Welcome to the Shangri-La: My (Almost) Perfect Job - page 2

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At the risk of jinxing everything, I'm going to say it: I never thought I'd find my perfect nursing job. In fifteen years as an RN, I've held a grand total of thirteen jobs. Granted, some of them were part-time positions I... Read More


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    I'm glad you've found your perfect job as I am still looking for mine.
    I'm just not sure I'll find it as a nurse. I'm glad that you did.
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    Thank you so much for sharing this. I've been a nurse for only 3 years, but haven't kept the same job for that long for a lot of the same reasons you've listed above. I really just haven't found my niche yet either. I yearn for a job where the stress doesn't drive me up the walls and have me feeling like I didn't do enough. I really am burnt out from rude doctors, management, and families...I'm thinking bedside isn't for me anymore. But like I said, I haven't quite found my niche yet.

    Anyway, glad to hear I'm not the only one. Your article helped to calm the waters for me..for now (although I continue to search for job openings).

    Good luck. Thanks again.
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    Please explain what a peripatetic nurse does.
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    I am currently on my "dream"job for the 3rd yr. It is something that I never thought I'd like (hard-core pysch being my niche), but it still is psych in a way (well isn't all nursing though). I work at a residental TBI place and care for 16 patients with head injury of course but also various other ailments. I have 6 cna's under me, and they do most EXCELLENT job so that I'm basically just left doing meds. AND I get paid as much as working big hosp 3/4 killing myself. My dog/cat comes to work with me if I want, I play with other peoples animals some days, I can go take a break when I need to, but MOST importantly I have suff. time to do my job MOST days. We have trees everywhere and a beautiful huge pond in front of my house.
    Every now and then we even get a pat on back from admin. instead of feeling like we're taken for granted if we have great skills.
    YES some days I wanna pull my hair out, and swear I'm going to start job hunting, like ****** RIGHT NOW that we've got new DON who is on an RN vs LVN kick and really irritating me. She's a new DON for the first time and fairly new RN, so she will learn (I HOPE). MEANWHILE
    I've gotta roll with the punches and SHUT UP before I ruin my good thing! And with my mouth, HARD FOR ME TO DO. After all if I don't want to be taken for granted, than neither do I want to take this job for granted. At work, I am happier than I've ever been. (KNOCK ON WOOD)
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    Quote from itsmejuli
    Please explain what a peripatetic nurse does.
    I describe myself this way because I've always moved around a lot......I get restless and just pick up & go when the mood strikes. At least, until now.
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    I've worked all over, from hospice to Level II nursery to home health, and can honestly say I'm happiest with private duty peds. I've been lucky enough to be assigned to long term cases with awesome families--the last one I was there 4 years; the current case family told me they'd keep me until I retired ! Being an LPN is extremely limiting as far as being hired in hospital in this area and has been for the past 15 years as there was the push for RN only staffing with med techs, so I landed in the world of agency nursing--happy to say since pts go home with all sorts of machines these days I don't feel like I'm missing anything but the stress--my current pt is Duchenne's MD with a trach, vent, MicKey button, feeding pump, wheelchair that can do anything but the laundry; I've always liked the family care aspect, too, so this is my Shangri-La!
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    Hey, Marla, maybe you can work out a deal where you work there until you need to live there. That way, you never have to leave. I'm imagining a transitional period where you taper down your work hours and just sleep over occasionally until you and your dh just move in.

    Having followed your job sojourn for a little more than six years, I'm so glad you found your Shangri-la. I remember your short-term joy in several new positions, followed by the shock of reality and then the hasty retreat toward the door. You sound so much happier now than you did back then. You're an ace at trying to make the best of bad situations, but had you stayed in a couple of those nasty jobs, I don't know if you'd still be alive to tell the tale.
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    VIVA I love your story, I can so relate, I have had about 10 nursing jobs in 14 years but I am paying for it. If I get an interview they want to know why I left etc. I changed jobs many times d/t being a cargiver for my mom and my own health issues. Now I am healthy and no longer cg to my mom and I feel like HR is making me pay for decisions I made 10 years ago. I am the healthiest I have been in years, I am raring to go , I just cannot find that shangri-la, I have worked floors to OR to homecare to peds. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR ARTICLE! IT GIVES ME HOPE AND I AM GLAD TO KNOW I AM NOT ALONE IN JUST NOT FINDING QUITE THE RIGHT FIT. I WILL KEEP TRYING. THERE ARE DAYS I GET SO MAD AT NURSING AND YET I KNOW IT IS WHERE I NEED TO BE. SOMEDAY I WILL GET THERE. THANKS AGAIN, YOUR ARTICLE WAS INSPIRING!
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    Really Viva? I find your story redundant and rather selfish. You are a self-described "super nurse"...we have those where I work...none of us can stand them! You bounced from place to place and never mentioned realizing how grateful you were to even have a job. You obviously don't value your patients/residents that much or you'd have realized long ago that consistency and continuity is extremely important for the ill and elderly.
    Frankly you bored me and made me wonder why you stayed in nursing in the first place. And oh BTW, I'm 47 yrs old, proud to be an LPN for 8+ yrs now, have a good reputation and comradeship with my co- workers, have worked at the same places for several yrs. I work per diem in LTC and in Private Duty Home Health Pediatrics. And I admit, there are patients, patient family members and co-workers I'd rather not deal with some days. There is vomit and poop and psych issues but I was born to be a nurse and love it all...the good, the bad and the ugly.
    AND THERE WILL NEVER BE A SHANGRA LA NURSING JOB...WAKE UP FOLKS!
    Last edit by PROUD2BANLPN on Aug 17, '12 : Reason: added text
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    Because this article was posted mainly to give nurses hope that there are still good employers and decent jobs out there, the writer didn't dwell on the reasons why she left some of those "dream jobs."

    I have followed her progress over the years, and let me tell you, the idea that she doesn't value her patients/residents and wasn't grateful to be employed is the polar opposite of the truth. She didn't tell you that she left jobs because new bosses came in or old bosses showed their true colors and asked her to do things that just weren't right--for the employees or the residents. She didn't mention the emotional toll it took to leave people she had grown close to because she couldn't violate nursing ethics (or even basic human decency) with a smile on her face. She also didn't bring up the physical stresses that darn near did her in.

    I know she put in long hours, many of them off the clock, to make sure those in her charge were treated right. She worked with residents and families to solve small problems and head off bigger ones. She counseled staff members and tried to weed out a lot of long-entrenched bad habits without trashing salvageable people. She was so thankful to be employed that she stayed in some situations longer than was good for her.

    Don't forget that she did say some of these jobs overlapped, so, even though it looks like she job-hopped every six months or so, that isn't the case. Two years on a sinking ship is a long time.

    Of course, it's your choice to dislike an article. But if you decide to dismiss this particular member as a selfish, thoughtless, thankless person and practitioner, you'll be missing a lot.
    Last edit by rn/writer on Aug 17, '12
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