Want to quit nursing school with 9 months left

[Chalysia]

I have a big problem. Basically I'm in my 4th semester out of 5 and I want to quit my nursing program. It's a long story but basically I never even wanted to be a nurse or apply to the program. I only did because my parents and family kept urging me to do so. From the very first day of class I knew that nursing wasn't for me...well actually I felt this way before applying to nursing school. I am very shy/quiet, I have a fear of seeing, hearing, smelling vomit, and I am not a people person. I am severely depressed. I cry every night just about. I have been this way since the beginning of the program. I am so unhappy and I dread everyday of school, especially clinicals. Clinicals is the worst part of the program. I begged and begged my parents early on to let me pursue another major but they said that's not an option for me. I feel so trapped. I was paying for my own education 1st semester but ended up taking out loans 2nd semester onward. I feel mentally sick and pure miserable. I have zero motivation. I was barely getting by anyways...I've failed or barely passed every test we've had thus far. The only reason I passed was all the assignments/projects/quizzes gave me a boost. Guys what should I do? I have even had thoughts of suicide I am just so depressed. I need some help. What would you do?

[i♥words]

Please find someone to talk to about this. Quit nursing school. But suicide isn't the answer. As I just recently read, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You can get out of this valley and find something else, something that you love, to do. Find someone to talk to, drop nursing school, and get out from under your parents' control. ((Hugs))

[JoseQuinones]

You need a Bachelors in life. Finish the Bachelors. You don't have to go into nursing afterward. But a BSN is a Bachelors in Science. Trust me, you need a BS in something. Two years ago on a whim I applied to be an air-traffic controller with the FAA. A friend got me in the door and I aced the interview. The position paid $130,000, counting benefits, after experience, yada, yadda, yadda. They were just about to sign the paperwork to send me off to the ATC school when it turned out I did not have a Bachelors of Science yet. Oops. No soap. A Bachelors of Science is a Bachelors of Science. Don't let nine measly months haunt you for the rest of your life.

[Qwinbee]

Honey, if you feel that strongly about it, then Quit! This your life for you to live and enjoy. Please don't even entertain the thought of ending your life. Killing yourself is not an option, Quitting nursing school is! go see your academic counselor at school and see what other majors /careers that interest you that the credits you already have can be applied to. Bottom line is there are a million and one careers out there, find the one that suit you, not the one that your parents think is best. your parents are thinking they are suggesting what is best for you but only you know yourself and only you can determine what is best for you. Freedom isn't given, it's taken.This your life to live, so live it to the fullest! whatever you do, get help, don't go through this alone...talk to someone you trust to help you with this decision and best of luck !!!

[The_Optimist]

We usually know when something's not going to work for us. When it gets so bad,that suicide becomes an option, you should quit.

No, there is nothing wrong with you; you just HATE the field so bad that anything else looks good to it. Quit babes:). Get out of it. Get happy. Go find what makes you happy.

Or take a leave of absence from school.Would that be something you would consider?

[sealford]

Please, I beg of you, talk to someone. My sister was a 3rd year medical student who committed suicide this past April. I know what it's like to be terrified to speak out against your parents, but I am sure that they would rather be mad at you than have to bury you. I know that's an extreme sentence, but this is a very serious matter. No one should EVER have to do something that they don't want to because someone else is making them. This is America, and we have the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. It sounds as if all three of those have been taken from you. This post made me instantly cry, because I know how it feels to be in that situation. Please keep us all posted, and if you need someone to talk to, please send me a message. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for help. If only my sister had sought help, she might still be here with me and I wouldn't be an only child. I couldn't bear to see that happen to someone else, even if we are "just on the Internet." Pain is pain and I think that posting here was a good first step to take. Always remember this: your life is your own; make the most of it. Don't let others bring you down, because in the end, you are the one who walks in your own shoes. I could go on and on and tell you about my personal issues that I've had, and I will tell you if you want to hear them. However, this is about you, and I want you to know this: even though I do not know you, I want you to be safe and happy. No career path is worth sacrificing your mental health. If you already don't want to do it, you are only going to feel worse after graduation and you will be resentful. Life is so much more than that. Please, please, please, even if you can't find help on this forum, seek it from a counselor who will actually listen and not just nod their heads. You are a human being and are deserving of at least that.

[ComeTogether, LPN]

I understand what you're going through. I was made to attend college right out of high school and I wasn't ready. I know that others are asking why you are doing what your parents want and that you don't have to.....and this IS true, you DON'T have to just because they want you to, BUT if you still live at home I understand it can be difficult to "defy" them, even if they aren't paying for your tuition. I don't know what your situation is, if you live at home or not, but I urge you to seek some help. Talk to someone about all of this, a counselor, a family member, anyone. Maybe you need a break, maybe you need to quit, only you can decide, but don't close any doors yet.

I can tell you this though, I went to school for medical assisting, came sooooo close to graduating, and dropped out to spite my parents. (This was years after I tried the four year school thing). Even though it would have been a relatively dead end job for me, I sincerely regret not finishing because I was sooooo close and I threw it all away. So think carefully if you want to risk leaving the program and having to repeat everything. Talk to an adviser and find out what your options are before you make any decisions.

You can be anything you want to be, go anywhere you want to go but it takes hard work and determination. First, you have to take care of your mental health and then you can make more choices on whats next for you.

I wish you luck!! HUGS!! xxxxx

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[TNJLPN]

Get out of there and pursue what YOU want! You may need to listen to Gwen Stefani's "Its My Life" for some motivation. It's time to start living for you. I'm sure your parents will learn to deal with it.

[HouTx, BSN, MSN, EdD]

Suicide is not the answer. PLEASE don't do it!!! Stand up to your family. This is your life. Also if I were you I would finish school and find an area of nursing that you would like. There are sooooo many options with nursing. You could be one of the nurses that answers the phone on a nurse hotline. You don't have to set foot in a hospital. There's so many positions to choose from.

Sorry - but I feel the need to dispell this myth. In order to be considered for one of those 'non-clinical' jobs, you will need a pretty high level of clinical competency. Apply some critical thinking here - why in the world would an employer hire RNs to do a job if others (without clinical competency) could do it for less $? Even jobs focusing on Clinical Informatics require applicants to have comprehensive knowledge/experience in how electronic charting actually works in a hospital setting.

If OP already knows that nursing is absolutely not the right career, why in the world are PPs trying to convince otherwise? How could strangers on an online forum have such clear insight in to OP's inner self? Not possible.

[sbaker935]

you should go for what you want, whatever decision you make. i think since you only have 9 months left, just stick it out. youve already been through so much, you might as well work and make good money while pursuing something else. good luck!!