A "dating female students in your class" post - page 2

by Jedi of Zen

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Well, having just completed my 1st semester of the nursing program, I have found that as a single guy, you are really in (at times) a very weird catch-22 being in a female-dominated student body. Although I definitely do not... Read More


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    Wow, that sounds crazy! I like my "only man on a beach full of women" metaphor even better now

    You get started with one of those girls and it's like dominos.. I imagine the stress on the female side is harder, but even the wanted distractions from a guy's point of view could be harmful.

    Do you two ladies find that it's the younger girls that get in trouble the most or is it pretty spread out?

    For me it's RN first, girls second. No offense to present company, but no woman's hot enough to make up for having to drop out of a program that is as hard to get into as nursing...
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    Quote from GilbertDaddy
    Wow, that sounds crazy! I like my "only man on a beach full of women" metaphor even better now

    Do you two ladies find that it's the younger girls that get in trouble the most or is it pretty spread out?

    .

    YES! I am 35 and have been married almost 17 years of that 35. I notice that the younguns' between 20-25 are the "throat cutters." This age group seems to be more emotional and more apt to let air out of someones tires so they won't make it to clinicals, yes that happened a few weeks ago. It is the whole if I can't have him no one in the class will mentality and the pot gets so stirred they cannot see they are screwing up their nursing career for what? Now, I have seen some pretty lame older ladies act 15 when it comes to being jealous but these younger girls fight with their claws out. The guy I mentioned above, his latest "victim", girl numb 3 or 4 had her nursing books mysteriously disappear during lunch break, mind you our books cost us almost 800 for this semester, only to have the janitor come with a rolling trash can with the bag inside and some foreign sticky, wet, nasty, stuff dumped in mass amounts onto those books. All hell broke loose. Of course now the WHOLE class is in on the drama that is unfolding, takes almost 2 hours from class trying to figure out who dun it. We women can be the most loving, kind, wonderful people, but we can be the most vindictive, nasty, mean, bad for business people you ever wanna be on the bad side of.

    BEST advice, date someone OUTSIDE your class. Leave the drama for the soap operas on TV.
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    Quote from GilbertDaddy
    Wow, that sounds crazy! I like my "only man on a beach full of women" metaphor even better now

    You get started with one of those girls and it's like dominos.. I imagine the stress on the female side is harder, but even the wanted distractions from a guy's point of view could be harmful.

    Do you two ladies find that it's the younger girls that get in trouble the most or is it pretty spread out?

    For me it's RN first, girls second. No offense to present company, but no woman's hot enough to make up for having to drop out of a program that is as hard to get into as nursing...
    yes! i like how you think. get that education! thats what im saying.. its hard enough to take pre-reqs, then apply and get accepted, and pay for a nursing program, work, study and keep your grades up... why would you lose all that for a hook up???

    anyways, most of the girls were in their early 20's, but his latest one is 35. i think hes very close to 40, if not 40 already.

    you sound like you are very focused on becoming a nurse! male nurses are very special people (im engaged to one, lol). good luck to you, gilbert!! dont lose sight of that lottery ticket
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    Quote from nurz2be
    YES! I am 35 and have been married almost 17 years of that 35. I notice that the younguns' between 20-25 are the "throat cutters." This age group seems to be more emotional and more apt to let air out of someones tires so they won't make it to clinicals, yes that happened a few weeks ago. It is the whole if I can't have him no one in the class will mentality and the pot gets so stirred they cannot see they are screwing up their nursing career for what? Now, I have seen some pretty lame older ladies act 15 when it comes to being jealous but these younger girls fight with their claws out. The guy I mentioned above, his latest "victim", girl numb 3 or 4 had her nursing books mysteriously disappear during lunch break, mind you our books cost us almost 800 for this semester, only to have the janitor come with a rolling trash can with the bag inside and some foreign sticky, wet, nasty, stuff dumped in mass amounts onto those books. All hell broke loose. Of course now the WHOLE class is in on the drama that is unfolding, takes almost 2 hours from class trying to figure out who dun it. We women can be the most loving, kind, wonderful people, but we can be the most vindictive, nasty, mean, bad for business people you ever wanna be on the bad side of.

