ok so this reply is late. I have been reading and studying and testing and.. and...
ok that out of the way, let me address the cause for my post. I have had issues with 3 of my instructors so far at my school. I'm in an ADN program in NC. It was fairly easy for me in a situation wherein I felt embarrassed and insulted and thus defensive in class to assume first off that my sexual orientation was the issue. I too am open about things. In the same vein that one can never assume that a person who works in a field where they have contact with people like me, must be accepting and understanding I can not automatically assume that her apparent hatred or dislike for me is based on this. My partner, who graduated from this program some time ago talked with me about it and told me that what I should concentrate on is that the difficulty of the program is designed to break you down. not to build you back up in the end, but to see what you are made of and where your breaking points are, because when we graduate they will place a patient's life in our hands and they need to know that we can handle it. An extreme example, sure, but a true one I think. I was told by one instructor last semester that she didn't feel that men had a place in nursing and she didn't like that the field was open to us. I am terrified of my OB rotation this summer because of this. I think a lot of places see that as the last bastion of all female nursing. what place does a Y chromosome have in that environment? The answer to that for me is that it doesn't matter, because I will be there as I am required to be, and I will perform my student duty. To learn, to retain, and to learn some more.
I just decided that wether the dislike I was perceiving from my instructor was due to my genetic makeup, and all that that entails, or my hair color, that they don't have to like me to grade my paperwork and tests according to my performance. And whatever they tell me to do, and in whatever tone, that what I want is to be a nurse and I will do whatever it takes to graduate this program, pass my NCLEX, get a job and move on to higher ground.
So hang in there, whatever the reason, if they aren't failing you unfairly, or singling you out without a reason on a very regular basis to embarrass you in front of your classmates, etc. just hang in there til it's done.