Something has been bothering me for quite some time on this forum and I have not known exactly what it was. Well I figured it out and y'all may not like it.
So often when reading posts on the Men in Nursing or Male Nursing Student sections I feel like I am part of one of the most homophobic systems I have been a part of since I left the US Navy.
If I read one more post in which the man feels he must refer to himself as "Normal", "Married", "not one of them", "Real Man" etc. [not kidding, direct quotes] I am going to scream.
You can say it STUD, we get it, you are straight and we're damn glad for you. [better you than me]
One question I want to ask you students is just how the hell do you know for sure which of the guys in your class are "abNormal", "unMarried", "one of them", "not a Real Man" etc. have your instructors had everyone disclose their sexual orientation during introductions? I have seen pretty well adjusted men turn up the testosterone so far when in the presence of a known gay man that they loose all sense and become flaming A**HOLES to prove that they are not "one of them". Not a way to become part of the team sparky.
Let me give all you Normal, Married, Real Men a reality check. The cold hard truth is that there are gay men in nursing. Thank goodness nursing has been a profession that really didn't care one way or the other as long as you were a good nurse. Unfortunately the schools
and media in an effort to make sure everyone knows all male nurses aren't gay [Are you man enough campaign?] that it feels like we are being pushed back into the closet.
Last piece of advice and I will shut up. DO NOT ASSUME. I assure you when you meet me you will not
know that I am gay; I love NASCAR, Rodeo, Horses, Motorcycles, camping, just like a real man. The only difference is that my SO is a man. The one stereotype I will admit to here is I can be one vindictive ***** and I will not be receptive to your good ole boy jokes or you making sure I know you are not "one of them".
So yes there are more and more men entering nursing which is a great thing, but like any change their will be growing pains, we need to identify them, not sweep them under the rug and hope they go away.
Nov 24, '10
I've posted in some of these threads, so if my use of the word normal seems to imply that being homosexual is abnormal then it was poor wording on my part. Sorry.
But I don't think that me mentioning that I am married and normal is any sort of slight on anybody else and I don't think is a roundabout way of saying I'm straight. All it is saying is that I am married and normal. I don't care who is sleeping with whom. When I say that someone is normal then I mean they aren't running through traffic with no pants on.
On another note: Really? NASCAR?
Last edit by cjar107013 on Nov 24, '10
: Reason: spelling