Male OB Frustration - page 2

I'm currently in my OB rotation for clinicals and lecture. The first two days of clinical I was in L&D and I had an awesome experience (witnessed a couple deliveries, worked with the fetal monitor,... Read More

  1. Visit  MursingMedic profile page
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    I just finished my OB rotation as well and like many others have mentioned, it was much better than I was expecting. If there wasn't such a stigma with males working OB, I think I could really enjoy doing it. There's just enough excitement to keep my medic adrenaline fix going, but enough "routine" where you can keep focused on improving just this one skill set.

    With all that being said, we all discussed this topic at the end of our OB rotation and came to the conclusion that it is the nurse who usually has the issue with the male student and goes out of their way to ensure that EVERYONE in the patient's room knows that you are a male, and that the patient has every right to deny our presence.

    For instance, many nurses in my OB rotation would go in ahead of me and inform the patient that she (the nurse) had a male student and would say something to the effect of "I have a male student nurse, would you mind he watch, or would that make you feel uncomfortable?"

    In medic school however, I did my OB clinicals in a very large metro OB hospital where they were more in tune with the male student. They would take us in the room and say something like "This is Joe, my student for the day, he will be with me and if there is anything you need, let one of us know."

    You tell me which clinical I had more success with.

    To the OP, it sucks that you had that experience, but at least you can reflect on your days in OB and say that you only had one day that wasn't up to par.
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  3. Visit  lrobinson5 profile page
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    You should definitely talk to your clinical instructor. Try and get the same set up as you did on the first day. You should be allowed to participate in clinical just like your female cohorts.
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  4. Visit  MumblesMahoney profile page
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    I feel ya, brother.

    When I first started school, I thought that I would really like to pursue OB as a specialty. First term, we did a half shift called the "OB experience."

    When I asked the nurses there what kind of opportunities there were for guys to work in OB, they basically made me feel like I must be some kind of pervert for even considering the idea. When I asked were the best opportunities for men in nursing were, I was told that the best fit for men was in the OR.

    Based on this experience, I reached the conclusion that I will continue to try to focus on learning OB. I will learn all I can and if ever in my career I get the chance to work on an OB unit I will take it. But I am not going to rely on it.
  5. Visit  That Guy profile page
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    Thats funny because all the Gynos at my hospital are males. I wonder why its ok for male doctors to be there but male nurses its not ok
  6. Visit  cpl_dvldog profile page
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    My OB rotation was a total waste of time. My first two days were spent changing sheets and passing out food trays. After the second day I talked to my instructor and was told not to worry about it because I would most likely never get a job in L&D anyway. I told her in that case they should send the males to do ER or OR clinicals instead of OB. She said they have to send us since we will be tested on OB. I then asked how can it be ok to test me on something the school is not making sure I get any hands on experience doing? Needless to say that instructor didn't say much to me the rest of the semester.
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  7. Visit  workingharder profile page
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    People are funny. When I did my OB rotation I had no problems with the younger nurses. They seemed genuinely eager to assist me with my clinicals. A few of the older nurses however, while not hostile , did leave me with the feeling that this was their holy sanctum and that I was some barbarian intruding on it.
    Also, while most patients are accommodating to having male nurses present, in one of my clinicals there were all of two women there for deliveries. Both of them were Muslim. Needless to say, I spent that day standing in the hallway reading literature.
    You just need to smile and plod on through it.
  8. Visit  ORTech2RN profile page
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    Honestly, you couldn't pay me to do an OB rotation again. I really didn't get much out of it-other than make beds, feed babies, administer Hep vaccines to infants. You get the picture. The two patient I had in L&D weren't comfortable with me there. The patients in Post partum seemed ok, but I could tell that Dads weren't as keen on having a male student in there. Nursery was ok, but definitely not my cup of tea. I have a daughter myself, and I still can't master the art of wrapping one of those babies up! I spent most of my time trying to rewrap than assess, LOL. As for working in OB-no way, no how. Might as well lump Peds in there as well. I'll take ER, CCU or Psych anytime.
  9. Visit  2ndyearstudent profile page
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    Yo, congratulations! None of the guys in my class even stepped foot on the L&D floor during our OB rotation!
  10. Visit  sooperdooper profile page
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    Quote from IKnowYouRider
    I'm currently in my OB rotation for clinicals and lecture. The first two days of clinical I was in L&D and I had an awesome experience (witnessed a couple deliveries, worked with the fetal monitor, started foleys/IVs). The apprehension and disinterest that preceded going into the semester started to fade and I was beginning to really enjoy the clincal experience.

