That woman

  1. I've talked with my two of my instructors this week about "that woman". I suppose it could be that guy as well, but mine is a woman.You all know her, she's been in one or all of your classes.
    She has had every disease or condition being taught. She knows someone
    with a wart, lesion, dark spot. Her uncle has diabetes mellitus, her aunt
    has had helmiths. She reads for Nutrition or other courses and interrupts lecture to ask questions about material we already have covered because she wasn't paying attention. She asks to copy homework becasue she has too active a social life to do her own. She asks when we can get together to do group study for A&P2.
    Any suggestions for dealing with this? I know the instructors do not want
    to discourage people from asking questions. The personal stories are
    driving me crazy, nuts, bunkers!!
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  2. 18 Comments

  3. by   bargainhound
    Instructor could set limits.
  4. by   stillpressingon
    You are soooo right; most (if not all) of us have experienced this. I would suggest talking with her directly but, having experience with "that woman," that would probably only result in a look of utter shock with a bit of oh-my-gosh-I'm-so-insulted-you-could-even-be-so-harsh-as-to-even-consider-I-would-be-any-thing-less-than-just-trying-to-do-my-absolute-best-you-are-the-meanest-person-ever. It might be best to go to the instructor and have the instructor talk with the person. Your instructor's probably just as exasperated with her as the class is but just may not want to deal with it. If you and possibly others at other times, go to the instructor maybe something can be done. I would imagine the instructor could go to others at the school if his/her talk with "that woman" doesn't help. Good luck in whatever you decide, it's definately a tough place to be in!!
  5. by   llg
    You could also set some limits yourself. For example, do NOT share your homework. Tell her that you don't want to study in a group -- or if you already have a group that you like to study with, tell her that you are not looking for any new members. Etc. Etc. Etc. She will think that you are mean -- but who cares? You don't really want to be her best friend anyway.

    As for the questions in class, there is probably not much you can do except ask the teacher to address it. ... Though, personally, I would probably tend to turn ugly and sacrastic and make a few snide remarks about what a mess her family was if they have all these diseases. They should take better care of themselves. Etc. Etc. ... and generally indicating that I had no affection or respect for her. I know that's mean, but if it continued to long, she would get a clear message from me that I didn't like it and that I didn't care if she thought I was mean for feeling that way.

    While I can be very nice and friendly towards most people, people like that bring out the worst in me.
  6. by   4everlearning
    I agree completely with the above poster. Every class has "That woman". My class also had "The Nodder", she nodded her head in agreement to everything, so much so I found myself nodding in time with her. Made me crazy!
  7. by   midcom
    One of my instructors has a very good way of addressing the person who constantly asks questions that really don't have much to do with the lecture. She just says, "Hmmm, I don't know about that. Why don't you look it up & report back." Funny thing is we've never heard what she learned.

    Dixie
  8. by   UM Review RN
    Relax.

    Concentrate on what you need to do and what you need to know. Don't sit near her if you can help it. Go early and sit in the front row of the class so you have three possible spaces where she cannot sit and distract you.

    Ultimately, that kind either shapes up or is shipped out very early on in most nursing programs.
  9. by   burn out
    This woman was in my A/P class back in 1983...is she still in school? She went so far as to want to look off my paper on tests. I went to the instructor because I had no clue how to handle this. The instructor did nothing to help me but if I sat next to this woman in class ( a I always did) my instrucotr would think we were cheating. Bravely, I came to class a few minutes late ontest day and sat in the back of the class. Chickens way out.
  10. by   stillpressingon
    Quote from llg
    As for the questions in class, there is probably not much you can do except ask the teacher to address it. ... Though, personally, I would probably tend to turn ugly and sacrastic and make a few snide remarks about what a mess her family was if they have all these diseases. They should take better care of themselves. Etc. Etc. ... and generally indicating that I had no affection or respect for her. I know that's mean, but if it continued to long, she would get a clear message from me that I didn't like it and that I didn't care if she thought I was mean for feeling that way.

    While I can be very nice and friendly towards most people, people like that bring out the worst in me.
    Yeah, unfortunately me too!
  11. by   prowlingMA
    I think "she" went to MA school too. I tried to sit as far away as I could during class and never shared notes.
  12. by   DebRN06
    Yes, we have all had this experience. Oh, how I don't miss it!! I was in a biology class with a girl that would debate evolution vs creation with the instructor nearly every class. Now, I don't care what anyone's beliefs are, but this was a BIOLOGY class. Finally, one day I had had it. When she started I just yelled, "HEY...this is biology...not Bible study. You want bible study, go to bible study, but if you can't handle hearing other views DON'T take biology!!" Someone from across the room then yelled, "Yeah, and don't take philosophy either." ANd someone else yelled for her not to take some other class (can't remember which). Needless to say, it was the last time we had to hear about creation in biology!!:chuckle
  13. by   DebRN06
    Quote from 4everlearning
    Every class has "That woman". My class also had "The Nodder", she nodded her head in agreement to everything, so much so I found myself nodding in time with her. Made me crazy!
    She was in my class too...but she added MMmhhmmm to her nodding!!!! :roll:roll :roll :roll :roll :roll
  14. by   Jules A
    Quote from Angie O'Plasty, RN
    Relax.

    Concentrate on what you need to do and what you need to know. Don't sit near her if you can help it. Go early and sit in the front row of the class so you have three possible spaces where she cannot sit and distract you.

    Ultimately, that kind either shapes up or is shipped out very early on in most nursing programs.

    I think this is very good advice. It was my experience that the instructors really don't want to have to deal with these type of issues. The people that complained or made nasty remarks ended up looking worse than the annoying person. The bottom line is that you'll have to figure out a way to get over it because life is filled with "that woman and that man" and when you get in the program you really won't have the time or energy to waste fuming over someone's behavior in class.

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