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My husband said that he doesn't think nursing school is going to be as hard as I think it will be.

This was said after I told him come this fall he'd have to help with laundry/cooking dinner/taking kids to school.

Sink or swim, husband. Sink or swim.

Specializes in Medical Surgical.

I have been in your situation and here is my advice: Keep politely reminding your husband, put school first (when your husband realizes the kitchen is a wreck, no laundry is done, and dinner isn't being cooked he will get the picture), if you have kids and they are old enough set apart special time for you and them but encourage them to be independent, clean enough for your home to be functional but don't deep clean unless you have enough time in your schedule, and try your best not to get too stressed out. Stress will only make your life worse and you definitely won't be able to concentrate on school when you are stressed. Hope that helps andgood luck!! I just finished my first semester of nursing school. I was so overwhelmed at first but I just took my last final today and have come sooooo far from that first week... Good luck!

when did laundry, cooking, cleaning, taking kids to school become gender specific... i do all of these and i am male. looks i didn't get the memo when i was born. thanks mom~!

going to show the girlfriend this thread.

Haha my boyfriend actually told me that I will need to learn how to cook dinner for us while I'm in nursing school! Psh!

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Haha my boyfriend actually told me that I will need to learn how to cook dinner for us while I'm in nursing school! Psh!

LOL. I hope you told him that household responsibilities are meant to be shared. If I did not have a job and was a stay at home wife I would do everything, but seeing how we both have full-time jobs and I am in grad school that just isn't practical.

Oh, and if this is some guy you see yourself marrying you absolutely have to put your foot down or he will take advantage of you

when did laundry, cooking, cleaning, taking kids to school become gender specific... i do all of these and i am male. looks i didn't get the memo when i was born. thanks mom~!

going to show the girlfriend this thread.

Not that it's gender specific, but for the most part, in today's society, women still tend to be the part-time workers or SAHP and men go to work, so it just happens. And when said woman goes back to school/work the man naturally has to step up.

Posting from my phone, ease forgive my fat thumbs! :)

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for the cleaning man's response, yes my husband does things but he does not do them how i would do them and that is how a lot of women i know feel...like seperating laundry, scrubbing with bleach to disinfect, cooking with fruits and vegetables instead of fried chicken and french fries etc

My husband WAS really good at starting dinner if he got home early, doing laundry and even making the bed. Until... Six months ago I quit my job after 10 years and said, I am going to school! Since I have been a stay at home wife I have been laying it on thick! Keeping the house spotless, fixing his lunch, mowing the grass and even starting his truck in the mornings if he's running behind. I've been doing everything I can think of. Why? I start school next Tues. and don't think for a minute I wont bring up everything I did while he was working those long hours. :up: I have faith he will get back in the groove of housework though. It might take him a few weeks, or until we run out of underwear, but he'll be alright.

PS I didnt really do all those wonderful things just to be able to use them later. It was really nice being able to be home for a little while and I enjoyed it.

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Even though I was a SAHM he still helped with some things, not because I asked, he just did. And he did more when I started nursing school, no questions asked. Last semester I was a single mom for 5 months. My kids ate a lot of McDonalds and lunchables. Am I ashamed of that? No. They had food, clean clothes and got to school/daycare on time every day. My house was not CPS worthy but was not spotless either. Right now I am alone (husband and kids are in TN) and my house is still messy :/ Its ok though, cuz I'm getting what needs to get done and I am fed and clean :p

I am very lucky I married a man that likes to cook. I am not sure he is quite aware how much this will take over my life though. But I will just have to keep reminding him that it will all be worth it in the end!

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Well I will say two things.. 1. He is probably right. 2. He will have to help out but maybe he's just saying that to ease your anxiety or he's just lazy

Mine is helping out already. He does the laundry and grocery, takes care of the kids, and cooks whenever I don't feel like, but he will never let me out of the house until he gets back. Still taking my Pre-Reqs and it seems going the BSN route wouldn't be possible coz I have to be home with my boys during the day when he isn't at home and go to school in the evening after he's back (from 6pm). However, I will take the RN-BSN route immediately upon receiving my license and before applying for a nursing job. He's got his masters in engineering and doesn't want me to settle for anything less.

I sure have a very long way to go and hope he keeps lending a helping hand.

Yours will definitely adjust when you get to that bridge because he will learn to.

:angrybird12: What my husband reminds me of weekly...Dont think men think to do the work on their own like women do...He says...over and over. "Just TELL me what you want me to do and I will do it...but dont get mad and expect me to just do it because I probably wont think of it!"

Now I am trying to just tell him to please do x, y, and z! Makes my life easier!

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