Been there,done that 40,491 Views
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Since he's a neighbor (as opposed to someone you're obligated to take care of), I guess if that statement and his overall demeanor bothered me that much, we just wouldn't associate. If you felt like you had to say something, maybe a, "Oh, what do you mean?" with a little head tilt would give him pause. He may very well have meant nothing by it, though.
When I'm taking care of patients who make inappropriate commentary or physical contact, I am very straightforward: "That's not acceptable." Our taking care of patients doesn't mean they're allowed to harass us or make us uncomfortable. That being said, I don't think the grand majority of patients "fantasize" about being given a sponge bath. Most, in my experience, are more frustrated and embarrassed with the lack of independence. I won't lie and say I've never had a patient act inappropriately toward me, but it's pretty rare, maybe monthly. I currently work on a psych floor, so your mileage may vary.
If a patient is capable of moving his arms and hands at all, they can probably at least wash their own private areas, even if they are bedbound. I hand them a soapy washcloth and ask them to finish cleaning while I change the bathwater or some other task.
I've never been in a situation where I've been asked to care for an acquaintance, but I would ask to trade assignments with another nurse. It's usually more comfortable for the patient, I feel like, although some people are genuinely happy to have someone they know take care of them.
And just another thought-this strengths and weaknesses thing should have been done during an individual student assessment review. Openly stating that your lack of eye contact makes you 'unprepared' or telling another student 'she is the smartest student in the class' in front of all the other students is just plain unprofessional and awkward for the one receiving the comments, good or bad.
What is the pay/hours for the home health job? I wouldn't work for $16/hr unless I was a professional mattress tester.
No words, just lots & lots of *hugs*
You were so brave, you did so well, you did such a good job. I'm so sorry you had to witness such suffering and tragedy. You did nothing wrong, there was nothing more you could have done, and your clinical brain knows this. You did everything you could have done. ((hug)) Please update us when you can and please, care for yourself in the meantime. Speak to a counselor if you need to.
I'm so sorry.
No matter how horrible this ends, you gave them a moment of not feeling completely helpless and alone during a time of terror.
Wishing you peace.
You did a great job. It's now out of your hands.
On the one hand, I'm sorry you had to go through that, but on the other, I'm glad you were there for them.
This is not Facebook. This is a forum for nursing professionals. If you cannot act professional, please go elsewhere.
Nobody is forcing you to come here. If you don't want to be on this forum, you don't have to be deleted. You just have to not show up. No need for the drama of "goodbye cruel Nursing bulletin board".
I've worked for Magnet facilities and non-Magnet facilities. The difference? The Magnet facilities are prettier hospitals and tell you constantly they're magnet facilities.
You just had a baby. Of course you're exhausted. Give yourself some time.
Address her lack of professionalism in a written counseling. Stress that her behavior was detrimental to the emotional well-being of the patient. Get straight on the policy with your supervisor.
I did very little skills in school. Here's a secret, we don't make beds that way!!! I still have issues with the feet on wheelchairs. I suck at IV sticks. You know when I'm happy? When I see what's going on with my patient and they are alive at the end of my shift. Those "skills" you speak of can be learned by pretty much anyone.
The skills you want are to see what is going on with your patient and respond before it happens. That comes with years of experience.
I graduated Magna Cum Laude from an ASN program. I could not nurse my way out of a wet paper bag for 2 years. I turned out okay!
Your degree will certify to apply for nursing licensure. Now you get a job ...and start applying your knowledge. You already have CNA skills, taking a course would be a waste of time.
Your first course of action as a registered nurse, will be to delegate to the CNA's. NEVER let them see you sweat.
"I couldn't even get a wheelchair open the other day! I feel like a fool. "
Been there, done that. 35 years later.. I still can't get those suckers open.
Have a little faith in yourself. Let us know how it's going.
You need more staff, it sounds like.
That's the only "team building" that will likely help.
Is your unit looking to hire more nurses?
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