Kooky Korky 13,095 Views
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I was blindsided with an admission a couple yrs ago like that. Received a young woman to the floor on night shift, 5 days s/p c-section with preeclampsia. Mind you, this was the ortho floor. (Huh? You can have preeclampsia AFTER baby is delivered? And apparently, our OB dept won't take such a pt after delivery!)
Anyway, her parents & newborn were with her when she came up & as I did the admission. The grandfather mentioned that the baby needed diapers & I stated something to the effect that it was their responsibility as the baby was not a pt (although if it was gonna be a huge issue, I could have been able to get a couple from peds). Grandfather mentioned going to pick up some food & left the floor. Within the next hr or so, pt put on her call light & when I went in, I discovered that grandmother had decided also to leave but baby was still with pt who I had started on a mag drip & was on seizure precautions! Found out her parents were not coming back.
It was near the later part of the shift by that point, 0500, so I notified RN supervisor who felt it would be fine to wait until a later time to call family (though I did explain to pt why it was not a good idea to keep her baby with her without another family member present). Luckily, it was a decent night with a good group of pts; the aide & I stayed near that room, watching like a hawk.
<sigh> ...an experience that makes me hyper-aware when kids are brought up with a parent who is admitted...
You pulled that right out of your butt. It's not what I said or even came close to implying.
There will always be people that don't follow social norms. In sociology, there are different ways to categorize the behavior: Rebellion, Retreatism and Ritualism.
What do you mean, "back then"?? You and several other posters have suggested (repeatedly) on this thread that women may bear some degree of blame for rape by being too attractive, dressing provocatively, being insufficiently "modest" or circumspect in their behavior, etc. It's the same argument. Do you really not get that??
I work at a camp where most if not all of my campers are from the same state where I live and am licensed as an RN.
I have a counselor who has pretty severe asthma. She is from a different state and is asking me if I can give her a bi-weekly injection (new this year). I have no problem doing this, but want to make sure I'm legal about it since the order for the medication will be from her out-of-state physician.
I have tried to look at my state's nurse practice act, but could not find any info specific to my situation.
Can I administer this medication to her as long as I have an order from her doctor?
We have a camp physician, should I have her sign off on this order?
I've never had to deal with this out-of-state stuff before (she had meds last year, but they were self administered).
And you will never understand what I'm talking about. I agree with you on many OTHER threads, but in this one, it seems that we'll never understand one another.
Your stance sort of reminds me of my ex-husband. He used to write checks for whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted without regard to how much money was in the account and without recording his checks. Paying the bills was my responsibility, and in 1986 there was no logging online to check your account balances . . . you either kept track of every check you wrote or you waited until the monthly statement came. One time I wrote checks for rent, utilities, insurance and groceries without realizing that he'd spent ALL the money in our account. Checks were bouncing all over the place. He was in the Air Force, and that was a big deal. I got a call from the Base chaplain, wanting to explain to me what a big deal it was that we had bounced checks, that it would damage my husband's career. He wanted to give me lessons in money management . . . even when I explained what had happened, the chaplain insisted it was MY responsibility. (Perhaps my responsibility but not my fault.) Somehow in the ensuing discussion, it all came tumbling out. My husband had knocked me down the cement stairs of our front stoop before going to work that afternoon, and I was bruised, in pain and crying. The chaplain told me, in what I'm sure he thought were the kindest possible terms, that had I not bounced checks, my husband wouldn't have had to hit me. EXCUSE ME?
Of course word of our "confidential" conversation got back to my husband, and he was enraged. I remember him screaming at me that I had ruined his Air Force career. And my "AHA" moment came right then. "No," I told him. "You ruined your own career when you took a new book of checks from the desk and spent $1000 without telling me even when you knew I was paying the bills (that was a LOT of money in 1986). And if you didn't want anyone to know you beat your wife, you shouldn't have been beating your wife."
Give you credit for applauding my strength and wisdom? Getting out was survival, not wisdom. Very few women in that circumstance are capable of wisdom. I wasn't, anyway. Wisdom comes later. Strength, yes, but even getting out of bed in the morning required huge amounts of strength, not knowing exactly what kind of a mood he was going to be in.
You don't get it. You just don't get it. The only person responsible for the Stanford rape -- or any other rape was the rapist. The only person responsible for domestic abuse is the abuser. And so on. Women don't cause rape, murder or domestic abuse. Predators cause it, and they are skilled at cutting the weakest from the herd, isolating her and attacking her. If it hadn't been me in that abuse situation, it would have been his first wife or his third. It WAS his first wife and his third. If the eloquent Stanford rape victim hadn't been raped, it would have been someone else at that party or maybe the next party he attended. You can't PREVENT rape or domestic violence, murder, stalking, burglary etc. You can do your best to protect yourself, but if someone for some reason has singled you out, they will get you sooner or later. That's on THEM, not on their victim. You still don't seem to understand that.
And now I think I'm done.
This is a social construct. Boys are not genetically predisposed to like blue. Society dictates that boys = blue. And so it happens.
Entirely different. But it is self-destructive, not healing, to forgive someone who is still actively damaging you. If a rapist accepted responsibility for his own action, he wouldn't choose to drag the victim through a year-long trial that slices her open and dissects her in front of the jury.
