Ahh! Nursing and Dating...

EricJRN, MSN, RN · Sep 21, 2007

Is she in the nursing program also? Maybe there are some program-related things you can do together (studying, etc) - as long as that wouldn't turn out to be a big distraction.

StephyJaye · Sep 21, 2007

Nursing school doesn't make dating impossible, just a bit of a challenge.

I went from seeing my boyfriend a few times a week to once a week or every 2 weeks due to school/work. But he is also totally understanding & realizes this is what I want to do, and I need to focus. Our plan is to save the money we aren't spending going out, and take a vacation this summer.

kukukajoo, LPN · Sep 21, 2007

I always thought I would be single and not date all through nursing school until recently. I am a second year student and been single for 3 years, expecting that a boyfriend would be harder than having another kid. I just didn't think I had the time to nurture and develop a relationship or time to spend with anyone. I figured I didn't need the added stress.

Then WHAMMY! IT happened. This summer an old friend I have known for 8-9 years helped me out with some stuff and we began spending time together. Never ever thought we would end up together and neither looking for a relationship but somehow the world turned on its axis!

So far it has been the best relationship I have EVER had and he is very supportive and it makes life less stressful in so many ways. And here I thought the opposite would happen! It has already made a positive difference in so many aspects and is so refreshing!

It is a challenge to find quality time together but somehow we manage and he is just so helpful and supportive of me and my education. He has no problem coming over and hanging watching the ballgame with my gram and kids while I am holed upstairs studying. He does not feel neglected and understands this is what I need to be doing and not a reflection of how I feel for him. He seems to intuitively know what I need and fills the need, wether it be with house stuff, a hug and encouragement or someone to quiz me with my flashcards.

Yesterday he was over and I was cooking a big dinner. I got very sick out of nowhere and had to go lay down. He not only finished supper, but cleaned the entire house and did the dishes and everything! Then he took my youngest out for her driving lesson promised to her and made sure my gram who lives with me was all set and happy!!

I am honestly beginning to think of the future in terms of "us" and not just "me" anymore. I keep wondering if this is fate and if we will be in this for the long term. I swear all our mutual friends are already planning our wedding!

Okay enough gushing- it can happen and can be positive, but you have to have great communication and mutual respect and understanding.

So go for it!! If her schedule is as crazy as yours- then she already understands!! Midnite drives can be a great way to spend time together!

happydays352 · Sep 21, 2007

It can be hard to go to school and work plus have a relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for 3years all during undergrad and my first year of nursing school. I live with him so it's a little easier to find time. The best thing we did was find one night a week that we would dedicate to one another. Sometimes he would help me study, or we would clean house run errands etc. No matter what though we were together on that day. Even if I felt like we were ships passing in the night the rest of the week that one day has been enough to keep us going. Try to find your own date night and make plans with her, clear your schedule of everything else if at all possible. Maybe I'm a sap but a great love is worth the sacrifice. Hopefully she's yours!

locolorenzo22, BSN, RN · Sep 21, 2007

It makes it tough....I'm "dating" a girl that I met online, we get along great...but I think between both our schedules it's not going to work....I work nights and go to school, she's a special ed teacher and usually doesn't even make it home til 7-8. Haven't really talked to her since almost 2 weeks ago, because we each have had no time to talk.....

However, it makes it tough. I also have called a couple times, left a message, and then gotten almost no response....I'm calling it over, until I hear otherwise....

I do have to say that NS gives you a unique perspective on the female psyche....just being the only male in your class is reason enough to get along with everyone. We had this huge discussion yesterday with management topics about men vs. women....and of course it was explained that it's not male bashing, but men get a bad rap....

Keep on keeping on, bro.....if it happens, it happens...If it doesn't, there's only a short time til pinning!!!

Cherish · Sep 21, 2007

I always thought I would be single and not date all through nursing school until recently. I am a second year student and been single for 3 years, expecting that a boyfriend would be harder than having another kid. I just didn't think I had the time to nurture and develop a relationship or time to spend with anyone. I figured I didn't need the added stress.
Then WHAMMY! IT happened. This summer an old friend I have known for 8-9 years helped me out with some stuff and we began spending time together. Never ever thought we would end up together and neither looking for a relationship but somehow the world turned on its axis!
So far it has been the best relationship I have EVER had and he is very supportive and it makes life less stressful in so many ways. And here I thought the opposite would happen! It has already made a positive difference in so many aspects and is so refreshing!
It is a challenge to find quality time together but somehow we manage and he is just so helpful and supportive of me and my education. He has no problem coming over and hanging watching the ballgame with my gram and kids while I am holed upstairs studying. He does not feel neglected and understands this is what I need to be doing and not a reflection of how I feel for him. He seems to intuitively know what I need and fills the need, wether it be with house stuff, a hug and encouragement or someone to quiz me with my flashcards.
Yesterday he was over and I was cooking a big dinner. I got very sick out of nowhere and had to go lay down. He not only finished supper, but cleaned the entire house and did the dishes and everything! Then he took my youngest out for her driving lesson promised to her and made sure my gram who lives with me was all set and happy!!
I am honestly beginning to think of the future in terms of "us" and not just "me" anymore. I keep wondering if this is fate and if we will be in this for the long term. I swear all our mutual friends are already planning our wedding!
Okay enough gushing- it can happen and can be positive, but you have to have great communication and mutual respect and understanding.
So go for it!! If her schedule is as crazy as yours- then she already understands!! Midnite drives can be a great way to spend time together!

