Follow Your Gut Being Productive and Choosing to Withdraw

Many people don't want to waste their time. It has to be this year, this semester, if I don't do it now, I don't know what I'm gonna do. Many feel that if it can't be done this moment, it isn't meant to be or they have to change majors. I am here to share my story of what I should have done in the beginning, following my gut, and why I chose to withdraw from my program to return again in fall 2015. Nursing Students General Students Article

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Hello everyone! First off, I know that this isn't the happiest of topics to stumble upon, and this post is by no means written to scare future nursing students. This is just for insight and to share my experience with you all as many of you have been generous to do in the past for me.

Let me begin with the moment I was accepted into my program:

I was thrilled. I was a bit in awe, but who isn't when they finally reach the weed picking moments when you are among the chosen few. Am I right? I didn't want to waste any time. It was straight to the instructors' offices to ask them what they think I could do to maximize my understanding before being overwhelmed with material that was unlike anything else I had ever done.

So, you would think that I would have been advised to read ahead what I could during some of my spare time, right? Wrong. "Nope, we don't want you using the time you could be spending with your families studying or reading ahead, because once school starts, there will be no time for family."

Okay, so let me start off by saying that this was some of the worst advice any instructor could have given. I appreciate the intentions, but let's face it, we hate stress and struggling to make it after working this hard. Not to mention that this same instructor said we would be "fine" once school began. Right? Wrong, again.

We waited until school began, and guess how many chapters they expected us to read within a weeks time? 21. Yep, and let me tell you something, we are already spending 24 hours a week in the classroom lectures and labs, so we only had the time after we got out of class to read. Not so easy for people with families, jobs, and other responsibilities.

My advice to anyone in this situation where they told these same things; go with your gut instincts and read ahead. Ask students in the upper levels of your program if you can get a copy of their reading calendars so you know the pace they expect you to do everything. Spending an hour or so before school starts on reading the materials will lighten your stress, your load of learning, and give you more time with your families even during classes. Who doesn't want that?

Now, for ALL students facing the possible "W" word....Withrawing:

I go to a school that looks at what is called a didactic score, also known as your test average for the course. Each course has it's own didactic score and our school considers a failing grade a didactic average below a 75. This is probably familiar to those already in nursing school, but this was all new information and pressures added that I wasn't aware of before starting class. This might be something that you all can find out before hand.

I did really well in the beginning, even though it was the most demanding with our reading amount. I passed my first fundamentals exam with an 87, and my first pharm test with a 90. I thought I was going to do very well, and boy did it take a turn soon thereafter.

I was so scared about failing our first lab check-offs. I had heard about how strict some instructors had been by others sharing their experiences online. So I figured that I could focus more on getting past my first check-off, which was an immense amount of steps and knowledge, and then turn right back to pharm and study for the next exam. I was soooo wrong in doing this and didn't realize it until I got my first failing grade since high school.

My pharm tests are comprehensive so from that point on I struggled moving forward and barely passed my subsequent tests for pharm. I was constantly stressed out about pharm that it began to make me push fundamentals to the side to focus more in my other class. Make a mistake once, okay, make the same mistake twice....shame on me.

So it came to be that I was skipping several chapters in fundamentals to try making sense of my comprehensive pharm exam materials. I was lucky I managed to still make in the 80's in fundamentals. I started to become very disappointed in myself that I let my grades fall and got so behind I couldn't maximize my learning, and in fact I was looking at failing the class.

The deadline for withrawal was coming up, and I had a choice to make.

There are only 3 possible scenarios:

  1. Try to make it through with a minimum of a 75 in pharmacology and fundamentals and succeed. However, it will mean that I will struggle to learn in the later courses and will also lower my GPA, A LOT. This is especially bad for people who are considering to get higher degree levels later on.
  2. Try to make it but fail, which would mean that I could never come back to my same school and reapply, my GPA will be tarnished, greatly lowering my chances at getting in anywhere else, and it was all a waste of time and money
  3. Withdraw before the deadline, come back in 9 months having already read and knowing what is expected along with all those months to spend time with family while I learn the material before classes start again.....hmmmm

So as you can see, it took me quite a bit of deep thinking about the pros and cons to make my decision to drop my classes and to come back next fall new and refreshed....and AHEAD. I hope this gives some insight to you guys out there. Read ahead, find out when to read first so you will have a good rhythm down when classes start. Don't worry about lab skills so much as the theory, because that is the reason most students struggle and/or don't succeed. Use the 'Learning Objectives', study guides and try to use supplements made for your required texts, because the answers will be the same. If not the same texts, at least use supplements made by the same publishers because their information will be more "on the same page", if you will.

