Homesickness in my first year

[madwife2002]

I am extreemly homesick and it is getting worse and worse, and the more I try to talk myself into being rationale the more I hear songs and stuff which reminds me of home. So all you veteran EX-Pats how did you get through your first year away from UK. My family is settled, we have a nice life, the weather is lovely but I miss home and it is a deep ache like nothing I have ever experienced in my life.

I miss my job as bad as it was sometimes in the NHS, I miss my friends, I miss my life, I miss the food, I miss the familiarity, I miss knowing how to behave, I miss people who understand me without having to explain myself repeatedly. It doesnt help that others say they feel the same way what I want to know is Does it go away.

So the truth for the other nurses who experienced home sickness how long did it last and when did it go away???????

[plato353]

first things first. English nurse do get up the ladder to put a dish up ,then you will be talking health and safety issues. Yep Astra sat does broadcast in the USA but remember a uk digibox is coded to pick up uk signall no matter where you are in the world a long as the dish is facing south east 28.2. in the us they will not allow it for public broadcasting but i know a OR nurse in Arizona not saying his name who uses it. I guess where there is a will there is a way.

what happened today is absolutely appaling.i travel on the roads alot for work. All airports where shut between 06h30 until now 18h30 uk time. All incoming flights between europe and uk where suspended unless the plane was in the air. Most motorways surrounding all airports where blocked. As from today you are not allowed any handluggage onboard domestic and international flights.. You will be handed a clear plastic bag at check in and the only items allowed in it are essential medication for the flight

. -tissues without the wrapping on it,

-ladies sanitary towels must be visible individually in the plastic bag

-under no circumstances any water bottles allowed you will be provided it once you have passed security.

-no liquids on you at all

-reading glasses without the casing

-no duty free in hand luggage

-you are allowed wallets,passports keys without remote control units(for car doors)

-lactating mothers must sample the milk infront of security officers once pass security screening( deplorable)

- the usual screening applying as it is in the USA prior to boarding a plane.

-There is a plane load of US marshall on there way here to help with body searching for planes destined for the USA to be stationed at various uk airports

- they foiled the plot today and good to as well after discovering that these guys where going to use liquid devices to bring down allegedly 4 planes bound for the USA.

If anyone thingks the above sounds outrages check out the bbc website.Just to summarise these guidleines have now been adopted by the US department of transport so anyone flying out of the USA will prob be subjected to the above.

To hell with flying, I have decided to take the boat from Southampton to New York. Hopefully the only thing i would have to dodge is a few icebergs. Sometimes i fell i would rather be back home where i am able to deal with dangers face on guns ,knives etc. I have not adapted to mayhem from the unknown. Does not make me nervous just vigilant

Plato353

[english_nurse]

remember the last boat going to new york that dodged a few icebergs? lol

i dont think they want to taste the lactating mothers milk by the way, they are talking about formula milk

as for the dish, i dont like heights

[madwife2002, BSN, RN]

Yeah I was thinking of that boat too lolol

[traumaRUs, MSN, APRN]

My husband is in the US military and we have lived in Spain (3 years), Japan (3 1/2 years), Korea (2 years). I probably wasn't homesick because I could anticipate an end. Can you set a date for a vacation? If you are truly unhappy, can you relocated back to the UK?

[plato353]

My dear wife and i have pondered the idea of taking a cruise actually.Hopefully the captain will stave off the real ale or guinness :cheers: for that matter and navigate his way around these potential dangers LOL.

Otherwise it will be bottoms up lol

Plato353

"IF YOU WORK HARD IN LIFE YOU WILL BE REWARDED IN PROPORTION TO WHAT YOU PUT IN (IE FINANCIALLY,SPIRITUALLY OR MATERIALLY). IF YOU TAKE SHORTCUTS YOU WILL BE CUT SHORT.....".the Reverant RUN formally of RUN DMC

[english_nurse]

plato im going to leave you this link to look at

http://www.britishexpats.com/forum/showthread.php?t=389877

[Denise25]

I am in Arizona missing England-sad I know I read all the above messages thank you I am sure by opening my heart it may help me move on.

I guess I just needed to hear it was normal. Thanks

I have been extremely homesick before. It was for about 18 months when i lived in Greece until I said to myself " Feeling this terrible pain is a test and will only make me stronger and if i can get through this.....i can get through anything in life".

It's true that home is where the heart is, but don't dwell on the fact that you aren't in your home country. I can relate to the pain you feel and it's awful, but the moment you tell yourself that it's a test and you are strong and you will overcome it, the better you will feel. You can do it. Look on it as if you are overcoming a fear or an addiction. Besides England is only a flight away!

A place really shouldn't be too important....just remind yourself that the people you love are around you and you have your health!

I hope this helps. It helped me greatly. Think positive and when you feel down...Fight it xxxxxx

[RGN1]

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better MW. It seems you've been through an awful lot so that can't have helped. Hope it's all good from now on for you!