Ok Kukukajoo when are you going to ask him to marry ya? LOL, don't let this one go. You sound like a teenager gushing over her boyfriend , very sweet!

southernbelle08 · Sep 21, 2007

Glad to hear it is working out for other folks!!! I have honest to God sworn off relationships until I get past this phase of my life. I don't know what I would do if the opportunity presented itself, but I am not actively looking. I think the Lord knows what I can/can't handle. I just don't see how on earth it would work right now, but you know....guess I couldn't know if I've never tried. I'm still not gonna though, I swear! At this rate I will never get married.

kukukajoo, LPN · Sep 21, 2007

Ok Kukukajoo when are you going to ask him to marry ya? LOL, don't let this one go. You sound like a teenager gushing over her boyfriend , very sweet!

Been too soon for that but I am hoping if things keep going well that he will be asking ME!!! I am in no hurry, but I definately want to hang onto him! I DOOOOO feel like a teenager again- it has been sooo great and wonderful!!

He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me!!!

MB37 · Sep 22, 2007

When I started dating my husband I was working 11p-7a, and he was and still is working 10a-6p. We would try to fit in dates in the early evening, go out to eat, and it would be my breakfast and his dinner. I couldn't have a glass of wine since I had to go to work after. I quit that job, and started another one where my schedule was 6p-2a. He got home from work after I left for work. I stayed there for 3.5 years, and about a year into our relationship started taking NS prereqs. I started NS 5 days after we got married. That was in New Orleans, and Katrina flooded my school 3 weeks and a day after our wedding. We moved to Florida, and I started working days for the first time ever. However, they were weekend days, because I had to take another year of prereqs during the week since they wanted different classes out here. I started NS in May, and I'm still married and my school is above sea level this time. I'm just trying to say that there really isn't a "good time" to start a relationship. It seems like you find the best ones when you're actively NOT looking for one. If it's meant to be, it will be. I maybe wouldn't be going on blind dates, subscribing to online matchmaking services, etc. while in school, but if you find someone cool you'll figure out a way to spend time with him/her.

tahnz0 · Sep 23, 2007

an excellent subject :)

i believe that if things are meant to happen they will.

i am in my 3rd year bachelour of nursing, and was definatly not looking for a bf, i have many friends that are boys but never anything more.

then one day, i met this lovely boy, although definatly wasnt too my liking. he lives 2 and half hrs away. we began to just be friends and saw each other say every 3 weeks for a weekend.

things just blossomed, we both really enjoy each others company, and its very special when we finally get to see each other due to the distance, my study and his work. he is an apprectice plumber.

im only 20, he is 21... i have relised now that company and cherishing people for who they are is really special. let things take their course.

good luck!! i hope all goes well with ur new flame :lol2:

DesertRain · Sep 23, 2007

When I started dating my husband I was working 11p-7a, and he was and still is working 10a-6p. We would try to fit in dates in the early evening, go out to eat, and it would be my breakfast and his dinner. I couldn't have a glass of wine since I had to go to work after. I quit that job, and started another one where my schedule was 6p-2a. He got home from work after I left for work. I stayed there for 3.5 years, and about a year into our relationship started taking NS prereqs. I started NS 5 days after we got married. That was in New Orleans, and Katrina flooded my school 3 weeks and a day after our wedding. We moved to Florida, and I started working days for the first time ever. However, they were weekend days, because I had to take another year of prereqs during the week since they wanted different classes out here. I started NS in May, and I'm still married and my school is above sea level this time. I'm just trying to say that there really isn't a "good time" to start a relationship. It seems like you find the best ones when you're actively NOT looking for one. If it's meant to be, it will be. I maybe wouldn't be going on blind dates, subscribing to online matchmaking services, etc. while in school, but if you find someone cool you'll figure out a way to spend time with him/her.

This should be a movie. Your story gave me goosebumps!

I met my husband when I was in my first semester of pre-reqs. We just got married this summer and he is very supportive and understanding of my studies. I think that when you have someone that can bare with you through NS, then you really have a keeper.