Kooky Korky 13,725 Views
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"It's not hard to be a nurse." Do you even read these forums? Ever go on the student forum and see the threads asking for help? Ever venture into the NCLEX forum and see the "I failed the NCLEX I feel so bad" threads? How about the threads on the general nursing tab that talks about the emotional and physical toll this job has.
Reading comprehension...not everyone has it.
If you're not a nurse, don't say you are.
It's a recurring theme because some posters do not know that 'nurse' is a legally protected title and some do not read allnurses terms of service before agreeing to them.
Right. A state senator is going to take the time to get a BON employee fired because a nurse claims that person was "rude."
Write the incident up after to speaking with the physician privately about the behavior. One rude incident, I let that go. If it continues, I file an incident report. If that is ignored, go to HR. MD's are supposed to be colleagues and rude abusive behavior creates a hostile work environment and that becomes problematic over time. I have zero tolerance for that anymore.
However, before doing all that I will speak with the MD privately about it. I give the person an opportunity to change the behavior.
I'm fortunate to work at facilities who don't tolerate this.
And don't hesitate to look that provider square in the eye and quietly say, "Don't. EVER. Speak. To. Me. Like. That. Again."
A BMT unit is a difficult start for a new grad. You should expect a 3 month thorough orientation on the day shift... with specific achievement goals outlined.. and addressed on a weekly basis.
"telling them everything that has happened and that I wasn't happy with working with her ". ..made it a personal problem for the preceptors.
Your preceptors , nursing education,and management failed YOU. I am thinking they needed a body "stat" to fill a position.
Consider leaving this fiasco off of your resume. You don't need to give up on nursing.. pay the bills with the HH job and consider it a do- over .. with a lesson well earned.
Best of luck.. you can do this
I used to work with a nurse and I could tell if she and her bedmate of the week were getting along by the way she put her bag down. Working with her taught me to let people keep their crazy to themselves. I do my job and ignore the rest.
Depends on how you feel. Do you feel like a 56 years old? Do you move slow and immobile? If you are still active and you like to stay active, no age is too old. I am 48 but I feel like 25. People say I look like in 30. I am planning on going back to school to get my nurse practitioner degree. I have been a nurse for 11 years. It is not easy to be a nurse, if you can pick some easier specialty to go into, it will be much better for your body. The 1st year is the hardest because you need to get experience in the hospital but it will get better. Once you get your foot in, you will be fine. Believe me, you can do it if you put your mind into it.
Have to say I disagree with your take on the situation. Maybe the oncoming nurse could have been nicer about it, but I definitely want some sort of history to give context to a baby I'm getting report on, and definitely something more than "preterm labor" (I assume that's what PTL stands for, haven't heard that particular abbreviation before). Name and parents' names are nice, but they don't tell me whether I'm getting a 25-weeker with a PDA whose sats swing all over the place, versus a 33-weeker who should be more stable and lots of FiO2 changes indicates a potential issue (so you see how history is useful to know before you jump into the ventilatory settings).
Last night I had a nurse act rudely to me and she had literally JUST MET me. It gave me a visceral reaction towards her from way back when I was a new grad, and worked with this horrible nurse (she really was...on so many levels) who was rude and nasty to me, and I found myself immediately equating this nurse with that older one. In my head, though, I was able to stop myself dead in my tracks and think. There are days when I am, quite frankly, a you-know-what. I have been. I am not at the top of my manners game (although I really do bend over backwards to try to be), and I have been snippy with my coworkers. Once I was downright mean (I apologized to her about 20 minutes later after I collected myself). When that happens, it's usually because something peripherally is going on that is getting under my skin (we're human, sometimes the extraneous stuff affects our mood, professionals or not). When I started to think along these lines, I decided that this nurse probably had something else going on that I wasn't aware of, and that was the reason for her behavior. Sure enough, not 2 minutes later, she said apologized and said she was having some health problems.
It doesn't excuse rudeness, no, but it does help to temper your reaction and maybe help you to step back a bit and kind of reign in your own emotional response. I know that inside, I can flare up like gasoline thrown on a fire when someone is rude to me, and have had to make a conscious effort to work with myself inside my head to remember that it's not always personal and that most of the time, someone behaving rudely is about something I don't even know about and can't control. When I am able to remember that, it helps me to soften my own reaction and calm myself, which is really important not only for communication, but for my OWN stress levels.
Now, don't get me wrong, I do realize that yeah, some people are just jerks. Either way, though, if you can remain calm and not take their behavior personally, it really will help your own stress levels. I still internalize a lot of people's negative behavior towards me, and have to really WORK at getting to the point where I am able to realize that their nastiness is not a commentary on my own worth as a person or a nurse, and let it go. It's so hard, and I'm not great at it, but I'm getting there. It does help, though.
While I do not have all of the answers I strongly disagree with pain is whatever the patient says it is. It might work if the patients were not aware of the rule. When you are sucking down a big mac meal and playing candy crush chuckling with your visitors, you do not need a phenergan shot for severe nausea and your pain is NOT a 10/10.
I agree that addiction to legal narcotics is a huge problem in this country. That said, having been a nurse for many years I have seen many trends come and go. For awhile the trend was "Pain is the fifth vital sign and MUST be treated immediately." Currently, the "flavor of the month" is that everyone prescribed narcotics is or will become an addict. This too will pass, but I wonder how many folks will suffer in pain until the pendulum swings back the other direction. We've seen the same phenomena in other areas as well. When my children were born, (30 years ago), new parents were told babies MUST unequivocally be laid to sleep on their stomachs, lest they suffer SIDS. My grandchildren's parents are being told the EXACT OPPOSITE. A baby must never sleep on their stomach because it CAUSES crib death. Again, the flavor of the month. Please don't site any research studies in reply. You can find a research study to support any opinion you personally hold, and I don't care. My point is, nothing is black and white. Yes, addiction happens with prescription drugs. Untreated pain also happens. I guess I'd prefer to err on the side of compassion rather than accusation. Just my personal opinion. Nothing more.
I did not take an oath, and I did not go into nursing for altruistic reasons. I wanted to make good money with a 2 year degree.
"is that why we can't get too much work cause majority of the hospital / nursing facility is out of budget"???? The reason nurses have trouble finding work is because corporate healthcare has ignored safe staffing ratios .. in order to boost their bottom line. More patients per nurse equals less need for nurses. Where are ethics when the fat cats at the top continue to rake in outrageous salaries and bonuses, while the nurses are stretched thinner?
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I had an instructor who acted this way and it started out as small little things that eventually built into bigger issues. He ended up pinning me against the wall one day stating, "how about I show you what sexual harassment is..." I was fed up. I was loud. And made it very clear that he had absolutely no chance. From then on, he'd see me avoid him and knew I meant it. Administration found out from a couple other students what was going on. He ended up getting fired.
Point being, yours is probably not the only complaint. The more complaints he receives, the worse off he is. He is becoming a HUGE liability to the hospital. And as a nurse, you have jobs waiting for you. I can easily get you into a position where I'm at. You can find a pro-bono attorney for this.
Also, what happened to the use of cell phones to prove this behavior??? I'd have one ready to record every time he came near me. Then bring that ammo to HR so they can't possibly ignore. And if they do... well, social media can be a blessing for you.
Good luck. I hope this gives you hope.
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