marc here - i want you to know that i am sincerely sorry that this has happened to you.
i have seen it many times.
i do not know why nurses do this evilness to one another. also why nurse educators,leadership and nurse administrators over the years have not clearly recognized or addressed this dysfunction.
it does occurs in other professions in my expirience, however it is not to the severity or propensity it is in nursing. professionally it has not been recognized for as being delatorious and in its affect on patient care,indivigual nurses and overall professionally destructive.
it is often tolerated tolerated by managements lack of recognition and failure to address the reprecussions. only recently when lawsuits have been brought and won large financial awards on the merit of "hostile work enviroment" has some administrations been addressing this issue.
-sometimes we have to know when to detach. when to leave a situation for ones own sanity and safety. it sounds as if your being rallied against for doing right by your patients and professionally you reflect a genuine comfortableness with your nursing practice despite this oppression.
you deserve better that this situation. i have had to learn reconize and know when it is just too much of a situation to fight.
acknowledge and trust your gut in knowing when it is enough.
trust your abilty to self care and perserve your dignity. just as you care so well for patients in crisis do not be afraid to know the critical limits. each of us have a piont in knowing when we are being violatated. when our tolerance is being tested to the limit and when your
personhood, and your
professional boundries are at risk.
"do no harm"
means not allowing any to our patients and just as so to ourselves.
you simply will not win with these folks attitudes and these situations.it is too established and do you really want to try and change such ignorance?
such senarios you described are dangerous and can have a very
high price to pay. more than one nurse has been unjustly terminated- even reported to the bon due to a dysfunctional nurse and/or pathologies of "cliques".
personally i have never been on the recieving end of this behaviour. but
i have witnessed this type of " group narcissism" its affect on coworkers and being allowed by management. it causes detriment and division of staff this thinking/behaviour directly or indirectly always has had a poor influence on patients care. when i have seen this
one of my favorite words of wisdom comes from the well known writings of
called the desiderata.
there is a part of this writing that says -
"...keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery.
but let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. ...."
and further on in the verse it says --
"and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.".....
you are a hero to your patients and the lives you have helped; look at what you wrote of your dedication and love of er
sadly and tragically your not a hero that is recognized & even perhaps despised by some but the piont is this -
now do the right thing friend -recognize these people for who they are. rid your spirit, personal and professional life of such toxic dangerous people. you are so fortunate in that you have a choice - many others do not. you already know your needs are and how to
take care of yourself.
i so wish you well.
ps - i would not
hesiate to notify or carbon copy the hr dept. regarding this situation.
such enviroments legally are very costly and i am sure hr would value knowing this.
this coworker never anticipated the response you professionally gave her and i think that she is not sorry. as well these antics will continue onto others should you leave.
also it is obviously clear that your nursing manager is ineffective in not being aware of such a situation and "cliques". woorse senario is that she is aware and tolerates and empowers staff by ignoring them.
perhaps she needs to be educated on how to assess obeseve and influence her staff to prevent a hostile work enviroment. perhaps hr can educate and faciliate the nurse manager to "manage" the staff toward desired goals. those of being ethical professional and humane in thier nursing practice and creating a safe work enviroment for all.