Jealous that I have no life

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futurenursedd

14 Posts

I don't know where you go to school, but from everyone I've talked to and my own experience first semester is one of the hardest. Getting used to the testing style and trying to break old testing habits is one of the biggest challenges for most people. Maybe the content isn't the most difficult, but it is very hard breaking old test taking habits and mindsets.

I've tried going to school and partying all the time and that didn't work out for me. This time I am doing it right I want to learn and fully understand everything that I am taught. Unfortunately that means sacrificing most of my "partying time". I want to be amazing at what I do.

To everyone else thanks for letting me know that I am not alone. It seems like none of our friends ever wanted to do anything when I was completing my pre-reqs, but as soon as school starts everyone wants to hang out. That makes it so much harder. I am so lucky to have a fiance that supports me in what I do and understands that I have to spend all my time studying. It's just hard trying to adjust. Seeing that he works his butt off and gets rewarded by going out to have fun and I work my off and am rewarded with more work. I will admit the silence helps me get more work done, but when I take a study break I do get quite lonely.

ruralnurse84

173 Posts

Specializes in LTC, Rural, OB.

Honestly, just be grateful for the peace and quiet. I live 600 miles away from my husband during school and only get to see him on my breaks, so every 2 months. In one regard it sucks because I really miss him, on the other hand I don't have to worry about spending time with him and can just focus on school. When you take a break, find something you like doing yourself...me I watch some tv and cross stitch...very relaxing and undemanding.

Marsha238612

357 Posts

I REALLY don't understand these posts I had almost a full time job through nursing school with heavy extracurriculars and I STILL had time to party on the weekends regularly. I think a lot of you guys psyche yourselves out or makes the work seem more difficult than it is. All you have to do is work/study smart. From what I remember the 1st semester was pretty much a joke (basic CNA stuff) and a geriatrics clinical. I paid attention during lectures, did the silly assignments, dosage tests and looked over the powerpoints. If you are reading the chapter you are wasting your time in 9% of situations. Most nursing schools teach the same because the NCLEX is the standard. It's not that hard but you are forcing yourself to have a perception that it is... I lived the frat life and still have my RN.....it's completely possible. Hell I would even say nursing was one of the less demanding majors compared to a lot of the other life sucking hard science ones. THOSE will give you no life.[/quote']

If you consider yourself that bright to never have studied/struggled through nursing school then you should understand some very simplistic facts:

No two humans learn the same way.

The brain is one complex part of humans. We are not all wired the same.

One can be academically "smart" and lacking in other areas.

Your post shows no respect for the OP who is only trying to hear others helpful insight/experiences.

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Dranger

1,871 Posts

If you consider yourself that bright to never have studied/struggled through nursing school then you should understand some very simplistic facts:

No two humans learn the same way.

The brain is one complex part of humans. We are not all wired the same.

One can be academically "smart" and lacking in other areas.

Your post shows no respect for the OP who is only trying to hear others helpful insight/experiences.

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Umm I did read the OPs post and gave several tips to avoid being overwhelmed. I am just suggesting that a lot of stress is self induced. I see this type of thread at least a couple times a week.

I am in no way a genius just efficient. I am probably just slightly above average intelligence but I study smart and don't sweat small things that a lot of people get worked up about.

There is a lot of "stealing from Peter to pay Paul" in nursing school...and my hardest semester was probably med surg 2 because I was taking physics as well. It was tough but I didn't sacrifice my life for school.

Marsha238612

357 Posts

Dranger said: "I am in no way a genius just efficient. I am probably just slightly above average intelligence"

You made my Friday night LMBO. Ok I'm going out now, I'm having too much fun here lol :D

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chrisrn24

905 Posts

I'm going to be honest.

You sound like one of those girls who, when she got a boyfriend, dumped all her friends and now her only friend is him.

It probably didn't bother you too much before, but now that you're in school surrounded by mostly females who are probably developing class relationships with each other you're being reminded of female friendships and craving one. But you don't have one so you're possibly taking your frustration out on him. Maybe secretly you're upset that he is out having fun.

