Ugh!!!! Getting the dreaded phone call!

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I knew my weekend had been too quiet, just kind of had that feeling, "What's going to happen?! So, of course by Saturday, my phone started ringing, My cell and our home. As soon as I checked the messages, I got that sinking feeling. I got a call from my younger brother, who I don't get along with as well as I should, I guess. He started drinking and drugging at about age 14. Now he is 35 and does not hold a job for more than 2 months at a time. My dad is codependent and gives him money. He is bipolar and doesn't take his meds as prescribed.

So, back to the point, I had a message that my father, who is in his 70's, was in the hospital and had "a big hematoma", and had "been confused". So, I call the nurses station to do a little digging. I am 5 - 6 hours away, and that doesn't help. I finally find out that the hematoma was on his knee, instead of the one I imagined as a subdural or something. He had fallen while in the yard. He started bleeding r/t his Coumadin doses.

Of course, he has the "usual" history - hx of MI, A fib, DM. That never helps, but I am glad it wasn't worse. I would appreciate any prayers you guys may be able to share with me!

Thank you to my allnurses family -

Anne, RNC :paw::paw::paw::saint:

Specializes in Home Care, Hospice, OB.

anne-

prayers for you and yours..are the folks in the house helping you through this??

hugs and positive energy....(((:redbeathe)))

Specializes in School Nursing.

praying that your dad will be healthy very soon. he has a very caring daughter ! :saint:

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I am praying for your father's speedy recovery. I'm glad the news wasn't as bad as you dreaded.

Specializes in ICU/PCU/Infusion.

Prayers being said! I hope he makes a quick and full recovery.

((((((((((hugs)))))))))))

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.

Well, I called today to check on Dad and try and get a little update on his condition. Being 5 hours away, I don't get a really clear picture of how critical things are yet. He thought he may get home today, but that turned out to just be wishful thinking on his part. I do feel better knowing he is in an LSU teaching hospital, but still, I guess I have "anxious daughter's syndrome". I know we all get tired of the family member that either calls or shows up and runs the show, so to speak. When I call the nurse for HIPPA approved information for an update, I don't add the part about "...well, I am an...". My dad told them on admission. Today I am not a nurse, I am just a scared family member, if that makes any sense.

Since Saturday he's gotten either 4 or 5 units of PRBC's, so I asked him to have a doc call me. I'd like to at least find out what H and H, and coags they're working with. At least he's not hurting too much, and when I asked if the nurses were nice, he laughed and said "yes, and theyre cute too!" Leave it to Dad to tell me that, still having that sense of humor. I'm just trying to decide now if I need to pack my bags and head down there, but he's going to need help more when he goes home. My aunt (who is in her 80's of course lol) and my cousin in town with him.

Just apprehensive, I guess, since going from a knee hematoma that was drained in the office to being inpatient and getting all that blood. Thank goodness for Coumadin and the likes, but it does play havoc when you get injured.

Thank you all for the good thoughts and prayers. They DO help, and are greatly appreciated. They are in part what helps me keep my sanity and driving my dh (who is also a nurse) CRAZY with "what if"s and on and on. I really appreciate my allnurses family.

My brother and his wife live less than an hour from there and my mother lives in the same town where he is in the hospital, so I finally today called my little brother and asked him to please call him. My parents have been divorced since is was 18, so I don't expect her to visit. I just thought she may want to know that he's in the hospital. (With my luck, she would go see him and he would be "sweet talking" one of his "cute little nurses". That would make for a short visit, right?! I'd want to be a fly on the wall!! Thank you all for the support, and keep it coming when you get time.

THANK YOU!!

Anne :paw::paw::paw::saint:

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.
anne-

prayers for you and yours..are the folks in the house helping you through this??

hugs and positive energy....(((:redbeathe)))

hey - thank you so much! you know i'm going crazy!!! i am the oldest of 4 kids, and have always been a daddy's girl big time, so i am trying to not drive my dh nuts. the boys got back last night from the beach, the lucky dogs! i think i am wearing out the serenity prayer.

thanks, and hugs to you, my friend!!

anne :paw::paw::paw::saint:

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.

A little more... Made the phone call to my brother, and it was like .....we....ll, whaaat....you want me to..........huh?! I was like "just take 2 minutes and call the man that raised you and paid for your college!!

So then I call my mother, not really expecting for her to call, or go by there. So our conversation goes like..... "Now what happened?!.....Who fell?...." Then of course, " Hello I can't hear you ....are you there? Hello.. I'm losing you... Hello---well?"

Then I made a second attempt with the same results, basically. Feeling my BP getting stirred up and knowing it is time for my 2nd dose of Clonidine in a few minutes, and of course that is at home safely tucked in my medicine bag.....about 45 minutes away. Figures!

And, my thought by my 2 foiled attempts to talk to my mom...CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW????? :nono:HORRIBLE OF ME TO THINK, but now all she'll get is an email!

Anne

Specializes in ER/Ortho.

I do hope things get better for your dad soon. I understand about your brother (I also have someone in my family who has always struggled with addiction). You will be in my prayers.

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.

A little bit of good news, thank goodness!

Since Dad is 4 - 5 hours away and HIPPA guidelines, I really couldn't get a very good picture of what was going on. And, I am glad HIPPA is there, I don't mind not getting updates due to that. Well, the doc called as I had asked, and gave me a really good idea of what was going on, head to toe. Made me feel so much better. gave me a rundown on labs, tests, d/c plan, the whole 9 yds.

Turns out, the reason why he had to get all the blood was that he just didn't get his last repeat coag studies for his cardiologist. Gotta love those noncompliant patients, right?!! So, he got fussed at for that, and the doc arranged for home health for a little while for dsg changes and to ensure he didn't chicken out on his labs next time.

I called him back today when Dad was d/ced (THANK GOD!!!!), and got another little update. He asked me about my little brother, that is down there close to him, and said that he had social services contacted for elderly protective services, because he likes to bully Dad about a LOT of things, and does get physical when he doesn't get his way. So, we saw eye to eye on all that.

So, he's at home tonight staying with his sister, and all is well tonight. I just hope he doesn't overdo too soon. I was just so pleased with his doc and the nsg staff there, and I was worried about that at first.

THANK YOU all here at allnurses.com, you are a loving family and I am so thankful for all your prayers and good thoughts. Please keep us in your prayers and I hope everything will stay on the right track.

Hugs to all of you guys!

Anne, RNC :paw::paw::paw::saint:

Specializes in long term care, alzheimer's, ltc rehab.

woo hoo! glad your dad is out of the hospital and back home. my thoughts and prayers are with you guys.((((hugs))))

So GLAD that your Dad is home and doing well.... What a fabulous daughter that he has in you!!!! Take care.... huggs!!!!

Specializes in ER, TRAUMA, MED-SURG.

Well guys, I am SO relieved that is home. He is still staying with his sister, my aunt, in part because then he would have a little room where I wouldn't be nagging, especially since he had decided to not go to the cradiologist's office for his routine draw of co ags as per his protocol. "I'm a hard stick, so I just didn't go, " is his rationale.

So he had a little time to relax at home and rest and I called this am to give him just a little gentle lecture (i've never been very comfortable doing

this, he is my dad and I'm a "daddy's girl". But he did get the message that he had to get his labs drawn, and not just stop taking some of his meds, ect. I hated to sound like I was fussing, but he's my only dad and I'm not really ready to lose him. At least with home health coming, his labs will get drawn and they can keep an eye on him.

Again, thank all of you at allnurses for such wonderful thoughts and prayers. I can not tell you how much I appreciate it.

Anne, RNC :paw::paw::paw::saint:

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