Latest Comments by ThePrincessBride

Latest Comments by ThePrincessBride

ThePrincessBride, BSN, RN 35,537 Views

Joined Jun 13, '10 - from 'Somewhere'. She has '1 RN, 3 tech' year(s) of experience and specializes in 'Med-Surg, NICU'. Posts: 1,953 (60% Liked) Likes: 5,149

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    I definitely agree that NICU is very narrow and I know some NICU-only nurses who've gone to school for fnp but have had a hard time getting jobs because they lack adult experience.

    PICU is definitely a unique place with the most variety possible.

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    Quote from meanmaryjean
    Most of the adult ICU nurses who came to PICU did very well, not so much the NICU transfers.
    Curious...why do you think that is the case?

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    Two weeks at an snf.

    8 months in med-surg. Still there prn.

    Now in NICU and have been for six months.

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    Quote from aerorunner80
    I'm actually looking to different areas with better hours such as PACU. If I'm going to work holidays and weekends, I'd almost rather stay where I'm at because I have a lot of seniority.
    PACU is a very coveted specialty and usually requires adult ICU experience.

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    SmilingBluEyes likes this.

    Unfortunately, that is a problem that many Peds and NICU nurses have when they want to switch out...they are often boxed in by their very specialized experience. However, med/surg usually has a high turnover rate...have you applying to those kind of jobs or adult ICUs which are more competitive?

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    And I know it isn't glamorous, but people need to start thinking more about retirement. Defined benefit pensions are becoming a thing in the past and social security isn't very stable (and the average amount given is small). Americans have a horrible savings rate compared to other countries.

    People praise Dave Ramsey, and while I do like him (and think he has good advice for getting out of debt), I think he is very basic. Look into Mr. Money Mustache for investing and retirement savings advice. He and his wife retired by their early thirties and haven't held FT jobs in years.

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    Quote from Wuzzie
    WHAT?!!! Ummm. She chose to have you and I'm sure she doesn't expect you to make reparations. My mom would kill me if I tried to do that. Well, once she stopped laughing at me. Maybe offering to pay your share of living expenses would be more appropriate.
    I live with my mom and feel that adult kids should be helping out financially if they are living under their parents' roof.

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    Don't you just love it when managers have all these strict scheduling rules but then they turn around and break them for their own personal convenience?

    Mine blatantly broke a couple of the scheduling rules. I won't get into too much detail but I am pissed about it. Of course instead of moving someone else over, they screw me over all the while breaking their rules for their benefit. I don't care that I am one of the newer ones, there are scheduling rules for a reason.

    Now I know why this place has such a high turnover. I have been here for several months and they are hemorrhaging nurses. Every day I get a call begging for me to come in. They are losing a few more night nurses now, one that I know of is due to scheduling reasons. I also know of a couple people who are planning to leave. So in less than five months, I know at least five nurses who have or will be leaving with a couple more on the way out.

    I knew going into nursing that I would work some weekends, holidays and nights. But this job said they weren't allowed to force someone to work three twelves in a row but here I am scheduled to work almost double that amount consecutive shifts and of all times, over the weekend holiday. Nevermind I am already fulfilling my holiday night shift or am working an extra weekend shift.

    Ugh. I can't wait to get my one year in and bounce.

  • 6 were out of line, but he was also rude.

    Sometimes it is best just to mind your own business.

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    Quote from Here.I.Stand
    I get feeling put out -- her approach was highly unprofessional. I would caution you against adopting this attitude however. If you can go above and beyond (sometimes we can't -- I get that, not what I'm referring to), it's for those little babies and their families. Don't do the bare minimum simply to spite unprofessional people.
    Good point. The reason I am here is for the babies and families. It just gets really easy to get caught up in drama of backstabbing coworkers.

    I won't bother with an email as I don't want to engage her any further.

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    I agree. It is immature as is running behind to management. I have never talked to this nurse before so I am soconfused as to what the hell her problem is...

    I do want that golden year of NICU experience so I guess I will just keep my mouth shut and do the best that I can. And I will keep a diary.

    Quote from klone
    Your youth is showing. That is an immature and unconstructive way of handling it.

    I'm guessing that this nurse has decided she doesn't like you and is trying to chase you off, either through resignation, transfer, or firing. Otherwise, she would not have cc'ed management on that email, she would have spoken to you directly. You need to decide what YOU want to do. Do you want to be run off like the nurses before you? Then by all means, respond with immaturity and petulance. Do you want to stick it out, at least to get that golden year in the NICU? Then you need to take the high road, and respond with grace and maturity.

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    OnOn2RN likes this.

    Quote from canigraduate
    I think an acknowledgment is in order, but one that doesn't admit culpability.

    Something like, "Thank you for bringing this to my attention. In the future, I hope you will bring any perceived issues directly to me so that they may be dealt with in a timely manner."

    This highlights the fact that she is dodging the chain of command by not bringing it up to you first, and that emailing you afterwards is cowardly and doesn't help anybody.

    I like this. She didn't even give me a chance. Didn't approach me directly or anything. I was definitely blind-sided.

    Next time we are reporting off I will ask her if there is anything else she would like to tell me or does she prefer to get management involve and have coworkers thrown under the bus every single time there is an issue.

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    That is bold. But I do wonder about that. Ever since I've started, we have averaged losing at least one nurse per month and there are several new people, mostly new grads, in training. Other nurses have told me that they have had people quit less than two months off orientation.

    This is very concerning to me. I know the scheduling process and requirements are absolute crap but I wonder if some of it has to do with how staff treat each other.

    One person can't change a toxic environment.

    Quote from TriciaJ
    I agree that blowing the whole thing off is probably the best response. If Nurse Tattletale keeps on being a problem, I love Macawake's idea of asking her, per policy, to whom you should report her errors.

    If you're approached by the NM about this, remind her that you are always open to constructive feedback. If you feel brave enough, you can ask her if the culture of tattling is a factor in the high turnover.

    Maybe some day you can help change the negative culture in that place. Or maybe at some point you just have to save yourself. Good luck either way.

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    canoehead and GermRN like this.

    Quote from PolaBar
    I wouldn't respond to the email. If they were mistakes you made, own them, but not in an email. If you have a chance to talk with management about it, do that. Just be prepared to discuss what you've learned from it, and how you hope it will avoid future errors. The only thing the email response will do would be "deny culpability" (not owning up to mistakes) or owning them in writing. I'd try to avoid either. Just learn from it. Nobody is perfect; we all have room for improvement. I'm sure management knows you're newly off orientation.
    Good point. So I guess silence is golden?

    Management knows that I just got off orientation (barely a week out). I wish I had someone I could trust, but I guess you can't trust anyone, especially in an ICU. Never had this issue in med/surg.

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    Thanks for the replies.

    I really am trying so hard not to bite this girl's head off. On one hand, I do want to reply. I don't want management to think that I am making mistakes she is catching and she isn't making any. On the other hand, if I ignore it, I don't want management to think that I don't care because I do!

    Her concerns are valid, but they are off putting especially since she made some of the same errors in the opposite direction.

    I usually go above and beyond to try to make a shift easier, but now I think I am going to do what *needs* to be done and to hell with doing more.