Nursing Students - How often do you complain to your significant other?

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Starting school in late august. I will complain to my husband any time I feel like. I feel like bringing the conversation home can help your spouse feel more involved. Student nurses need support and if venting is a way that helps you cope with the stress/load of nursing school, go for it!

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Going into third semester, not much. It's hard for him to relate, and talking about my frustrations to someone else that I'm friends with in my program usually works better, because they know exactly how I'm feeling.

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Specializes in Tele, Interventional Pain Management, OR.
Going into third semester, not much. It's hard for him to relate, and talking about my frustrations to someone else that I'm friends with in my program usually works better, because they know exactly how I'm feeling.

Agreed. My fiance is super-supportive and so proud that I'm becoming a nurse in five months (gotta pass that NCLEX after December graduation, haha). But he works in a TOTALLY unrelated field and doesn't get the stress of class+lab+clinical. He just doesn't. So I vent to my nursing school BFF instead. She totally gets it! He has a thumbnail sketch, but my NS BFF knows TRUTH.

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AGREED X100 with the previous post. I learned half way through the first semester that only your classmates or previous nursing students truly know what you're going through. My husband is a college grad, he knows the frustrations of college, so when I do complain, I keep things kind of general. I do share interesting stories and let him know when I'm feeling overwhelmed.

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Yes !! All the time. He is my best support system besides other nursing students. The worst is when I get frustrated with him on exam days. I yell at him and say "you don't understand !" Then after I pass I feel so bad but he knows the routine haha. He has been there since the days of Chemistry and Microbiology. Im graduating in 4 more months and I have no clue how I would have made it without him. I graduate the day before his birthday so we're going to Vegas! (I've never been there). Time to celebrate after 5 years of hard work :D

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I vent to my boyfriend all the time. He's still a student too, so he gets the frustration and exhaustion, which is great. I think it's important to vent instead of bottle it up.

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Not at whole lot. My boyfriend is very supportive and if I just have a terrible day I will complain, but I don't want to be a Debby Downer all of the time. When I am away from my school stuff, I tend to leave it. My time with my family is my time and I don't like to let the stress of the outside world into that. If it's a particularly rough day, I may call him to vent about something, but I generally don't have those days too much. I think total since I started the program I have had about 3. But people handle stress in different ways. I go for a long walk and listen to my music to get rid of some stress. That is super relaxing for me.

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Once in a while...not a whole lot really. I'm with those that say they complain to classmates because they "get it."

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I don't complain to my wife that much because her job is insane and horribly stressful for her (she's a social worker/ CPS) and she also can't relate. She often tells me that she can't fathom how I am able to learn, understand, and retain the technical/clinical stuff in nursing school, and she compares that with the "make it up as you go" approach she applied to all the paper-writing she had to do in her MSW program. She also didn't deal with exams in which a perfect score was needed to continue with the program, or ATI's at the end of each semester.

While this doesn't bother me as much the only thing that sucks is that when I am really freaking out (during exams), she kinda can't really help in the way that I "want" or "need," which is probably just due to the lack of relate ability, so during those times I lean on those in my cohort.

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Too much, all the time, every day&night

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Specializes in Tele, Interventional Pain Management, OR.

Agreed. I have had maybe 3 or four "call the fiance and stress" days in my entire program, and I'm almost done with nursing school.

I run my favorite trail, or read non-nursing stuff, cook a new dinner recipe, or watch some trashy reality TV to de-stress. I really try to check it at the door when my school day is over.

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