A person who is truly sorry for something they did that harmed another person will try to make amends, not continue to torture the victim. A person who is truly sorry does not call rape "promiscuity." A person who is sorry they are being punished (oh no, the steak! the swimming! hasn't he suffered enough!) is not truly repentant, but he has so much support in his inner circle he has little reason to examine his actions in the first place.
There is absolutely no reasonable room for doubt regarding the Stanford rapist's refusal to accept responsibility for his crimes.
It has nothing whatsoever to do with biology and everything to do with social constructs. There is absolutely zero biological influence on how people are socialized- the very word socialized means society, not biology.
Or perhaps they thought that, as you have suggested on this thread numerous times, her appearance or actions may have led some man to lose control of his actions and, therefore, what happened to her wasn't really rape and might not really be a crime ...
LOL, I am not REMOTELY angry. Why would I let some anonymous human being on the internet make me angry? I don't give away my power that easily.
I also never said you implied housekeeping HAS to be done by a woman. However, YOU attributed it to biology, and I simply said it has nothing to do with biology, and everything to do with socialization.
Yeah, no. It is actually lose-lose.
I didn't become a nurse - especially an ED nurse - for "job stability." In as much as I didn't become a nurse to treat "customers" instead of "patients."
This is exactly the kind of hokum peddled by un-supportive management to ensure a continuation of ED abuse and over-crowding. A few years ago at my old ED job, management tried to convince ED nursing staff that an establishment of an "Observation Unit" (monitoring admitted, stable Observation patients - usually for chest pain/ r/o ACS) was in our best interests. More "hours posted" for nurses/techs to pick up, hence bigger paycheck etc.
NONE of the nurses/techs 'assigned' the Obs Unit liked working it - for obvious reasons (not all that different from taking care of holds/boarders!)
And let me remind everyone - ED overcrowding is as serious as a heart attack, and can be just as deadly! How many of you would like to bring your Father or Grandmother to the ED with complaint of chest pain and be told to wait in the waiting room? Or let us assume the initial EKG shows an acute MI but the ED is so full (with emergent and 'non-emergent' complaints), the staff has to "create a bed" to accommodate an obvious emergency - would you like the nurse taking care of your Father or Grandmother, to also be responsible for 5 other patients? Or would you prefer that the nurse be able to hand off her patient load momentarily so that s/he can pay undivided attention to your loved one in their hour of crisis?
Or let us even assume that the initial EKG at triage was normal or borderline - how many of you would want the triage nurse to send you back to the waiting room instead of a monitored bed? Be truthful!
I had one a few months ago.
Very young, adult female. Came in by EMS. I triaged her out to the waiting room because I had no open beds. At 0830 in the am. She huffed and certainly appeared offended that she was going to the 'waiting room' even though "I came by ambulance."
As the EMTs were wiping down their stretcher and getting ready to head out, I noticed that their radios were going off constantly. The EMTs looked upset. I leaned over and asked "Y'all ok?"
"No. Not ok. That's the third call out requesting an ambulance to transport a critical patient but nobody in the township or county can respond because we're tied up with BS calls!"
The very young, adult female that came by EMS? Her chief complaint?
Nope, not kidding.
* Have you EVER had to take a "chronic headache patient" and smile about it, when it is the patient's 240th visit in the ED in 2016? For the same "chief complaint"?
The ones who are allergic to everything except Dilaudid and Benadryl/Phenergan? None of which are drugs recommended to treat chronic migraines or headaches?
* The ones who refuse Imitrex (for example) because "it doesn't work. That drug what starts with the D... Dilauntin.... usually helps."
* The ones who occupy a stretcher in the ED with their chronic, non-emergent complaint - while 80 year old gramma lies in withering pain in the waiting room!
Not burned out - but I am certainly very frustrated!
Has anyone reported to the state unsafe care about a facility you work in? What did you report and did you do anonymously? Did any figure out you report? What types of things did you report.
We are mandated to 16.5 hr shifts every pay period right now and our nursing aids can be mandated twice per pay period.
We get in trouble if we call in for the following shift even though it's only 7.5 hrs to get home, shower, eat, sleep, forget trying to spend time with your family.
I wish we could be relieved of that following g shift but we are too short staffed right now.
First, I have never witness a nurse being mean (patronizing, etc.) to a nursing student--even if said student was not up to standard.
It does go both ways. I got to work, got report on my patients. Started the routine of assessing/medicating my patients. A group of students strolled onto the unit at 0755. One came up to me and said "I have Mrs. Smith in room 2" (name changed to protect the innocent). I replied "OK, well she has a history of A fib. She is here after cardioversion." The student replies to me "well, how about a real report." I wanted to tell her "well, that happened an hour ago," but I held my tongue and did give her more of a report. (I don't know about anyone else, but when I was in school, we always arrived before shift change and listened to report...that does not seem to be the standard now.)
Yes, it's a shame that nurses aren't always appropriate in their treatment of students; however, it can be a stressful experience for an overworked nurse to have a student come to him/her and demand that the nurse stop everything to "explain stuff" when other things need to be completed ASAP.
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