I am actually very happy I made this choice, and I can't wait to really maximize my learning in these next 9 months. Best of luck to all of you!

NURSE ON!

NNM

Specializes in None yet..

Congratulations on thinking through a tough choice. A+ on your critical thinking. I bet you don't regret it one moment now that you've made your decision.

My school has a 6 quarter and a 10 quarter option; people who don't do well academically or have personal issues (baby, family illness, etc.) have the option of withdrawing and doing the 10 quarter program. As someone who is struggling and miserable and has a friend who started before I did and then moved to the 10 Q and is so much happier.... I wish I had your courage. I'm doing well enough that I can't justify withdrawing but I suspect I'll get only more and more stressed and miserable as the quarter progresses. I'll be having that soul search in December.

And as someone who did read ahead over the summer, stop kicking yourself. It really makes very little difference, at least in my program. Congratulate yourself on another wise decision there.

SeattleJess said:
Congratulations on thinking through a tough choice. A+ on your critical thinking. I bet you don't regret it one moment now that you've made your decision.

My school has a 6 quarter and a 10 quarter option; people who don't do well academically or have personal issues (baby, family illness, etc.) have the option of withdrawing and doing the 10 quarter program. As someone who is struggling and miserable and has a friend who started before I did and then moved to the 10 Q and is so much happier.... I wish I had your courage. I'm doing well enough that I can't justify withdrawing but I suspect I'll get only more and more stressed and miserable as the quarter progresses. I'll be having that soul search in December.

And as someone who did read ahead over the Summer, stop kicking yourself. It really makes very little difference, at least in my program. Congratulate yourself on another wise decision there.

WOW!, I really thank you for your kind words. I hope that things go well for you. I know I can't completely avoid being stressed while I am in the program, but now that I did most of the first semester, I think I will have an advantage to reading ahead this time. I have lecture recordings and have taken the exams. I AM definitely glad I made this choice. I took this week off from doing anything school related to give me a break. My birthday and 6 year anniversary were both this week, so it felt great to just focus on family time ? I am excited to get back into my reading though. I liked the learning materials. I saved everything from my student account for both of my courses on my computer, so now I have recordings, ppts, notes, and time ? Best wishes to you in your nursing journey!

NURSE ON!

NNM

This is a decision I struggled with this week. I am only in the pre-req phase, but I had to drop Statistics because I was struggling. I knew the class had to be dropped for the sake of my other classes as well as my sanity. Thank you for your story.

Nursing school is hard. That is the best advice I can give any prospective student.

When I got accepted into nursing school, I took a six-month deferment and spent those six months getting ready. My wife (who happens to be a brilliant private tutor) helped me create a study plan to get a head start. We sat down with the class syllabuses, bought the required textbooks ahead of time, and used different tools from YouTube to the Nursing Diagnosis Handbook to begin learning the language of nursing. When I got to the Pharmacology class, I had already done most of the exercises in the Pharmacology for Nurses workbook. I was grateful for that experience ahead of time, because the first few months of nursing school are like trying to drink from a fire hose. I was able to relax and learn how it all tied together without getting so impossibly lost in the details.

So bravo. Do what you need to do. Nursing school will consume your every waking moment. It will leave you no time for socializing, hanging out with friends, or dealing with the drama at your day job. For the next two to four years, it is your life.

I am so glad that one of your options wasn't to give up because you had a rough start. You CAN do this! Best wishes future nurse.

Specializes in Neuro, Telemetry.

I honestly tell every student here who ask about studying ahead not to. And I stand by that. Even knowing that there will be immense amounts of reading once you start. Better advice, other then reading ahead and not spending you last bit of free time with family is to learn how to read properly. Instructors dont expect you to read and retain every single word from the chapters. Much of this will be gone over in class. And the chapters you have to read are usually from multiple books, and those chapters will be similar information just in a different book. You really only need to skim through the chapters and focus on the objectives and pictures and graphs. Spending too much time trying to read everything does not help. I would even go as far as to say that you probably actually learn less that way because instead of reviewing lecture material and breezing through for things you dont understand, your brain will be overloaded.

