Welcome to the Shangri-La: My (Almost) Perfect Job - page 3

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At the risk of jinxing everything, I'm going to say it: I never thought I'd find my perfect nursing job. In fifteen years as an RN, I've held a grand total of thirteen jobs. Granted, some of them were part-time positions I... Read More


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    Hey, Marla, maybe you can work out a deal where you work there until you need to live there. That way, you never have to leave. I'm imagining a transitional period where you taper down your work hours and just sleep over occasionally until you and your dh just move in.

    Having followed your job sojourn for a little more than six years, I'm so glad you found your Shangri-la. I remember your short-term joy in several new positions, followed by the shock of reality and then the hasty retreat toward the door. You sound so much happier now than you did back then. You're an ace at trying to make the best of bad situations, but had you stayed in a couple of those nasty jobs, I don't know if you'd still be alive to tell the tale.
    You can say that again! Having a nervous breakdown in the nurse manager's office like I did the last time I worked at the hospital is not good form, but it was better than holding it in until the stress killed me. One time I had a headache that wouldn't go away for several days; finally, I had another nurse check my blood pressure. It was 260/130. I am convinced that the only reason I got away with a B/P that high is probably my relative youth at the time (early 40s).

    You know, it's funny---I was just talking to my boss the other day about the very same idea you had about moving in to my ALF after retirement. I can see myself needing such a place at some point later in life anyway---I just have too many ailments NOT to think I'll need help down the line. What better place to live than there?? And just think, I'd never have to try to get in someplace else where the admissions coordinator would take one look at my list of diagnoses and go "oh H*!! no!"
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    To the naysayer poster- Yes, there are Shangri La nursing positions in nursing! They are not specific positions, they could be in any area of nursing, and level of nursing, in any setting. They are positions where the individual nurse doesn't feel insurmountable stress to the point where the job is a chore, brings it home, lives it 24/7 even on their days off, makes them and their family miserable, One where the nurse cannot find any reason to stay but needing a paycheck- which by the way is "selfish"- because how effective is a nurse/any nurse stuck in a job like that.

    Shangri la is called "job satisfaction" It is a position where the positives of continuing to work there far outweight the negatives. Where you feel like you are actually contribiting something good and are affirmed by either coworkers or your bosses, and most often both, for doing a good job, you are valued and needed and them seeing your good points that you, your self, didn't see becasue all the other positions you've held did nothing but criticize, criticize, criticize and point out the negative attributes or the "needs working on"The bosses and positions that sap the life out of you so there is nothing to give to the people that really matter- the patients. Remember them. They're the people who if they weren't there, you wouldn't be either! These are the positions were the patients are the real focus, not pleasing the boss or corporate. These are the positions where there is NO positive feed back- it's just a contant beating the nurse into the ground. When one attemps many short term positions- these kind of positions/employment settings are very evident very quickly. My last was day 2 on the new job but I stuck it our for 6 weeks- I ended up reporting the place to the Dept of health for let's just say- healthcare workers perform tasks out of their license scope of practice and in in some case- practicing nursing with out a license. That is not a place where I am going to stay and risk my RN license for. Eventually that place will take the nurse down and into court. Not a place I want to be.

    I know for me, like Viva, have had 'too numerous to count' short term jobs in my nursing career-30 years, mostly all them in the hosptial. My Shangri La didn't come in a hospiital setting, My Shangri La was only discovered because I dared to get out of undesirable positions and explore 'out of the box areas' perhaps out of desperation and needing a paycheck,perhaps out of sheer exasperation of exahusting all the hospital settings around me which every place I went was "same crap different day"( in some of these positions, an inner gut feeling actually said "RUN, Now!)perhaps because I was just plain fed up with nursing in general and that out of the box area was the last chance I was going to give nursing it's chance to prove it self to me.


    My Shangri La position was a contract position - I knew when the end of the contract was. As I got into this position I started out knowing nothing of what I was doing and then the light bulbs went off and clicked-I kept hoping the day would not come and by some act of congress, that end of contract would not come. I worked with wonderful people- from the higher ups to the little ones below me, it was a whole different world for me, I was told i had a good work ethic by my Nurse manager who would come an find me and and tell me "It's lunchtime" or tell me it was quitting time. I had a wonderful Nurse Manager, coworkers and a nursing supervisor that used to make me laugh, we would go out to lunch, every excuse was found to have a celebration/ party at work. People were publically praised and recognized for their efforts, The nursing director did daily rounds and stuck his head in to see how each nurse was doing and knew our names- the concern was genuine, if there was a problem, they would help solve it or get back to you about the status and final out come. It was decent, respectful and supportive. It made me want to exceed myself each day I went there. I didn't look over my shoulder wondering where the next point out you mistake was coming from or what did I do wrong now. I was able to critically think clearly and make good solid judgements and not second guess myself because of it. It was just a nice place to be at. A rarity in this profit driven mean competative world. There were none of these annoying phrases of _ "that being said" not a good fit, under one umbrella bull crap- phrases that just don't set well with you which are corporate lingo to mask the "you're not as good as me. The mask of never being good enough. The defeat inspiring phrasings at every turn that produce the feeling of " so why am I here to begin with" That is my version of Shangri La. it's not one specific place- It's a work place culture, ethics and environment. These companies can spend millions on tooting their corporate cultures in fancy brochures but if the higher ups don't walk the walk and inspire their employees- then that money is wasted . Poop rolls down hill and like poop, so do bad attitudes.
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