People being spiteful about grades?

  1. 0 Hello everyone! I'm making this topic to ask for some advice, please I hope it's in the right category. I'm currently taking my pre req's for an lpn-rn program. More specifically, I'm taking A&P. And I've noticed some negative behavior about our tests....let me explain some more. Our instructor curves our tests. The way he curves it depends on the person with the highest grade in class. For example, if the highest grade is a 90, that person gets 10 points to make a 100, and everyone else gets 10 points also. But if the highest grade is a 98, everyone only gets 2 points. Hopefully that makes sense! Well we took our first test a couple of weeks ago, and I made the highest grade in the class. A small curve was added to everyone. I don't tell my grades without someone asking, but of course, a close friend of mine asked and I told her. So now everyone knows I made the high grade. I didn't think there was any problems at first...but now it seems there is some bitterness from some classmates. Our teacher told us on the first day of class that we shouldn't rely on the curve because there is always one person who does really well. So its not like it was a surprise or anything...we took our second test last week, but before the test, there were some people talking about "finding out" who makes the highest grade and "chewing them out for messing it up for everyone." Now I'm worried that will be me again....I'm really not trying to sound arrogant, but I study very hard for my grades. I am just a strong test taker. Either way...I'd rather not tell anyone my grade, but I have a hard time saying no lol I'm shy and quiet. And I don't want to start anything with anyone. What really gets me is that I had this same problem in LPN school!!! Why do people have to be so competitive? But I want to avoid it this time around....I'm sorry this was so long. Any advice or tips what to say if someone asks my grades? I don't want to be mean of course... But any help would be appreciated!! Thank you!!
    Last edit by LPN709 on Feb 19, '14 : Reason: grammar
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    LPN709 has '0-1' year(s) of experience and specializes in 'LTC'. From 'TN'; Joined Mar '12; Posts: 179; Likes: 82.

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  4. Visit  SoldierNurse22 profile page
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    ...don't tell anyone your grades. Problem solved.
    dodger80, cjward3, PaintedWings♥, and 13 others like this.
  5. Visit  LadyFree28 profile page
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    Quote from SoldierNurse22
    ...don't tell anyone your grades. Problem solved.
    This...

    Remember that when someone asks about how much you make.

    Keep it to your self, learn to say NO; it will make you life a MUCH happier place.
    mso819, Rose_Queen, adnstudent44, and 2 others like this.
  6. Visit  psu_213 profile page
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    So let me get this straight...they are mad at you since you did well and it "hurt" their curve? It sounds like your classmates are mad at themselves for their individual failures, yet they are taking it out on you.

    My advice...do you best. Shoot for 100%. Keep your score to yourself--don't even tell those who you consider your "friends" (and that seems like another discussion...). If people are mad that someone ruined the curve...let them being upset at themselves for, at least in some cases, not doing their individual bests.
    mso819, besaangel, Ks mommy nurse, and 2 others like this.
  7. Visit  LPN709 profile page
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    Quote from SoldierNurse22
    ...don't tell anyone your grades. Problem solved.
    Yes, I understand this would definitely solve the problem! I've tried just saying "I passed" but apparently that's not enough lol I get hounded until I say the actual number. I was just asking for a polite thing to say to ward off people who ask...I have such a hard time saying no. I feel like I'm being mean and rude. I know I shouldn't feel this way but I can't help it! And psu_213 yes you are exactly right! I'm trying
  8. Visit  manusko profile page
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    Quote from LPN504
    Yes, I understand this would definitely solve the problem! I've tried just saying "I passed" but apparently that's not enough lol I get hounded until I say the actual number. I was just asking for a polite thing to say to ward off people who ask...I have such a hard time saying no. I feel like I'm being mean and rude. I know I shouldn't feel this way but I can't help it! And psu_213 yes you are exactly right! I'm trying
    if you feel that pressured then tell them you scored 5-10 points less than the actual grade.
    cjward3, mso819, wonderchic24, and 2 others like this.
  9. Visit  HippyDippyLPN profile page
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    Just lie if you feel you have to say something. Honestly I wouldn't care what your pre req classmates think (I don't). I am there to make stellar grades, not friends, so i would tell people too bad so sad but then again I'm a bit of an arse lol.
    wonderchic24, Heathermaizey, psu_213, and 1 other like this.
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    I'd rather not lie if I didn't have to but I don't want to bring unnecessary drama upon myself! especially over something that is my business only.
    psu_213 likes this.
  11. Visit  Meghan111 profile page
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    Continue to be the best; if the other students are mad at you for "messing up their points", then maybe Ty should try harder to beat you!!
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    *they, not Ty
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    Quote from LPN504
    I'd rather not lie if I didn't have to but I don't want to bring unnecessary drama upon myself! especially over something that is my business only.
    Pick one or study less.
    blue82, LL143KnB, LPN709, and 1 other like this.
  14. Visit  LPN709 profile page
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    Quote from Meghan111
    Continue to be the best; if the other students are mad at you for "messing up their points", then maybe Ty should try harder to beat you!!
    Very true. I want everyone to do well but I won't sacrifice my grade for it
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    Quote from manusko
    Pick one or study less.
    Studying less is definitely not an option


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