Torn between continuing my education and my family :( - page 2

I could really use some advice and I figure there are more people on this site that will understand my dilemma than just about anywhere else. I graduated from my LPN program last August at the top... Read More

  1. by   ♪♫ in my ♥
    I'm of the opinion that there's never a good time for an established person to go back to school. In my case, it came with enormous sacrifices (as have the first 16 months of my nursing career).

    It's hard to say for certain if it will turn out to have been worth it or not. I certainly mourn the significant loss of time with my kid that I will never get back. OTOH, I am working and earning a living (of sorts).

    All in all, though, I think it's best to take decisive action in the present rather than waiting in the hopes that circumstances will be more favorable in the future.
  2. by   Conqueror+
    You can have it all, just not at the same time. Yes your children SEEM to need more time when they are older to shuttle them around to the activities and relationships that replace the time they used to spend with you. The truth is they needed you just as much then to build the foundation for the relationship you will have with them forever. You just notice it less because you are not on a "soccer mom schedule". They will miss you and you cannot get that time back. I believe in fulfilling your dreams but not by treating your children like a chore that you pay someone else to do while you put something else first. You seem to really love your family and putting them first for a time is never a mistake. They aren't gonna care about your title or paycheck. They will care if you are/are not around. Parenting is not a job you can be good at with very bad attendance. Society seems to think so. I wish you all the best. God bless.
  3. by   wifeandmomoftwo
    Thank you all for your input. I still don't know what to do. I'm thinking that I might just cut my number of courses. I wonder if I'm struggling this much with the pre reqs if I'll ever be able to cut it in the nursing program and work full time. The course work isn't that difficult, just time consuming. One day at a time is the best answer for now I guess.

    Thanks for so many heartfelt responses!
  4. by   linearthinker
    Why not slow down? Take one less course, work one less shift? My biggest regret is that I waited 18 years to go to NP school. I wasted too much time. :-(
  5. by   GooeyRN
    School will always be there when you are ready... Your family may not. Things are stressful for you right now. I say put off school if your mom isn't well, your marriage is rocky, and kids need you. Being an LPN is very honorable. You can still be an RN, I just feel this is one of those things that would be best to put off a year or two in your situation.
  6. by   IfICanYouCanToo
    Family first. School is always there. You don't want to miss those precious high school moments with your child.
  7. by   MrWarmHearted
    That is a very personal decision that you'll have to make.

    but since you're asking for outside opinion . . . imho, it would be in your best interest to:
    1) First, work things out with your husband (if things are hard now, it will most likely be harder if you separate . . . and need to take care of your family responsibilities/school/work . . . )
    2) In the meantime, you may need to lower either your number of hours worked/prereqs that you're taking or both.