Men's jobs are not to cater to their girlfriends every whims and come when they're called. I suggest sitting down with him and saying "you know I'm kinda sad that when I have any free time you're gone. Do you think we could have a standing date on Friday nights for dinner?"

Additionally I suggest cultivating female friendships. Talk to some of the girls in your class even if they are older and younger. Call up old girlfriends to say hi or send them a Facebook message.

Like Dranger I partied plenty too, perhaps too much lol.

The_Optimist

1 Article; 176 Posts

futurenursedd -

Dranger - that post failed to add anything to this conversation but ego. In fact the language might actually have managed to put the OP, who seems to legitimately be seeking support from the AN community, down. As a male RN, I'm offended. That lack of empathy just adds to the stigma that men don't belong in the profession. I feel like I speak for the majority in saying I'd rather be taken care of by somebody who struggled through nursing school and forfeit their social life to learn than somebody who endorses the "reading the text is a waste, party on the weekends, college philosophy"

Agree to disagree. You have your experiences..he has his. Most times people often speak from their experiences.You cannot presume to know that his post comes from "ego". And just because he had it easy does not take away from him being an excellent nurse. You work smart and hard..not just hard.

futurenursedd

14 Posts

Wow that was incredibly rude and judgmental. It's really none of your business, but I did not dump any of my friends for him we have the same group of friends. Actually one of the reasons this is hard for me is because he gets to spend time with all of our mutual friends and I cannot. I have plenty of friends, most of them work in healthcare and are totally understanding of my situation. I also have school friends, but sitting in the library till 1 am talking about nursing is not really my idea of a night out.

I see my fiance maybe one day a week and it sucks I DO NOT ever expect him to drop everything and spend all his time with me. Thank you for the unwarranted and unneeded "advice".

The_Optimist

1 Article; 176 Posts

Had a buddy in college who was a biochem major who never saw the light of day and never complained at all because he knew his goal. He's a resident physician now....

This! Doesn;t it just suck? Especially when other people in even more difficult majors have an upbeat attitude. A couple of my friends are into the med, engineering and crna schools and they just have the most upbeat attitudes and are doing just great. Life is 90% attitude and 10% whatever else.

The_Optimist

1 Article; 176 Posts

How about discussing with your fiance? As is, you already sound resentful. Try to bring up the discussion when you are in a better frame of mind. Never assume! It's also very possible he has his own concerns too.

KelRN215, BSN, RN

1 Article; 7,349 Posts

Specializes in Pedi.
I REALLY don't understand these posts, I had almost a full time job through nursing school with heavy extracurriculars and I STILL had time to party on the weekends regularly.

I think a lot of you guys psyche yourselves out or makes the work seem more difficult than it is. All you have to do is work/study smart. From what I remember the 1st semester was pretty much a joke (basic CNA stuff) and a geriatrics clinical. I paid attention during lectures, did the silly assignments, dosage tests and looked over the powerpoints. If you are reading the chapter you are wasting your time in 9% of situations. Most nursing schools teach the same because the NCLEX is the standard.

It's not that hard but you are forcing yourself to have a perception that it is...

I lived the frat life and still have my RN.....it's completely possible. Hell I would even say nursing was one of the less demanding majors compared to a lot of the other life sucking hard science ones. THOSE will give you no life.

Same. I don't get these posts at all. Nursing school for me was college- traditional BSN program at a school that's generally considered to be "hard" (nationally ranked top 40 university). I never once opened a book on the weekends, spent very little time studying and I had a very normal college life.

School can only be taking over your life if you're letting it. Now would be a good time to develop the time management and organizational skills that are crucial to success in nursing. There's no reason why one can't do well in school AND have a life.

Stephalump

2,723 Posts

Specializes in Forensic Psych.

You're allowed to grieve the loss of your past life.

My husband and I have kids, so I'm not exactly in the same situation - my husband is usually saddled with munchkins when I'm busy - but I felt similarly in the beginning. I missed my freedom when I was cooped up in the library.

But, like most things, you'll get used to it. :)

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