Quote from angila1
my dad is in the final stages of cancer and keeps saying he's waiting for the train. i know the obvious explanation is he's waiting to pass over but was wondering has anyone heard this before? i have heard people talking about dying people saying they are waiting for a boat and this can be linked to the egyptian belief of crossing over but does a train have any significance to anyone? sadly i cannot ask him now as he is slipping in and out of consciousness and cannot speak anymore........................
i'm so sorry, angila.
as mazy, tewdles, and hospice nurse have stated, these types of conversations are very characteristic of dying pts.
i've had it happen as well....actually, many times.
at first it confused and frustrated me because i wanted to help.
i felt lost instead.
then i read "final gifts" by maggie callahan and patricia kelley.
it describes this very phenomenon and discuss how to understand their needs better.
i remember in the travel section, they encouraged us to try and see any forms of travel metaphors, when pt trying to discuss what they dreamed.
so whether it's boat, train, bike, plane, walking...it's all about where they're going to go.
that book was invaluable to me.
it also explains that while they're sleeping, their spirit is leaving the body more and more...
and is often why they appear confused or disoriented when they wake up.
that, and not even knowing where to begin with what they're feeling.
it's ok to keep talking with your dad, even when he does lose consciousness.
wishing you warmth and faith.