Being the minority/awkward moments

  1. I was wondering how you guys deal with female nurses in awkward situations...especially when they consider you "one of the girls". It's like they forget we are around when they talk about their....monthly's, love life, and detailed sexual encounters ( I mean VERY detailed). I laugh it off...but it's still awkward. Being the only male nurse where I work, I miss out on male bonding.It would be nice to have other testosterone to socialize with other than my own:uhoh21: .
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  2. 18 Comments

  3. by   Tweety
    It says a lot that they are comfortable around you enough to share such things. Don't complain. Otherwise they could be saying things like "why don't men leave the toilet seat up", "why are men such babies when they are sick", or totally isolate you completely.

    Seriously, you didn't think becoming a nurse would enhance your male bonding experiences? You're going to have to go outside of work for that like a sportsbar or a bowling alley.

    Good luck.
  4. by   malenurse1
    Personally, I don't mind being treated like one of the "girls". I look at it this way, when they talk about their personal intimate things around me, I figure I have earned a certain level of trust with them. Even my Ex-wife didn't share some of the information with me that many of my female co-workers have. It kind of gives us an inside track to the female mind. That being said, I still don't know a darned thing about how they work, LOL!
  5. by   Roy Fokker
    Quote from Jamie Dale
    I was wondering how you guys deal with female nurses in awkward situations...especially when they consider you "one of the girls".
    *shrug* I was considered one of the "sisters" when I went through school
  6. by   Jamie Dale
    Thanks for the input Tweety. I didn't think nursing would enhance male bonding...but it would be nice not being the only one at my job. LOL. I'm not really into the bar scene. Marriage and kids dosen't fit into that equation...along with RN school. Study,study,study..and so on. Thanks again Tweety, talk again soon.
  7. by   Tweety
    Quote from Jamie Dale
    Thanks for the input Tweety. I didn't think nursing would enhance male bonding...but it would be nice not being the only one at my job. LOL. I'm not really into the bar scene. Marriage and kids dosen't fit into that equation...along with RN school. Study,study,study..and so on. Thanks again Tweety, talk again soon.

    I know you were just venting primarily and I understand. The work, school, family grind can be isolating. I was the only male on my night shift job for many years and I just got used to it. Now I'm on days and there are too many men it bugs me. Guess I'm never happy.
  8. by   allegory
    Wow same problem here. I just joke about it mostly and then go out to my car and listen to some Metallica and slam some beers j/k. But seriously it can be kinda weird sometimes.
  9. by   Pat_Pat RN
    I'm the only guy in our ER department, other than the docs. Sometimes we do have interesting discussions. And people are forever saying, "Night girls, see you tomorrow." I usually wave really big and say real loud, "OK, thanks, bye bye." Then they say, "And Pat."
    I don't mind it really.
  10. by   Dallas_RN
    Doesn't bother me in the least. I've always had lots of female friends (I was in a Frat in college) so seems normal. Besides I offer a guys point of view on relationship topics and they offers theirs. Give and take relationship.
  11. by   Larry77
    Before I worked in the ED (where we have tons of guys around) I got very used to being the only male. I actually love it and would feel more awkward around a bunch of guys at a mill than around the girls at work. Guess I'm just strange like that
  12. by   Spidey's mom
    You don't seriously think men don't talk about their sex lives in DETAIL too? :wink2:

    Actually, I don't talk about that (I'm a girl btw). But it reminds me of a conversation - my former husband and I were friends with a couple who lived next door. The guys worked together (airline). One day this woman was talking to me about the things she loved about her boyfriend and one was "I am so happy that he never talks about our sex life with others - that would be such an invasion of our privacy and it makes me feel secure in his love for me" . .. or words to that effect (it has been about 25 years since this conversation ). Anyway, that night my husband came home from work and started telling me about how his friend had detailed the sexual experience that he and his gf had enjoyed together the night before . . . I had to laugh, although it was kind of sad too. She had no idea . ..

    As to where I work, there are two males; one on nights and one days. There are a couple of bawdy female nurses who talk about sex alot - the guys don't seem to mind but some of the women do (including me).

    I just don't want to hear the intimate details of anyone's sex life.

    steph
  13. by   Tweety
    Quote from stevielynn
    You don't seriously think men don't talk about their sex lives in DETAIL too? :wink2:


    steph

    For heaven's sakes no!

    Men lie about their sex lives.
  14. by   LoriAlabamaRN
    Well, tonight the four of us women started discussing cramps and our remedies (sort of forgetting our guy tech hanging out nearby) until he piped up "Well, MY remedy for menstrual cramps is to chew squash!" We all burst out laughing, but also got reminded about the guy in the room...

    maybe try humor?

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