    That's why yesterday hit me by surprise. I was in the post-partum unit and the nurse I was assigned to was SO awkward about everything. She didn't want me to check the fundus (with or without her being in the room), she didn't feel I should be in the room while she gave an IM injection of Depo in the upper thigh (which I'm more than capable of doing), and she even excused me from the room when teaching the patient discharge instructions (like lochia color, amount, etc.).

    This frustrates me even more knowing that I've been working as a nurse tech for 6 months now while in school and I give female clients baths, and insert caths almost every shift.

    I understand that this was only one day, and the only thing that's been damaged is my pride and ego, but its hard not to feel embarassed/belittled by the situation.

    If anything, this is just a rant like most posts on here and I'll be appreciative of even one comment! =-)

    Peace,

    Dave
    I feel your pain, but you experienced much more than I did... I spent quite a bit of time during L&D in the nursery, neonatal, library, etc. areas... it didnt bother me too much though because I figured it would happen. Nonetheless, I am now a RN and just starting the application cycle to new grad programs!
  11. Visit  samirish profile page
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    Im sorry you are having the frustration you are, howeve as a woman (if I was having a baby) I would NOT want you in the room while discussing lochia color. And I certainly would NOT want you checking my fundus!! It would make me feel just icky, self conscious and very uncomfortable when Im already not feeling my "best". The patients in OB may be exhausted, overwhelmed and feeling vulnerable. Its not about you, its about them. Please keep their feelings and needs in mind.
    While you may feel the nurse you were with was "awkward", I'm betting she was just trying to protect her patients well being by providing a safe and supporting environment.

    I really don't feel Im saying anything you shouldn't aready know...
  12. Visit  stefanyjoy profile page
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    A couple years ago, I had to go to the ER for severe cramping and other reasons. I ended up having to get a foley for whatever reason, and the ER nurse asked me if it was okay if a male nursing student observed her instructing 2 female nursing students to put in the foley. I always say yes when they ask to let students watch. I figure I am not the first naked patient they have seen and I won't be the last.

    So, fast forward a few minutes... the student nurses are having a hard time locating my urethra, and the ER nurse is trying to direct them. The male nurse, quiet and just watching up until this point, smiles at me and exclaims "Wow! You have such a strange anatomy!" .........

    That ER nurse was so PO'd! She said, "XXX, will you help me find a tube..." and rushed him out of there and he didn't come back.

    I started to cry until the ER nurse told me about how every lady is different, etc. Or maybe that's what they tell the freaky anatomy girls like me, I haven't started NS yet

    Anyway, so unfortunately I can't let the guys look at my ladyparts anymore. Sorry fellas
  13. Visit  That Guy profile page
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    Quote from samirish
    Im sorry you are having the frustration you are, howeve as a woman (if I was having a baby) I would NOT want you in the room while discussing lochia color. And I certainly would NOT want you checking my fundus!! It would make me feel just icky, self conscious and very uncomfortable when Im already not feeling my "best". The patients in OB may be exhausted, overwhelmed and feeling vulnerable. Its not about you, its about them. Please keep their feelings and needs in mind.
    While you may feel the nurse you were with was "awkward", I'm betting she was just trying to protect her patients well being by providing a safe and supporting environment.

    I really don't feel Im saying anything you shouldn't aready know...
    Oh give me a break. This is the kind of thinking that keeps guys from going in more and more. I had to do all those "icky" things you said on my pts and you know what, it was no big deal. It is a simple question and a simple palpation. The stigma surrounding what you are doing is hyped way too much.
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  14. Visit  Trenia profile page
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    Quote from stefanyjoy
    A couple years ago, I had to go to the ER for severe cramping and other reasons. I ended up having to get a foley for whatever reason, and the ER nurse asked me if it was okay if a male nursing student observed her instructing 2 female nursing students to put in the foley. I always say yes when they ask to let students watch. I figure I am not the first naked patient they have seen and I won't be the last.

    So, fast forward a few minutes... the student nurses are having a hard time locating my urethra, and the ER nurse is trying to direct them. The male nurse, quiet and just watching up until this point, smiles at me and exclaims "Wow! You have such a strange anatomy!" .........

    That ER nurse was so PO'd! She said, "XXX, will you help me find a tube..." and rushed him out of there and he didn't come back.

    I started to cry until the ER nurse told me about how every lady is different, etc. Or maybe that's what they tell the freaky anatomy girls like me, I haven't started NS yet

    Anyway, so unfortunately I can't let the guys look at my ladyparts anymore. Sorry fellas
    I can't understand that situation, so I won't pretend like I can. But that just seems like an isolated incident that any naive nursing student could have said, male or female. I don't think it's fair to punish all male NS for one person's mistake. Reversing the roles, I imagine I would have been a little uncomfortable had a female NS said something like that to me. I don't think I'd give up on all female NS though, as if we had a choice lol. I hope not at least.
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