Life, kids, work AND Nursing School...
- 0Dec 31, '12 by Live.&.LearnSo I made it through Nursing I with an 85 (we need an 80 to pass), but I went into the final scared to death that I might not make it and I don't want every semester to be like that. I know it's only going to get harder from here. So, how do you do it with kids, work and everything else that your juggling? There are about 25 people left in my class and it seems like none of them are in a similar situation as I am. Most either still live at home, are newly married with no children or have children who are grown and out of the house. I have three kids at home ages 3, 9 and 10, work part-time, and am barely making ends meet. My husband is supportive but he works a lot. So how do you do it, how do you find the time to take care of the kids and the house and still get enough time in for school work. I know what I need to do, I need to manage my time better. There is plenty of time in the day if I use it wisely. So how do all of you other poor, struggling mom's manage to make enough time for school and still be there for your family???
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- 1Dec 31, '12 by bubblejet50Most of my nursing school class was.in your situation! I had a 1yr old when I started (3 when I graduated), worked full time, and still had the house to take care of. I honestly never saw an a but I only was worried my last semester. Can you record lecture? Review notes at lunch and in between classes. Spend time with your kids until they go to sleep then study/homework. It is a rough few years but now being on the other side of it I can say its worth it!
- 1Dec 31, '12 by JaadeTry making a week's worth of meals at a time, with help. Teach your 9 and 10 year old to help out around the house and give them set chores. Give up the idea that your house will be clean, that you will be able to attend every school event, holiday family gathering and little league game (as applicable). I took my books everywhere. Dr appts, work (two waitressing jobs), family gatherings, karate tournaments.
Study smart. Figure out what type of info your instructors REALLY expect you to remember. (Think safety). You probably can't read everything assigned. Start with the material you think is most important in the textbooks you find the best suited to your learning style. Have study groups at your house. Our study group was two 20-something single people, a single mom with a 6 year old, a 30-something with 3 teenagers and me - a single mom with two teenagers. You have something in common - you're in nursing school! It's a bond that can last forever, regardless of age or personal circumstances. Utilize your family, classmates and friends. Most of them will understand.
And breathe. It's temporary.
- 0Dec 31, '12 by learning as i goCongrats on the 85! That's no easy thing to do, especially with everything else you have going on.
The thing that helps me the most is just prioritizing what I need to get done first. I am constantly reevaluating my to-do list. I write a lot of lists to remind myself what I need to do, and check stuff off as I go. Get your kids to help with house stuff, meals, whatever they can do. Make up some chore charts or write down a list of things they can help with and then ask them for help. I tell my kids all of the time that I need them to pitch in more than usual, but there will be a payoff for the whole family when I'm done with school - we will have more money to do fun stuff! That usually gets them motivated.
Figure out what you can let go of for now. I plan easy meals and we eat a lot of sandwiches. My cleaning standards have dropped. As long as the house is relatively tidy and we have clean clothes, I'm happy. I had to pull my kids out of most of their extra-curricular activities because I didn't have the time or energy for running around. They all do the same activity now (Girl Scouts) and it's made my life a lot easier. They go on trips with their troop every month which gets them out of the house and gives me a free day to work on homework.
Try not to compare yourself to what others in your class are going through. It might seem like they have it so much easier, but they all have their own stuff to deal with. Nursing school is not easy for anybody but at least we can help each other through it.
- 0Dec 31, '12 by Live.&.LearnI didn't mean to sound like I thought anyone had it any easier than I do or that I don't understand that everyone has stuff they're dealing with. I get that, I'm just terribly disorganized and really have to start managing my time better. Just looking for some tips on how to do that. I still feel guilty taking time away from the kids when I'm already gone so much just to go to class and work. I know it's all for them in the long run but I hate missing out on them now. They grow up so fast
- 0Jan 1, '13 by Katie71275It's hard! I am a mom of 4 (ages 10, 8, 6, and 3) and I also work part time as a nurse tech(about 24hrs per week usually Sat/Sun unless I have a free day on the weekday where kids are in school, but that's unlikely). My husband works M-F 7-530 and is not particularly helpful with housekeeping but does cook. My kids all have set chores. My older ones are responsible for dishes, they fold their own laundry, my 6 yr old cleans the living room (picks up toy, trash, vacuums), and it just works...My house is very messy most of the time but it's liveable. It will pass soon! As for studying, to be honest, I don't study all the time, I will read for class while the kids are in school or at night, but I DO NOT stay up late(usually 10-11 on a school night).
- 3Jan 2, '13 by 3aremyjoyI'm a 38 year old, mom of 3 teens that lives 45 min drive away from school. Here are some practical things I've done to help:
- once or twice a week make a meal that freezes well and double your dinner that night.
- cook "planned overs". Chicken with rice tonight, fried rice in a couple nights
- cook extras to use as lunches.
- leave notes for my kids on one small chore I expect to be done when they get home
- 1 load of laundry put on before dinner every night, put into dryer in the morning keeps the mountain from growing
- studying comes AFTER a little bit of family time
- if you eat, you help clean up
- on grocery day clean and cut up veggies, buy bulk train mix & granola, clean, cut up and freeze fruit for smoothies for breaky, package all in ziplock baggies to make week days faster and less stuff for people to leave out on counters.
- use flylady.net to help with housework issues
- i find my body wakes up early on weekends. These are my best study sessions, while the family sleeps i drink coffee and study
- when I'm at school, I am there to learn and study. If I find myself with an hour between classes, I study
- have EVERYTHING packed up and ready to go the night before, it saves my brain.
- use your calender. Schedule in your family time. They deserve a time slot as much as your classes do
- remind your family that you do indeed miss them and are looking forward to _________
- remember to do something nice for yourself once in a while
- make lists in your daytimer so you can add to them as you remember
That's all I can think of right now that has helped me. Some phrases that have helped me when I feel like I'm about to lose it:
"just do the next thing"
" this too shall pass"
" tomorrow's a new day, with no mistakes in it"
Try to remember, while not everyone has the same life situations as you may be experiencing, you are experiencing the stress of nursing school together. I sometimes find myself jealous of those that only have themselves to look after, or live 2 minutes from the school, or who live at home and mom and dad worry about the house and yard. But this is the life I have chosen, and I MUST make this work.
Good luck with your coming semester, and with helping to make your life run more orderly!