RNs- Mostly first born? Alcoholic fathers? - page 6

KristyBRN's thread on this topic is very interesting. She has heard that many RNs are first borns of alcoholic fathers. I thought we could use a quantitative poll on the subject.- *Please add any... Read More

  1. by   Atheos
    First Born
    Bio Father (Alcoholic/Junkie)
    Mommy Dearest (Functional Alcoholic)
    Have 1 brother (Also a junkie) <- Well on and off.
  2. by   diane227
    Most nurses I know have some codependency issues. That is part of the reason we do what we do. It fills that need for us.
  3. by   karmil
    I am 1st Born LPN with alcoholic mother. Yea, how to survive a mad women is RIGHT ON. I learned to pray through the horrors of verbal threats of death and terror of nights. I was 22 when I became a Christian and the WORD of God healed my hatred for her. I was a very good mother to my children and dispise abuse. She died and I was free from the burden of her insanity. Sounds harsh, but what she could put her family through was sheer Hell. My father stayed with her 33 years before he divorsed her. THEN she QUIT drinking. I never went for my RN because I was determined to raise my own children and be home and have a close family. I am not saying others are wrong in having a full time carreer, but it wasn't what I wanted.
  4. by   WickedRedRN
    1st born (well have 4 half sisters from Dad's 1st marriage)
    Dad was an alcoholic, however became sober when I was 5, so I really don't remember much. My older half sisters have told me stories of Dad's drinking days and I am glad I didn't witness it. I went through my own hard drinking days when I was younger (late teens) and came through it through Christ and his grace. I am sure it was related to my upbringing too. Although Mom is not alcoholic or an abuser, I did suffer much emotional abuse growing up. It still clouds my perceptions of self today at 40.
  5. by   aloevera
    Quote from karmil
    I am 1st Born LPN with alcoholic mother. Yea, how to survive a mad women is RIGHT ON. I learned to pray through the horrors of verbal threats of death and terror of nights. I was 22 when I became a Christian and the WORD of God healed my hatred for her. I was a very good mother to my children and dispise abuse. She died and I was free from the burden of her insanity. Sounds harsh, but what she could put her family through was sheer Hell. My father stayed with her 33 years before he divorsed her. THEN she QUIT drinking. I never went for my RN because I was determined to raise my own children and be home and have a close family. I am not saying others are wrong in having a full time carreer, but it wasn't what I wanted.
    good for you !! I did the same thing, I always worked part time/PRN so I could raise my son.....now he is away at College for his first year and I am still PRN.....never did like that full time work ....I want to be home when he comes home..!!! BTW, I had alc. father (abusive) alc. mother (loving, functional) and I went through a period of drinking when I was young but when my son was born, I quit, completely...he saved my life...
  6. by   Iam46yearsold
    RN not first born

    Neither parent were alcoholics. But both smoked pot all the time.
  7. by   CT Pixie
    First born (LPN, can I still play in the poll?) but I do have older sisters and a brother from my dads 1st marriage, but I am the oldest of my mom and dads marriage.

    Father-non alcoholic, no drugs, no issues (died at 42)
    Mother-non alcoholic but came from a family full of them. My mom rarely drank, a glass of wine every now and again. The last 3 years, I've noticed she ALWAYS has a glass of wine in her hand.
  8. by   Shenanigans
    I clicked "not first born, neither parents alch". Though I was adopted so if you want to get technical I was the first born to my bio mum.

    Although, odly enough, my dad's just started to become a bit alchy, he wasn't when I was growing up but ever since he moved in with his mistress he's hit the grog. And if you met her you'd see why.

    She looks like the crypt keeper. Heheh.
  9. by   DoeRN
    All I have to say is OMG!!!! I checked the first box. Never thought about it before this poll.
  10. by   Tim92
    I am the first born, I have one younger brother.
    My parents were both non alcoholics.
  11. by   jjensen
    First born, parents are not drunks... I love to be in control and take care of others however. I feel that when I am needed, my life is good...
  12. by   sofaraway04
    thats me, first born, dad alcoholic, and to add to what some others have said mum- mental health issues too.
  13. by   mlolsonny
    How about alcoholic father's first child ), OCD Mom's 3rd???

    Dad was absent for most of my formative years- but I didn't go to nursing school til I was 33 tho. He was well resurfaced by then. I think my love of all things medical came from Mom's colitis which reared it's ugly head when I was in 5th grade. I was fascinated with learning more about how it (and everything else) worked.

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