I understand that some programs have more reading required then others, but to be honest, I was points away from an A in block one without so much as cracking open a single theory book. I only really used my drug guide, lab book, and patho book for careplans. But we also had some really great instructors so reading was more supplimental. If you have tougher instructors who dont lecture much, then you may have to do a bit more reading in off time, but even then, it doesnt need to be every single word from every chapter assigned.

Basically what I'm getting at, is that reading ahead or not will come down to how a student learns best and how their school teaches and tests. SOME may need to read ahead. SOME may not. SOrry you had a rough go the first time around. Hopefully this time you will know whats expected and come out on top. GL

Awesome advice thanks for posting. This advice is especially helpful for those of us that has to work fulltime. I'm the kind of person that has to read all of my books before the semester even starts and try all of the questions atleast twice, so that when I'm actually in class, class feels like a review session rather than me seeing it for the first time. I thought that I was the only one, lol.

Nope, not alone. In fact, I think anyone who can read all the materials is the odd man out, honestly. The volume of reading is simply too much for a typical person who needs to eat, sleep and have family or job obligations. For the lucky someone who has someone else paying the bill for them, where all they need to do is concentrate on school - I would expect that person to know everything. But for the rest of us, not possible. Dropping out is a tough decision to make, especially since we all know how cutthroat it is just to make it in to begin with. I think people who do it are brave (I'm not sure I could face my reality in those shoes) and are honest and are mentally in a better place for knowing that this might not be for them, whether it's the wrong timing or just whatever. I applaud those people for being honest enough to themselves.

Your story took me back to the time that I decided to withdraw. I was only taking my nursing pre-requisites but I could feel myself checking out of school. I finally left for 8 months so I could really have to to think about my future. I can back in the spring refreshed and ready to learn. I've just been accepted into my top nursing programs (whoo!) but I'll confess, your post got me a little worried about my program that's starting in January. Is it really worth it to read and study ahead?

pipmunk said:
Your story took me back to the time that I decided to withdraw. I was only taking my nursing pre-requisites but I could feel myself checking out of school. I finally left for 8 months so I could really have to to think about my future. I can back in the Spring refreshed and ready to learn. I've just been accepted into my top nursing programs (whoo!) but I'll confess, your post got me a little worried about my program that's starting in January. Is it really worth it to read and study ahead?

To be honest, I haven't started back yet, but not reading ahead made me struggle once more complex materials were added in. I would definitely give it a shot. I mean, that is what I am doing so I would suggest it to anyone else. My gut instincts on school related matters have always been correct in the end. PM me if you would like some help on what direction to take. we can discuss it over Skype ? I did very well in my courses when the reading was done so I can give you what I already know.

I wish you could have been there to hear my huge sigh of relief after reading your article. I am in a similar situation where I face withdrawal or risk an F. To have an F will bring my GPA way below the minimum of 2.5, IF my calculations are correct. Even if they are not correct, I face anxiety that totally detracts from my learning and clinical performance & I simply don't encourage patients if I have my telltale shruggy shoulder. As the underlying problem, I need to fix it before I can move forward in nursing school or life.

I had already made my decision before reading your article, but I still felt relieved that someone else had that same "gut" instinct. And I needed that. So thank you for sharing and being so insightful.

Specializes in Public Health Nurse.

I congratulate you for thinking it through and making a decision that you can live with. I worked full time while doing my ADN, and it was not easy. I had challenges along the way, but always managed to get up and dust myself off and continue on. Today as I write this, I will finish my BSN in December; not even having no job RN prospect when I finished my ADN two years ago made me want to stop and not continue my nursing education, though there were times that I felt down and unsure, but those times did not last long enough to make me want to quit.

I totally understand the desire to reading ahead and preparing yourself to making the program easier, not all of us study the same way or grasp concepts the same. I do remember that while in the ADN I sacrificed a lot of family time, friends or doing what I loved to do because I had no down time. Some classmates were able to do it, in fact, in my part time program a lot of us were mature students with families, and I admired those that had small children, worked full time, and in nursing school.

Challenges or failures is life asking if you really want to proceed, and for me it was a yes! I like your positive outlook and wish you much success, and as you say "Nurse on" :yes: