Help, advice needed

jenrninmi, MSN, RN · Nov 19, 2003

{{Hugs Teresa!}}} I know you're tired. I'm tired, we're all tired. lol. You have five children a husband and a house to take care of. Let me ask you this... How do you feel knowing that your first semester is just about finished? How do you feel knowing that in May...just a few short months, you are going to be a NURSE?!! I don't know, Teresa. I think you should stay full time. I really do. I do have sympathy for how you must be feeling. Is your family handling you being gone poorly? I don't know, maybe this is bad advice, but I know how you feel about wanting to get this done now! I think you should stay full-time, I really do.

:kiss

RN 2005 · Nov 19, 2003

Hi,

I really am sorry for your dilemma. I am also on track for a May 2005 graduation. I cannot even imagine what I would feel if I had to delay my graduation. I have made good, solid friendships that I would hate to give up. I have to say that I would do all I could to keep the pace you are on.

I know how hard it is. Are you putting too much pressure on yourself grade wise? I promised myself that when I got into the nursing program I would do what I could to keep my grades high but the number one goal for me is graduation so that I can pursue my goal of caring for others. Do you work? I work 30-40 hours per week and have 2 kids so I know how hard that can be too. I have had a week or two of serious burnout and have gotten sick. I have been forcing myself to nap and go to bed early no matter what. I am learning to delegate a bit around the house and it is not falling apart so that is progress. It sounds like you need a break to take care of YOU. I hope you can make it though this semester and over the break give yourself time to recharge. I really feel for you. I hope you can continue on and be a 2005 graduate alongside me!! Best of luck whatever you decide.

kahumai, RN · Nov 19, 2003

Obviously it's not my call, but my advice to you would be to keep going full time and get it over with as soon as possible. I had 3 years of classes before I even got into the nursing program, and now I'm almost done with my first semester. I had to quit my job and make a few arrangements in order to get by, but I'm doing it. Granted, I don't have any children, but it's still tough. I give you TONS of credit for getting this far already, and for not saying "I quit." Your husband is right that you have to make the decision yourself, but it sounds like he's willing to back you up no matter what. I would say to just stick with it because it'll be done before you know it. And when you get stressed out, frustrated, or just want to vent all your problems, that's what all the rest of us are here for! Good luck; I know you'll find a way to get through this!

TeresaRN2b · Nov 19, 2003

Thanks everyone for your replies. I went to sleep and woke up and just knew what the right thing to do for me was. I dropped to part time. I have 5 children ages 11, 7, 4, 2, and 6 months. My babies are only going to be babies for so much longer. I will be able to be a nurse the rest of my life. I am so glad to be at peace with this. I will miss my friends a lot, but I didn't go to school to make friends. I went to school to be a nurse and if they are truly my friends they will still be my friends even if I go to part time. So I guess it's time to change my signature.

Teresa

kwagner_51 · Nov 20, 2003

Teresa,

I am so glad you reached a decision!! Feels good doesn't it? I have 4 children so I can relate to the problems. I also agree with you, our babies don't stay babies for very long. I have goose bumps, just writing this.

I am only going part time, cause that is how our program is set up.

8 week 4 credit hours, then Mid-term, then 8 weeks 4 credit hours. Only my first semester would be considered full time, if I had pre-reqs. The class I am in is Fund. of Nursing. It lastes the entire 16 weeks, but it is only 8 hrs.

I finally broke down and offered to pay my kids to clean the house.

$5.00 for the kitchen

$3.50 each for the living room, dining room bathroom and family room in the basement. To make it fair, I put their names in a hat and assigned the jobs that way.

My 17 yr. old got the kitchen. My 13 yr. old got the dining room. My 11 y/o got the bathroom/family room, and my 8 y/o got the living room. I also pay $1.00 a night for helping to make supper, 5 days a week. Grand total is $20.50. Cheaper than a maid, and they learn something!

PM me or email me at [email protected] if I can help, with suggestions or if you just need to talk to another Mommy with LOTS of kids! :kiss

Go enjoy your babies, but remember to set aside Mommy time too!

Take care and God Bless you with His grace and peace!

jenrninmi, MSN, RN · Nov 20, 2003

{Hugs} Teresa! I'm glad you feel good about your decision. It WILL happen! Maybe we'll work in the same hospital some day?

Agnus · Nov 20, 2003

My guess is that you have insured your sucess with your decision. It may take a bit longer but the victory will be just as sweet. Had you gone the other way you might have jepordized ever reaching your goal.

You have a lot on your plate. You are doing just fine. Not everyone has on their plate what you do.

CarVsTree · Nov 21, 2003

Thanks everyone for your replies. I went to sleep and woke up and just knew what the right thing to do for me was. I dropped to part time. I have 5 children ages 11, 7, 4, 2, and 6 months.

I didn't see your post until tonight. As soon as I read it, I was saying to myself.... drop to P/T, drop to P/T.

You won't regret putting your babies first. I only have one (2) and she is why I'm doing ADN rather than BSN. They both would take about the same time chronologically (2 for ADN vs. 2.5 for BSN) but I would be putting in about twice as much time per semester.

I also have to work P/T and knew Kayla would suffer.

Don't think of the 5 semesters you have left. Think of each semester and let the others worry about themselves.

"Don't worry about tomorrow, today has enough worries of it's own." (very loosely paraphrased) Jesus Christ.

Great job Super Mom!!!

RN 2005 · Nov 22, 2003

I am glad you were able to decide!! We all take different paths, but the end result will still be the same.......We will all be nurses!!! You know what is best for you and your family. Good luck to you!!!

Love-A-Nurse · Nov 22, 2003

quote:

"you know what is best for you and your family. good luck to you!!!"

i agree.