Cranky Old Man - What Do You See Nurses?

A wonderful reminder to look past the obvious. Remember this poem when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within. We will all, one day, be there, too! The best and most beautiful things of this world can't be seen or touched. They must be felt by the heart! Specialties Geriatric Article

This poem has been passed around for decades, some nurses say they saw it back in the '70s. However, it's a great reminder especially with the new year near approaching.

As the story goes...When an old man died in the geriatric ward of a nursing home in an Australian country town, it was believed that he had nothing left of any value.

Later, when the nurses were going through his meager possessions, They found this poem. Its quality and content so impressed the staff that copies were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital.

One nurse took her copy to Melbourne. The old man's sole bequest to posterity has since appeared in the Christmas editions of magazines around the country and appearing in mags for Mental Health. A slide presentation has also been made based on his simple, but eloquent, poem.

And this old man, with nothing left to give to the world, is now the author of this 'anonymous' poem winging across the Internet.

Cranky Old Man

What do you see nurses?.. ...What do you see?

What are you thinking ..... when you're looking at me?

A cranky old man,.....not very wise,

Uncertain of habit ..... with faraway eyes?

Who dribbles his food ..... and makes no reply.

When you say in a loud voice .....'I do wish you'd try!'

Who seems not to notice .....the things that you do.

And forever is losing ..... A sock or shoe?

Who, resisting or not ..... lets you do as you will,

With bathing and feeding .....The long day to fill?

Is that what you're thinking?.....Is that what you see?

Then open your eyes, nurse .....you're not looking at me.

I'll tell you who I am ..... As I sit here so still,

As I do at your bidding, ..... as I eat at your will.

I'm a small child of Ten .....with a father and mother,

Brothers and sisters ...... who love one another

A young boy of Sixteen ..... with wings on his feet

Dreaming that soon now ..... a lover he'll meet.

A groom soon at Twenty .....my heart gives a leap.

Remembering, the vows.....that I promised to keep.

At Twenty-Five, now .....I have young of my own.

Who need me to guide ..... And a secure happy home.

A man of Thirty ..... My young now grown fast,

Bound to each other ..... With ties that should last.

At Forty, my young sons .....have grown and are gone,

But my woman is beside me ..... to see I don't mourn.

At Fifty, once more,.....Babies play 'round my knee,

Again, we know children ...... My loved one and me.

Dark days are upon me ...... My wife is now dead.

I look at the future ..... I shudder with dread.

For my young are all rearing ..... young of their own.

And I think of the years ...... And the love that I've known.

I'm now an old man ..... and nature is cruel.

It's jest to make old age ...... look like a fool.

The body, it crumbles ..... grace and vigor, depart.

There is now a stone ..... where I once had a heart.

But inside this old carcass. A young man still dwells,

And now and again . . . . . my battered heart swells

I remember the joys ...... I remember the pain.

And I'm loving and living ..... life over again.

I think of the years, all too few ...... gone too fast.

And accept the stark fact ..... that nothing can last.

So open your eyes, people ...... open and see.

Not a cranky old man .

Look closer ...... see ......... ME!!

Remember this poem when you next meet an older person who you might brush aside without looking at the young soul within. We will all, one day, be there, too!

PLEASE SHARE THIS POEM (originally by Phyllis McCormack; adapted by Dave Griffith)

The best and most beautiful things of this world can't be seen or touched. They must be felt by the heart!

This is also posted on the Nurses Rock facebook page here for easy sharing.

I read this on Facebook and thought it was a fantastic piece. I think this should be posted in every hospital and nursing home (especially)!

Specializes in Certified Med/Surg tele, and other stuff.
I love the cranky patients, I make it my mission to make them smile or chuckle.

Agree. I think they need our attention the most. When I see cranky old men, I see someone who probably defended our country at one point in time and was proud to do so. I also see a glimpse of fear in their eyes and the loss of control that many never wanted to happen. What I learn from them is patience and I'm grateful for them regardless how cranky they are. Nothing they say or do can shock me.

Specializes in med-surg - LTC-Home Health; Psych.

I remember this a long time ago when I was a student nurse working as a CNA. I worked hard too, keeping my legally blind but brilliant mother alive and kicking until she was past 90. She was a BSN grad from University of Miami at Cincinnati in the 1940's and her specialty was Public Health. I rehabbed her thru a major stroke which she recovered 95%, and again after she fell and hit her head. She was at St. Joe's for 5 days touch and go, and finally came out of it and said to me " Get me the HECK (not her words) OUT OF HERE, and I'll do anything you want". Well, I was helped by staff to stuff her into my car and I had to do a fireman's carry to get into the house. After that we went to the gym 5 days a week for an hour. She was the sharpest, wittiest person and the best friend I ever had. Nurses Rock! I had to become one when we moved to Arizona just to compete with her. Thanks for listening to my story.

Thank you! A great reminder when I'm taking care of my elderly mom...

Well, it's been 5+ months since I logged on and/or posted...as luck would have it, my 89-year-old mom passed away Saturday morning Dec 28, 2013...probably around the time I may have been posting this (I'm not sure what time zone this blog is in, I live in Central Time). Her sister, my aunt, died 3 months and 1 week later, shortly before Easter on April 6 at age 84.

I have questions/issues re jobs and continuing education; I will post more in the appropriate sections.

I love this one, it ends up posted on our staff room noticeboard regularly.

Specializes in kids.

I had the time to read the personal history of one our AL residents. He is a pretty cranky, and at times, nasty man....

he was a POW at one time.....:no:

ya...

it helped me reframe my approach and response to his communication style.

That poem helps me remember that (among other things) no matter our age, or how our lives have gone, when it comes down to it, we are all somebody's baby.

I think this should be posted more frequently also. It is such a great insight and reminder.