What's special about male nurses? - page 6

Hi everyone, I'm pre-nursing, and everyone keeps talking to me about how male nurses are in demand and what an asset it's going to be for me. I get that men rarely enter the profession, but I don't... Read More

  1. by   NurseTomasAZ
    i'm halfway through nursing school, working as an lpn in a lt care facility. this being arizona, about 1/4 of the nurses here are male -- i know that ratio is higher in critical care and surgury, but, i yam where i yam at this current stage in my education. i've been an lpn for only a couple months, and i can already see the biggest benefit provided by my gender: i am almost automatically excused from participation in the personality wars that often rage around us. females are pretty much forced to choose sides.

    i'm hoping it's not just because i'm new there, because i often feel like i've walked onto the set of "heathers", or "mean girls", and yet i'm (thankfully)not in the script! i'd like to hope this benign exclusion lasts and lasts for me!

    these same snarky women turn around and treat us males quite civilly, and are almost always dependably helpful, to us men. so we males have made a pact --a man law, if you will, that we stay out of these female troubles at all cost! the longer to preserve this exceptionalism we enjoy now.

    i know other posters have expounded on the improved civilities that emerge when staffing becomes closer to 50-50. and maybe we'll see that someday at our facility. but for now i'm just happy to not be in the loop!

    i do feel sorry for my female school collegues, working there alongside us guys, and being dragged into the cliques very much against their goodwill, goodnature, and good sense. it's highly unfair to them.

    makes me tempted to where that t-shirt i bought years ago, to work:

    [font=franklin gothic medium]"i may not be bright, but i can lift heavy objects" :smilecoffeeilovecof
  2. by   dream'n
    All of my co-workers are female. Recently, a job opened up and they interviewed several people, including a male. I hoped, hoped, hoped that he would get the job! Alas, they offered it to another female. I'm sure she is a fine nurse, but I'm still a little secretly bummed. I'm going to be totally un-PC and just speak from my experience. Every job that I have had where I had male co-workers come in a previously all-female work area, the dynamic of the unit was changed, mostly subtlely, but still changed, and certainly for the better. The cattiness level dropped and people became more professional, and yet friendlier. I don't know why. Maybe the co-workers that were catty didn't want to appear so b****y with a male around. The males added a little bit of sunshine to the units. Again I don't know why. But trust me my work area could use a little sunshine.
  3. by   serg
    Quote from Alexsys
    I agree!
    Here, in Russia, nurses are usualy female, because very low salary.
    But in some areas nurses male fit better, in intensive care or ER, my thoughts.
  4. by   MsBruiser
    Quote from GBS_Fan
    Hi everyone,
    I'm pre-nursing, and everyone keeps talking to me about how male nurses are in demand and what an asset it's going to be for me. I get that men rarely enter the profession, but I don't see why there is all this buzz or what people think men can do differently. If anyone would care to share their perspectives on this I'd appreciate, cuz I'm not seeing it!
    When I interviewed for an externship position at a major hopsital, 50% of the questions dealt with matters such as "how would you respond to a co-worker who talked about you behind your back, what would you do if a co-worker undermined you, etc, etc." You could have picked me up off of the floor - I have never in my life been asked such silly questions in almost 15 years worth of corporate experience. So I basically told the directors - yes, these were high-level unit directors - "work is work - friend and family are friends and family. I just don't care what people say." One turned to the other and said "we need to hire more men here."

    As a nursing student I am continually amazed at how "some" of the female students continually undermine each other, and find drama in situations where no drama exists. I can honestly say I have never really had a problem with an RN during clinicals. If one seems a bit nasty or indifferent - I just take what I can and deal. No biggie. For some, not all, of the women in my class the same day is drama, drama, drama. A nasty comment or silly glance can become the basis of a day-long verbal duel culminating in tears, complaints, a scene, etc.

    I'm a person who is considered a Blue State, liberal, feminist type guy. But since I started my nursing program I am just amazed at some of the negative gender differences I have found with SOME of the students in my class. So I think guys in nursing do have it easier...we just roll with the punches better and generally take less crap so people give us less crap.

    BTW, I almost never get asked to do more than my share of heavy lifting around a unit. People are quite good about asking for/and giving help in that area. And I'm a Blue State, liveral, feminist type guy who works out a lot.
  5. by   barneyrn
    I'm a man. I've been an RN for 16 years. Most of the comments I have heard over the years from my female counterparts have been positive as relates to pay raises and muscles. As for the backstabbing, well...everybody is entitled to a bad day, but that bad day should not turn into a life-style choice. Barneyrn
  6. by   swatch007
    You have the power to make male DRs uncomfortable when they are trying to flirt with female nurses around you without saying a word. And if you have to say something say it with firmness, and avoid sending mixed messages. Well that is just one small part of what you can do. :smilecoffeeIlovecof
  7. by   guerrierdelion
    Quote from GBS_Fan
    Hi everyone,
    I'm pre-nursing, and everyone keeps talking to me about how male nurses are in demand and what an asset it's going to be for me. I get that men rarely enter the profession, but I don't see why there is all this buzz or what people think men can do differently. If anyone would care to share their perspectives on this I'd appreciate, cuz I'm not seeing it!
    [FONT="Georgia"] [FONT="Georgia"]In the U.S. Navy, men are not a rarity-male RNs or male Nurse Corps Officers are commonplace.

    In regards to male RNs counterparts in the civilian world/sector, perhaps the increasing presence of men will improve working conditions and pay for women and men alike.
  8. by   macspuds
    I feel that male nurses are so special. They have more compassion and seem to understand things as they happen.
    I am a female nurse who would take a male nurse's care any day.
    They don't think that they are special, but have the same calling as any nurse does that's worth their salt.
    Congrats to any male that will join us in our world to help treat our patients with dignity.
    macspuds
  9. by   brendamyheart
    Quote from Alexsys
    I agree!
    Dito!!
  10. by   brendamyheart
    Quote from tgb3rn
    LOL, was thinking the same thing!!!
    Now watch everyone get mad over you saying that.
    Hey not mad about the hormone thing! I blame Adam for this. He did not have to eat the apple in the first place .
  11. by   royr
    Quote from brendamyheart
    I blame Adam for this. He did not have to eat the apple in the first place .
    I tell my 6 year old Daughter and her Sunday school classmates the same thing - NEVER talk to snakes that talk back. Those are the sneaky kind so cover your ears and walk away from them. Not Adams Fault - Not Eves's - We place the blame on that talking snake. It works for everyone!
  12. by   twotrees2
    [QUOTE=royr;1939211]I tell my 6 year old Daughter and her Sunday school classmates the same thing - NEVER talk to snakes that talk back. Those are the sneaky kind so cover your ears and walk away from them. Not Adams Fault - Not Eves's - We place the blame on that talking snake. It works for everyone![/QUOT

    awesome- i like that may have to use that nalogy myself.
  13. by   wonderbee
    Quote from guerrierdelion
    In the U.S. Navy, men are not a rarity-male RNs or male Nurse Corps Officers are commonplace.

    In regards to male RNs counterparts in the civilian world/sector, perhaps the increasing presence of men will improve working conditions and pay for women and men alike.
    I agree that more men in the profession change the stereotypical view of nurses. That can only lead to positive legitimate change for all of us.

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