    BEST advice, date someone OUTSIDE your class. Leave the drama for the soap operas on TV.

    Jeeez.

    See that's the other part.. there's no saying either, that the guy won't reap some of that suffering. I don't have the time nor money to afford slashed tires, broken windows, vandalism, etc.

    I'd hate to be on the way to pick up my kids or drive to work and find an ex did something crazy

    Some really interesting stories!
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    Quote from allison2008
    yes! i like how you think. get that education! thats what im saying.. its hard enough to take pre-reqs, then apply and get accepted, and pay for a nursing program, work, study and keep your grades up... why would you lose all that for a hook up???

    anyways, most of the girls were in their early 20's, but his latest one is 35. i think hes very close to 40, if not 40 already.

    you sound like you are very focused on becoming a nurse! male nurses are very special people (im engaged to one, lol). good luck to you, gilbert!! dont lose sight of that lottery ticket

    Thanks!

    I don't plan to. It's hard enough finding a way to still work full time, take care of the kids by myself, AND fit in nursing studies. The sad truth is a man in my situation already doesn't have time for dating... don't see that changing when more schoolwork gets heaped on lol.

    I'm geeked about it. I've been blessed with a great life and career options and it still feels great to give it all up to make a little less doing nursing. Shift differentials and picking up an extra shift would probably make up for it pretty easy, but getting to bring a smile to folks that are laid up in a boring hospital all day are the real inspiration. Sitting in front of a monitor all day and never interacting with anyone loses it's charm after a few years Building something your company uses and something that saves people time and makes their life easier _IS_ rewarding.. but it's thankless at times and personally I'd love to be around kids. If I felt I could provide for and had the time to be around for more kids, I'd have more than 2 in a second. I have a vasect so that won't be happening, but it doesn't mean I can't work in a children's unit. Those little dudes and dudettes are just so full of potential it's awesome.

    Maybe I'll just have to get used to saying, "I'm gay - leave me alone" a lot..
    Last edit by GilbertDaddy on Dec 22, '07
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    Quote from GilbertDaddy
    Maybe I'll just have to get used to saying, "I'm gay - leave me alone" a lot..

    Read some of the older threads on this forum and you'll think twice about that one...:uhoh21:
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    Quote from SteveRN21
    Read some of the older threads on this forum and you'll think twice about that one...:uhoh21:

    Haha that made my day :trout: Now that I think about it, my friend who's gay is cattier than any of the women I know.. Oh well lol, I guess I'll just tough it out :chuckle
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    There were a few guys in my nursing school class. To be quite frank, I never remember seeing or hearing about any of them having relationships with any of the other students. I remember two of the males were asked to leave the program. I think our male students were too busy with their school work to bother with the dating scene. But for all I know, they might have been seeing someone not in nursing school. Don't let your social life interfere with your work. You don't want to miss the boat and then look back and see that you mistakenly spent too much energy on your girl friend(s). It isn't worth it, unless of course, you find the love of your life in nursing school.
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    Quote from caliotter3
    There were a few guys in my nursing school class. To be quite frank, I never remember seeing or hearing about any of them having relationships with any of the other students. I remember two of the males were asked to leave the program. I think our male students were too busy with their school work to bother with the dating scene. But for all I know, they might have been seeing someone not in nursing school. Don't let your social life interfere with your work. You don't want to miss the boat and then look back and see that you mistakenly spent too much energy on your girl friend(s). It isn't worth it, unless of course, you find the love of your life in nursing school.

    There's a good quote about pooping where you eat. Sometimes it's definitely better to keep the two separate for good reason Just because you CAN poop on your dinner plate, doesn't mean it's appropriate to do that. Or that the repercussions of your actions won't end up hurting you down the line
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    I agree with you Gilbert. It's like dating in the workplace. When things get unpleasant, they can get very unpleasant. Better to try to avoid this.


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