind of attitude that explains perfectly why hospitals have rules against male nurses being alone with female patients for intimate care. I am not saying you would ever do anything, but thinking that "copping feels" is ever appropriate, regardless of your age, betrays a real lack of respect.

Since when are men mere sexual predators incapable of self-control? And why is it cute when women mimic the worst of our stereotypes?

It's not funny; it's pretty disgusting actually.

Specializes in Peri-Op.

LOL. And there it is. The double standard pops up. When the female says it in the prior post about grabbing the male nurses butt its OK.... now That's a male says the same thing its disgusting. Typical.

Specializes in Mental Health.
If you can't control yourself when you're elderly, after years of experience and practice, how can you be trusted to behave yourself when you're young? May I say, this is exactly the kind of attitude that explains perfectly why hospitals have rules against male nurses being alone with female patients for intimate care. I am not saying you would ever do anything, but thinking that "copping feels" is ever appropriate, regardless of your age, betrays a real lack of respect. Since when are men mere sexual predators incapable of self-control? And why is it cute when women mimic the worst of our stereotypes?

Well, I took Hygiene Queen's comment as tongue in cheek, not literally that she was going to be sexually assaulting male nurses in her old age and desires to do so now, merely that she finds male nurses attractive and desirable and used a sense of humor to convey that..

"Guaranteeing as fact" that you will be sexually assaulting young female nurses by "copping a feel" in your old age is something else entirely.. Yikes.. Let the bloodbath begin.. :D

I guess what makes one "cute to mimic" and the other "disgusting" is that women are not known to be sexual predators and forcibly rape members of the opposite sex through violence and/or threats thereof, a small % of men who give us all a bad name and disgusting stereotype are.

Have you in your life ever heard of a woman forcibly raping a man? I haven't..

Have you ever heard of a man forcibly raping a woman? All too often unfortunately..

Men typically need not worry about being beat up, overpowered, raped, and/or killed by a random woman.. women on the other hand constantly need to be on guard because we all know and have heard the horror stories.

I see where you're coming from though, Anoetos, and completely agree, total lack of respect to think it's ok to ever put your hands on anybody without their consent regardless of your sex. That being said, you have my express permission to pinch my butt anytime Hygiene Queen ;)

Argo.. not.. keep your hands to yourself! :D

I suppose now Argo can sue me for discrimination.. woe is me..

Specializes in Peri-Op.

I've got my lawyer on speed dial. LOL. My main goal was to get the reaction. I figured it would come quicker. Still, typical double standard though.

Specializes in Emergency Nursing.
LOL. And there it is. The double standard pops up. When the female says it in the prior post about grabbing the male nurses butt its OK.... now That's a male says the same thing its disgusting. Typical.

The difference is this: I am a man, I am fine about taking you to task for what I consider a problem, because you are a man. Maybe I am old fashioned but I don't think I am in any position to criticize a woman to the same degree.

That said, it was I who first implied that Hygiene Queen's remarks were inappropriate though I will admit that I couched the criticism in softer language than I did with you.

Do you know what the fastest growing type of illegal sexual misconduct in the US is? Adult women on adolescent males. So the point about men being more prone to rape is significantly mitigated. However, for some reason, when a 13 year old boy gets seduced by his hot 26 year old teacher, it's just not as jarring, men are more apt to envy the boy.

There's your double standard.

Look it up.

Specializes in Peri-Op.

You have a dictionary or thesaurus I can borrow? :/

Just pull up in a nice sports car and tell her you're a Medic. Done deal!

Now women may say that they want the kind, sensitive type, but what I see them dating are men with tatoos up both arms and a gangsta rapper look that would put Eminem to shame.

Hey I used to be that tatoo'd baggy jeans wearing 3 earings gangsta type guy in my early 20's!.. minus the beating and robbing part. LOL Now I am in my early 30's and I am still turning the heads of those little 20 year old girls!

It has nothing to do with you being a Nurse and everything to do with you having no confidence in yourself.

I am thinking of becoming a Nurse and this never even popped into my head at all. In fact it was the complete opposite, I figured I'd get tons of respect and interest from the ladies. But I've always been used to getting attention from females so maybe that's why.......

You can still be a bad boy and be a nurse. Should be interesting walking into class with a full sleeve wearing scrubs. maybe i'll pop my 3 earings back in for the hell of it. Fun Shlt! :cool:

Real men work at DESKS.

^ that's sarcasm

I think make nurses are sexy. Personally, I would love to date a male nurse!

my advice is that if they are too dumb to recognize how much respect a nurse deserves then they are too dumb to mess around with in the first place.

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