Are they oversharing or am I a prude?

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    Before starting nursing school, I had never come accross more peers that share quite so much... um... detail. Classmates will walk up to me and start talking to me about their heavy flow or their loose stool like it is normal social hallway conversation. I have worked phones in OBGYN for many years, so I can talk about vaginas and periods with pts all day long. I am not squeemish. But I don't want to hear about your heavy flow during idle chat. you know? Is that just me? I hang out with software developers. For all I know, my friends do not have periods or BMs. I like it that way. Has anyone else dealt with this? Am I a prude? I will not be offended if you say that i am.
    lindarn and Altra like this.

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    How sad that they can not come up with better topics for small talk. Have some ready topics to change the subject to and start using that tactic. Sooner or later, maybe they will get the hint and find more pleasant topics themselves.
    nursel56, healthstar, and grownuprosie like this.
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    Thanks for responding, caliotter3! I read your posts alot and I have a ton of respect for you. I guess your plan is better than my current response, which is a "deer in the headlights" expression followed by silence until the person either walks away or changes the subject. still working on my theraputic communications skills... obviously...
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    Thankfully I didn't have this problem in nursing school because I definitely wouldn't want to hear about it either! I don't think that makes you a prude at all. I think caliotter's suggestion of changing the subject is a good one. If that's not enough for them to get the hint, I would go ahead and just tell them, directly but politely, that I'm uncomfortable discussing their menstrual cycles or BMs.
    grownuprosie likes this.
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    thank you! I mentioned it to one of the few guys in my class, thinking he would comiserate. Now every time we talk about things we saw in clinical, he says, "grownuprosie, you might want to cover your ears, i am going to talk about vaginas now." i was begining to think i was the only person that found this weird.
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    I remember things like that all too well. While we were having a break in what seemed like the broom closet with a total of 9 people. One student started to talk about her sex life and we got her off that topic. We started to chat about kids and she showed us her c section scar !!! We basically saw everything.. I dont ever want to be that friendly with my classmates
    grownuprosie likes this.
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    ICK! Boundaries, People - boundaries!! It's one thing to discuss physiology with a patient as part of an assessment..... entirely different with casual acquaintances. OMG. I hope they learn to differentiate. I can only imagine their future patients hearing "you think your hysterectomy was bad? Lemme tell ya about my hoo haa. . . "
    NF_eyenurse, Altra, frankie,RN, and 3 others like this.
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    I had a colleague once who brought in her "birth video" to work and was playin it in the lounge for her friends to see. It was WAY too personal for my taste. (Let's just say the camera was located at the foot of the bed.) I can't imagine ...
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    Ewwww......TMI for anyone who's not her husband or OB, as far as I'm concerned.
    flyingchange, Altra, frankie,RN, and 2 others like this.
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    that's exactly what you say, "tmi, janey! tmi!" with both hands raised in front of you as if to ward her off, and back away slightly. she'll get the idea.
    snickers21, missladyrn, Altra, and 4 others like this.

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