Should I tell my friend or not?

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I work in medical imaging and I really like my job. After years on Med/Surg it's a wonderful change. I have a good friend who still works on Med/Surg and is really getting burned out.

We had a PRN position open in the dept and I suggested that she transfer to medical imaging. She has orientated 4 days. My manager talked to me today and told me that he's not sure that she will work out. He feels like she's not agressive enough, seems timid, doesn't jump into things like I and the other nurses do. He said he got the same story from the CT and MRI department heads.

He felt really bad. He had a hard time even starting the conversation with me. I told him that I was not hurt or offended in any way. If they didn't feel she would work out, I would have no problem with them not using her. (and I truly feel that way).

My decision is should I tell her? She is working for me two days next week and then for 2 weeks while I'm on vacation. My boss said he's willing to let her work those days and see how it goes but he expects to have to replace her.

My instinct is to not say anything. Let it work itself out. I feel like if I tell her she'll be offended that she's thought of as being slow, not quite with the program. She's fine on Med/Surg and it's a very hard floor to work. She's been there about 6 years so she's had time to get her routine down and radiology is a whole different critter.

I just don't know what to do? Say something? Or just let it go?

Specializes in OB, M/S, HH, Medical Imaging RN.
I also agree that she should NOT say anything, or even remotely suggest or hint that she knows anything about her below average performance. Also, I do believe that if dutchgirl says anything to her, her boss may feel as if she stepped on his toes and may make him have less faith in her for saying something that is not in her place to say.

I would never tell her that the manager said anything nor would I say anything about below average performance because I don't feel that it is, she's just slower paced than me and the other nurse. The place she'll be working is very slow paced anyway so I'm really not getting the concern that my manager is expressing.

WOW WOW WOW ... congrats on the VERY VERY soon arrival of your G-Baby. I am getting a G-Baby in January :)

Thank you on congrats for soon to be arriving GS #2 Morgen. Congratulations to you too! I love being a Grandmama.

The area I'm talking about is CT outpatient imaging. My job consists of bringing patients back. Filling out a very brief questionaire regarding contrast allergies, starting the IV, DC'ing the IV, that's it. I work there about 15 hours a week.

Is she having trouble starting IVs? Many med/surg units have IV teams and the nurses may therefore have little or no experience starting IVs. And it does not come easily to everyone (I'm a dialysis nurse who came from such a floor and had one h--- of a time learning cannulation - but eventually, even I did ;)).

From a later post I see that she is getting more training with you, which I think is an excellent solution. I hope it works out!

DeLana

Specializes in OB, M/S, HH, Medical Imaging RN.
Is she having trouble starting IVs? Many med/surg units have IV teams and the nurses may therefore have little or no experience starting IVs. And it does not come easily to everyone (I'm a dialysis nurse who came from such a floor and had one h--- of a time learning cannulation - but eventually, even I did ;)).

DeLana

On med/surg they start all their own IV's and she's good with IV's. I use to do charge and had to start IV's for others all the time when they couldn't get them. I've never had to start one for her.

Specializes in Utilization Management.
On med/surg they start all their own IV's and she's good with IV's. I use to do charge and had to start IV's for others all the time when they couldn't get them. I've never had to start one for her.

Kinda off-topic but I'm very interested in learning more about pushing so much Lopressor.

Could you give me some specifics like why the patient needs that much, and why doesn't the patient crash when it's given, and how is the dosage determined?

Yah, I know, I want a crash course, Reader's Digest version, but I do learn so much here....:lol2: and it's an area I know very little about.

Specializes in ER, ICU, Nursing Education, LTC, and HHC.
i would never tell her that the manager said anything nor would i say anything about below average performance because i don't feel that it is, she's just slower paced than me and the other nurse. the place she'll be working is very slow paced anyway so i'm really not getting the concern that my manager is expressing.

well, she should do fine on the slower side then.. i would expect that each day should start bringing better performance. the true test of time and her ability will surely come when you are on your 2 week vacation. i think that during that time period she will have a much better chance of a fair evaluation. she might surprise all of you an dturn out to be magnificent. :)

thank you on congrats for soon to be arriving gs #2 morgen. congratulations to you too! i love being a grandmama.

slightly ot:

i am excited about the baby. our baby was certainly unplanned and happened at a very bad time, but we will love the baby just the same and be supportive to my daughter. the daddy of the baby is in no way going to be around, will not support my daughter and has no care for the unborn baby.....my daughter is 19. she graduated high school in may with high honors. she was about 3-4 weeks preg then. she has a full scholorship for college and is going into the rn program. my only fear for her is that she has to stay focused at all times to get through college. we went yesterday to get her books for her first semester starting in about 2 weeks. i realized how quickly she has grown.. i remember her first day of kindergarden and now we are buying college books!

she will face many challanges along the way, am i will be here for her every step of the way.

ok...... sorry for the diversion.. back to our regularly scheduled program!!!

have a wonderful day to all :)

Specializes in ER, ICU, Nursing Education, LTC, and HHC.
Kinda off-topic but I'm very interested in learning more about pushing so much Lopressor.

Could you give me some specifics like why the patient needs that much, and why doesn't the patient crash when it's given, and how is the dosage determined?

Yah, I know, I want a crash course, Reader's Digest version, but I do learn so much here....:lol2: and it's an area I know very little about.

That is an excellent question.. I wanna know too please... :)

Specializes in ER!.

I'm almost never the lone dissenter in any discussion, but what I can't help thinking is that if I were in your friend's shoes, I'd want to be told. If I was let go from a job because of lack of experience/skills, or just a personality conflict with the wrong personality, then that's just life sucking sometimes. But if my job were in jeopardy for something I could help, like speeding up a little or being more aware of how confident I appeared to be, I'd be pretty upset with a friend who let me lose a job over that and never told me about it.

I cannot imagine why any manager would have had this conversation with an employee, for so many obvious reasons. His lack of discretion has placed you in an uncomfortable position (which I assume from the fact that you started a thread about it) and I believe a good manager should be savvy enough to avoid potential conflicts just like this. I almost think he must have said something just so you would say something to her, in hopes she'd improve. And most annoyingly, if she did not interview well, WHY did he hire her??

It would be an uncomfortable conversation for sure, but I think if you prefaced it with something like, "I have been thinking hard on how best to approach this, and ultimately I feel that in fairness to you, I need to let you know that the boss is concerned about the time you're taking to settle into this position. I want to see you succeed, so let's plan some strategies to help you become as proficient and comfortable as quickly as possible." You've said you know she needs time, and that you know it's not likely to be given, so if it were my friend, I'd help her out. If she takes offense and says, "I quit" then at least that's her choice, and not a surprise termination that she may feel that she could have avoided if forewarned. Besides looking bad on a resume, being fired is hell on one's confidence and interviewing skills when you have to go job-hunting again.

Just my 0.02, change from the other girl's shoes.

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