Latest Comments by ThePrincessBride

Latest Comments by ThePrincessBride

ThePrincessBride, BSN, RN 34,815 Views

Joined Jun 13, '10 - from 'Somewhere'. She has '1 RN, 3 tech' year(s) of experience and specializes in 'Med-Surg, NICU'. Posts: 1,946 (60% Liked) Likes: 5,131

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    Don't you just love it when managers have all these strict scheduling rules but then they turn around and break them for their own personal convenience?

    Mine blatantly broke a couple of the scheduling rules. I won't get into too much detail but I am pissed about it. Of course instead of moving someone else over, they screw me over all the while breaking their rules for their benefit. I don't care that I am one of the newer ones, there are scheduling rules for a reason.

    Now I know why this place has such a high turnover. I have been here for several months and they are hemorrhaging nurses. Every day I get a call begging for me to come in. They are losing a few more night nurses now, one that I know of is due to scheduling reasons. I also know of a couple people who are planning to leave. So in less than five months, I know at least five nurses who have or will be leaving with a couple more on the way out.

    I knew going into nursing that I would work some weekends, holidays and nights. But this job said they weren't allowed to force someone to work three twelves in a row but here I am scheduled to work almost double that amount consecutive shifts and of all times, over the weekend holiday. Nevermind I am already fulfilling my holiday night shift or am working an extra weekend shift.

    Ugh. I can't wait to get my one year in and bounce.

  • 6 were out of line, but he was also rude.

    Sometimes it is best just to mind your own business.

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    Quote from Here.I.Stand
    I get feeling put out -- her approach was highly unprofessional. I would caution you against adopting this attitude however. If you can go above and beyond (sometimes we can't -- I get that, not what I'm referring to), it's for those little babies and their families. Don't do the bare minimum simply to spite unprofessional people.
    Good point. The reason I am here is for the babies and families. It just gets really easy to get caught up in drama of backstabbing coworkers.

    I won't bother with an email as I don't want to engage her any further.

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    I agree. It is immature as is running behind to management. I have never talked to this nurse before so I am soconfused as to what the hell her problem is...

    I do want that golden year of NICU experience so I guess I will just keep my mouth shut and do the best that I can. And I will keep a diary.

    Quote from klone
    Your youth is showing. That is an immature and unconstructive way of handling it.

    I'm guessing that this nurse has decided she doesn't like you and is trying to chase you off, either through resignation, transfer, or firing. Otherwise, she would not have cc'ed management on that email, she would have spoken to you directly. You need to decide what YOU want to do. Do you want to be run off like the nurses before you? Then by all means, respond with immaturity and petulance. Do you want to stick it out, at least to get that golden year in the NICU? Then you need to take the high road, and respond with grace and maturity.

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    OnOn2RN likes this.

    Quote from canigraduate
    I think an acknowledgment is in order, but one that doesn't admit culpability.

    Something like, "Thank you for bringing this to my attention. In the future, I hope you will bring any perceived issues directly to me so that they may be dealt with in a timely manner."

    This highlights the fact that she is dodging the chain of command by not bringing it up to you first, and that emailing you afterwards is cowardly and doesn't help anybody.

    I like this. She didn't even give me a chance. Didn't approach me directly or anything. I was definitely blind-sided.

    Next time we are reporting off I will ask her if there is anything else she would like to tell me or does she prefer to get management involve and have coworkers thrown under the bus every single time there is an issue.

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    That is bold. But I do wonder about that. Ever since I've started, we have averaged losing at least one nurse per month and there are several new people, mostly new grads, in training. Other nurses have told me that they have had people quit less than two months off orientation.

    This is very concerning to me. I know the scheduling process and requirements are absolute crap but I wonder if some of it has to do with how staff treat each other.

    One person can't change a toxic environment.

    Quote from TriciaJ
    I agree that blowing the whole thing off is probably the best response. If Nurse Tattletale keeps on being a problem, I love Macawake's idea of asking her, per policy, to whom you should report her errors.

    If you're approached by the NM about this, remind her that you are always open to constructive feedback. If you feel brave enough, you can ask her if the culture of tattling is a factor in the high turnover.

    Maybe some day you can help change the negative culture in that place. Or maybe at some point you just have to save yourself. Good luck either way.

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    canoehead and GermRN like this.

    Quote from PolaBar
    I wouldn't respond to the email. If they were mistakes you made, own them, but not in an email. If you have a chance to talk with management about it, do that. Just be prepared to discuss what you've learned from it, and how you hope it will avoid future errors. The only thing the email response will do would be "deny culpability" (not owning up to mistakes) or owning them in writing. I'd try to avoid either. Just learn from it. Nobody is perfect; we all have room for improvement. I'm sure management knows you're newly off orientation.
    Good point. So I guess silence is golden?

    Management knows that I just got off orientation (barely a week out). I wish I had someone I could trust, but I guess you can't trust anyone, especially in an ICU. Never had this issue in med/surg.

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    Thanks for the replies.

    I really am trying so hard not to bite this girl's head off. On one hand, I do want to reply. I don't want management to think that I am making mistakes she is catching and she isn't making any. On the other hand, if I ignore it, I don't want management to think that I don't care because I do!

    Her concerns are valid, but they are off putting especially since she made some of the same errors in the opposite direction.

    I usually go above and beyond to try to make a shift easier, but now I think I am going to do what *needs* to be done and to hell with doing more.

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    I don't want to get too identifying, but it wasn't anything serious like giving lovenox to an actively bleeding patient!

    I just feel put out. I already have a hard time asking for help because I know that this isn't the most supportive environment (this NICU has incredibly high turnover rate). This just makes me not want to ask at all. These are the type of nurses that throw you under the bus for every little thing. I wanted to stay here for a solid year, but now, I am hoping to just survive for one and leave for a better unit.

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    canoehead and prnqday like this.

    So I literally just got off orientation and I am in a new specialty, so of course I won't be perfect.

    Just got an email from a nurse who cc'd part of management highlighting issues she had coming off after my shift. Nothing dangerous or life threatening. One of the mistakes I made, she made as well.

    I really don't know how to respond other then, "Thanks, but no thanks for throwing me under the bus! And by the way, you made the same error!"

    I was running my ass all night doing a lot that some of the other nurses even admitted that they would pass on to day shift, so I am ticked about this. I know now to avoid this girl who wants to "help" me.

    How should I respond if I at all? I have taken her feedback and all, and emailing me about my errors isn't what bother me, her emailing me and adding management on is what rubs me the wrong way.

    Damn. Out of orientation for a few shifts and I am already being thrown under the bus!

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    cocoa_puff and ICUman like this.

    Technically, it was at an ecf but I quit a few days in. Ha ha!

    Second job was in med-surg. I still work there casually.

    Third job is my dream job: newborn ICU. Love it!

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    ScrappytheCoco and Irish_Mist like this.

    I used to be that nursing student who refused to work nights. But then I realized just how difficult it would be and how many opportunities I would be giving up in order to get a day shift opportunity.

    Pediatrics is a difficult specialty to get into. You would almost certainly be cutting yourself off from it if you refused to work nights (in most of the country, anyway).

    I was offered a bedside position on a day shift unit. However, the organization was a hot mess. Giving day shift positions to new grads is often a red flag that something is amiss. The more desirable jobs will require newbies to put in a minimum of one year on nights before getting onto days.

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    SquishyRN, NutmeggeRN, Farawyn, and 1 other like this.

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    hbgreer and NutmeggeRN like this.

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