Bad moment w/my son this morning.

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I feel soooo bad right now...:crying2:

I woke up this morning feeling a little anxious. I have a Psychology final tomorrow...and I haven't even read the last chapter.

I then woke up my 3 sons and began getting everyone ready for school. I said to everyone "OK let's get moving this morning so we don't have to rush off to school. You know mommy is not the happiest when we all have to rush". And I then headed to the other room to get breakfast ready.

Once everyone was in the kitchen, I went to sit down and relax (have morning coffee) for a few. I did my regular call from the couch..."we have 15 more minutes and don't forget to brush your teeth and wash your faces". My oldest son comes to tell me that the middle son hasn't even started eating. When I enter the kitchen there is my middle son standing at the table doing nothing. I ask him what is the wrong. And he tells me that he is waiting for his big brother to finish so he can sit in THAT chair. I almost lost it because there are 4 empty chairs that he could pick from...but I remained cool and told him to sit, and hurry.

After giving everyone lunch money and telling them to put it in their pocket...I find a ten dollar bill on the floor. Guess whose it is. Yup, the middle son. I told him, with a bit of attitude, to pick it up and put it in his pocket.

Next came the reminder to put on shoes and coats and get backpacks...we have 5 minutes left. When it is time to walk out the door, there are only 2 kids ready and at the door. I go to find the middle son and he is in the coat closet without a coat, without a backpack and staring at his shoes. When asked what was wrong he tells me that his shoelace is broken. At this point I lost it. Yes the shoelace was broken. But guess what. That was not the pair of shoes he is even supposed to wear to school. The correct pair were sitting right next to him. I did a bit of ranting and raving and he ended up in tears.

After arriving at school, I reassured him that I was not mad at him and I love him. But I could see in his eyes that he was still just not right.

So here I am, back at home, needing to do some serious studying, but I am thinking about my poor baby. I just want to go back to school and hold him and give him lots of big kisses:kiss

For those parents out there...do you ever have these mornings or am I just an awful parent? And if you do have these mornings how do you resolve them?

Boy, can I relate!! We have had mornings like already and I am just NOW getting ready to start back to school full time. My best advice is learn from your mistakes. I know that I have to get one of my children up at a certain time because he just moves more slowly than my daughter. I also know that I HATE to be rushed out the door. My mother did it to me and I just can't stand it. I try to get everyone up with plenty of time so I don't have to keep reminding every two minutes for them to do a particular task. Anyway, sometimes it works, and sometimes not. Also, for my son, I say, if you "choose" not to be ready on time, you will have to go to bed earlier and get up sooner. This seems to be a great motivater!

Also, it is Monday! We ALL hate them!:D

Jen

Specializes in LTC, ER, ICU,.

oh my stars, yes! i have those morning, days, and nights! all the best on your finals.

I have been right there with you, sometimes the look on my sons(2 boys) faces makes me think I must look like Linda Blair in "The Exorcist". My head spins around and spit starts coming out of my mouth. :eek: I feel the same way you do, when I drop them off. I feel so da** guilty....I beat myself up..Usually I can't stop thinking of those faces all day and worrying that I've ruined their day and they probably won't be able to concentrate etc etc...only to find out when I pick them up, they are happy as can be and totally forgot the whole incident(probably the minute they ran into their pals). So cheer up and give him and his brothers an extra big hug when you pick them up. Their love is unconditional too... :)

I have those days all the time, they are more the norm than a calm, sane morning. My older two are teens, and have learned to get themselves ready, but I am constantly having to referee between them in the morning because one or the other is hogging the bathrooom, or hogging the milk, or they can't find their lunch money. They both take the bus so at least I don't have to hear the fight about who gets to sit in front. (Yes, they still fight over that :confused: )

And my two year old is in the phase of negativity, as I learned in the growth and development portion of my nursing program. The answer to everything is NO!, he takes clothes off faster than I can put them back on, and he's gotten to be a pretty fast runner when he wants to get away from me. We often circle the house several times before I can catch him to get his coat on so we can leave. And I've got news for the authors of the growth and development text - Giving choices to toddlers to help ease their negativity DOES NOT WORK!!! What a bunch of baloney. :rolleyes:

I went to work on my RN when my kids where 5 and 7. It was really tough. I can't imagine what it would have been like with 3 kids. Good luck and God bless.

Specializes in NICU.

Thank you all for your replies...you brought me happiness throughout the day.

My boys are all home now, and as many of you said they have totally forgotten the incident.

Thanks again!

Specializes in Critical Care.

The joys of parenthood, LOL. After working my night shift I got home to find my daughter had slept through her 3 alarm clocks and missed the bus AGAIN !!! oh well, off to school we go, who care if I am so tired I could just drop dead behind the wheel. Your morning sounds more normal than abnormal when you have kids.

I love this thread. Mine are teens too, but I still have mornings like this. Big {{{Hugs}}} to all Moms and the Kids who put up with us. :chuckle

I FEEL FOR ANY PARENT, AFTER READING HOW YOUR MORNING WENT, I AM GALD THAT I DECIDE TO STAY RUG - RAT FREE.......GOD BLESS ALL PARENTS :)

Here, too, Mama is NOT the most exemplary mama in the world. Mama is quite b*tchy in the morning, and BOTH of the younger kids are pokey puppies.........

BUT..........the day will come soon that all of us are out of school and back to normal lives......

Hang in there.

You should have just pushed him into the closet and let him stay there instead of school.

I have 3 kids and the middle one is the one that causes me grief too.

Argues all the time with me. I have taken to putting him on "hard labor". I have this pile of old lumber that I have kids move from one part of the property to the other when they get in trouble. Also firewood stacking, trash picking up. car washing etc...

I have been in your shoes.

-Russell

I feel your pain...My 2 kids are 7 and 3...(girl, boy) My daughter is the only drama queen in the morning and it takes at least 10 minutes to put on one sock....my son wants to watch t.v. and I am running around like a chicken without a head!!! To make matters worst my husband too takes 10 min to put on one sock(but his excuse is he's watching ESPN) A women's work is really never ever done!!! :chair:

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