Kooky Korky 20,421 Views
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It might sound awful but depending on the type of cancer, it can skyrocket your risk for a DVT. They are also at an increased risk for pneumonia And a lot of pts getting chemo will feel awful every single day. It's better for them to get OOB, walk (if possible) or even get up in the chair helps.
Your example doesn't really apply. One can't access rx medication without the pharmacist (and you might be thinking of RU-486, since the "morning after pill" is available over the counter), but people are entirely capable of praying alone. They might like someone with them (for what, an audience??), but they don't need someone with them in order to be able to pray.
I'm not religious and have no particular belief system but if I have the time and it doesn't involve sacrificing a lamb I would pray to a sun god if a patient requested, a minute of my time goes miles for them. I haven't been asked in a long time, though.
I totally agree with you. Religion makes me so uncomfortable, and before I came upon this post I honestly thought that all nurses would be required to show some kind of spiritual support.
But I guess not.
Perhaps some of the responses I use will assist you in dealing with your needy co-workers, NurseDisneyPrincess:
You see, I had a vasectomy in 1986, before I got married, so I wouldn't have to take time off to watch Little Johnny play ball. Being childless has afforded me the freedom from such superfluous endeavors and has freed those around me from having to enable me to live vicariously through my offspring which would provide me with a delusion of immortality.
You're going to have to shower your baby on a weekday just like everybody else.
Does your employer require you to answer your phone on your scheduled days off? If not, then simply do NOT answer. I'm sure you have a smartphone where you can send them to voicemail or simply block them on your days off and unblock the night before you're due to return. Trust me, they will get the message. Did you get the no weekends or calling you on your days off in writing? If not, then you might have a problem. Never trust what anyone promises or says off the grid. If it is not in writing it quickly becomes non memorable or worse.......true! Good luck
Pt. D/C with foley, give leg bag.
I don't remember the full order since it was done about 3 days ago. I'm off right now.
He sees the doctor in 3 days, he was discharged a couple of days ago. The patient knows how to take care of the Foley.
You are going through the stages of grief. This is not the time to " feel bad for the teammates who get paired with me".
You are in shock, take care of YOURSELF first. You are not escaping reality.. you are taking time to process grieving.
When my mother dropped dead, I was in the shock phase of grief. I knew I would not be able to take care of sick and dying patients. I asked for one month off. Nursing administration denied my request. I quit on the spot. Nurses are humans.. and deserve time to grieve.
I also find it easier to get back into the "normal" swim of things than sit home, especially if I'd be sitting there alone, which might be
your new situation.
I think you would be wise to work if that is how you find some peace, some time away from feeling the severe loss you have suffered.
You might want to get involved with a grief support group or 2 or another type of group that gives you comfort and stamina.
Please don't take this the wrong way. But don't expect everyone to be in your corner, though, or for more than a fairly brief period.
America, where I assume you are, is not the most enlightened place when it comes to allowing people time to grieve, or, for example,
40 days to primarily rest after childbirth the way some cultures seem to do. It seems we expect of ourselves and our fellows that we take
a very brief time and then bounce back. Most employers give 3 days off for bereavement or maybe 5 if you have to travel out of state.
Many places do likely give longer if you ask.
When my loved one died, people were sympathetic for a couple of weeks. Then my boss told me I needed to "come back",
meaning mentally and emotionally, as I had already returned to work physically. It was quite a slap in the face, but she was right. Hurtful though her words
were - yes, she could have been kinder about her way of saying it - I did realize that I could be sad for 16 hours per day and only had to
be "normal" for 8. And that has been my way ever since.
You will go through many and maybe varied emotions over the next weeks, months, years. Sad, angry, scared, indecisive, joyful, grateful
for the good years you had together and the many memories you made together, both happy and otherwise, etc.
You don't need permission to grieve in your own way. In time, you might want to make changes - move, meet new people, have a
social life again, write about your experience, do volunteering, travel, revise your house, etc. - but do it all in your own way, your own time.
Don't talk a whole lot about it at work, even though people are nice. It is still the workplace. I'm not saying it to be cruel, just relating
what I have experienced, both as the grieving person and the coworker. They all do still have their own problems, they still have work
to do. I think it's cruel how life seems to just go on no matter what devastation we suffer. But it definitely does. And I needed to not talk
about it myself all the time. I needed work to be comfortable, as it had been before and so did they. And it's fine to let people know that you do
realize that everyone has their own hurts and that you want to be there for them and want to help them, just as they are there for you.
Also, it is not unusual for people to go back to work but find they need more time off after a while. If you do need it, don't feel badly. I think
most people, including your boss, want to help, they just might need you to say what you need.
God bless you and comfort you, give you strength and peace. Thank you for sharing here.
It didn't say for him to remove foley until he sees the urologist to help examine the urine.
Try using an automatic dialer. It will keep re-dialing the number for you. Good luck.
Maybe you could get your California state Congressmen/women and Senators involved. They need to know how miserable people find dealing with this agency. They need to know that Consumer Affairs is not doing a good job of regulating the BON, too.
It really is outrageous that the people who determine your ability to keep your job, earn money to feed your family, and pay your mortgage are just somehow not doing a smooth job. What are the real reasons for this? Too few staff? Disorganization? Punitive action because the staff are in a bad mood and misuse their power? Other?
My patients never got to pick when they slept. We made them wake up and eat (if they weren't npo- and some of them were- for weeks if not months), walk, and work with PT and OT. They had to be sitting in the chair by the time the doctors rounded. If they were perceived as sluggish their sheets got taken away and their bed not remade until they were allowed a brief afternoon nap. Keep in mind these were cancer patients that felt miserable. We also didn't cater to their every whim. They were encouraged to fetch their own snacks and such. They were like prisoners, without the hour of yard time a day or the ability to socialize with the other "prisoners" (too much infection risk). And this is how many of them spent the final months of their lives. So no, I wasn't envious.
I can sleep in and color on my four days off a week if I want. And eat what I want. Socialize. And go outside.
Just to be fair and hear the other side of this issue is to recognize that the staffing coord or nsg supervisor is being EXPECTED to make the calls from the higher PTB. So that person has little choice except to make the call. I've been THAT person many times.
Also there is no real effective way to keep track of any previous calls made. So again, calls are made.
And yes, I have made phone calls to folk on vacation. My error and I apologize. But there could be worse things to happen.
Just don't answer the phone or let technology handle the call.
One thing that disturbs me about all the "person vital sign" equipment is who ensures they are in working order? Calibrated? Up to industry standards? Not worn down from years of repeated use, which home equipment is not designed for? I get that many people have their own stethoscopes, but an automated blood pressure machine is a different beast.
Be honest--do you ever the patients you take care of, even just a little bit?
It probably sounds wrong, but I often do envy the patients I take care of. Ultimately, they get to choose their schedule their way. If they want to sleep in, they can. If they want to stay up all night, that's their choice, too. They don't have to wake up to any responsibilities. They can sit around and watch TV all day, read, color, or pretty much whatever they like. They're able to order around staff members and can get upset when things aren't just the way they want, and get away with it. However, if I were to start demanding things from others...well, you can guess how well that would go. I wish I could have a call light to press every time I needed every single little thing. One patient stays in bed all day and all night, except when she goes to the bathroom; as someone who loves to sleep, I would totally love to have that life. Instead, I get to work two jobs and some nights get barely 5 hours of sleep while they do basically nothing all day and have all the time in the world to sleep.
Is there any way to speed up my life so I can finally reach the age where I get to sleep all day, lol?
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