OK since I am kind of new here I want to clarify some things. I try not to be too verbose when typing posts. However, this one is long and needs some explanation. Before I begin, I want to thank everyone for their feedback. It helps me put some things in perspective.
First the official grades were posted today, and I earned a 90%.
Second, about the empathy issue...well, you had to be there. I saw this all the time with people taking their pre-requisites. They would only study 2-3 hours before an exam, and they were so excited to try and get in the nursing program
, but all they were concerned about was doing the bare minimum. In one course I had to take, we had to do a group project and we were going to receive a group grade. We had the option to vote someone out of the group if we feel like they were not doing their share within a set time frame (we had 2 months to complete the project, and we had 3 weeks to make the decision). I was doing my portion and
another person's portion because they were not doing anything. So the third week into the project we discussed the issue (the person in question would not even show up for meetings after agreeing to the meeting times), voted that person out and presented to the instructor valid reasons why.
As far as with patients - I am very empathetic. I used to be clergy, and I have sat at the bedside of several different parishioners in Hospice. As far as colleagues taking the same classes as me...I realize there is a difference between someone who tried as hard as they could to earn that C+ grade, and someone who just flippantly says, "As long as I pass that's all I care about." If someone was ecstatic for getting that C+ because they worked REALLY hard at it, that is one thing. But if someone says, "At least I passed" and the only studying they did was 2 hours before the exam - to me that shows they don't even care ... (and there were people who said, "I only studied 2 hours before the exam").
In fact, it was empathy that caused me to be a peer tutor at the University I attend for GOBC / AP / Micro / Stats classes. I had a not so good instructor for GOBC 1. During my first year, I vowed to find time to become a peer tutor so that I could help other students who want to enter the program. After my second year, I was able to add AP , Micro, and Stats.
One person I tutored was concerned that she was not going to get into the nursing program. The student scored low on the first AP exam. I worked with her, saw her average increase considerably (one whole grade letter). The student emailed me and was really excited because after our review sessions before her final, she earned a 98.
So it's not that I am not
empathetic. It just depends on the situation. I have friends in the Nursing Program with me that only earned B's on their first Patho exam - and they are pretty smart. I know they worked as hard as they could because they earned A's in AP, just as I did. If a student does not even try and flippantly blows it off as, "at least I passed..." that is different than, "I studied hard for this C+ ..."
I hope that clears some things up. I know other people have things going on in their lives. Me, I just have a wife, 3 cats and a dog. I am blessed with a considerable more study time than most students, and I use it wisely. This year I have been REALLY busy with peer tutoring (which is my job). A week before my patho exam, I had at least one person I was tutoring an hour for a total of 16 hours.
One more thing: my Foundations lab partner - since I am a Certified Medical Assistant, I help show her how to do things such as vital signs. I try to be as helpful as I can with my lab partner without infringing on the instructor's territory - if that makes sense.
I didn't want anyone to begin thinking I just think it's awful if people don't live up to "my" standard. My standard is only for me, and me alone. But, on a more personal level, I don't know why some people - and we all know there are people out there like this - are just happy with the "bare minimum."
Maybe they do have a learning disability? Maybe they could only find 2 hours before the test to study? There will be people like that in class. Again, though, there are some who are just happy to do the bare minimum and not put much effort into their work.
So I hope this clears some things up. My deepest apologies if I came across brash on this issue.