Really disappointed with the reality of nursing.

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Anyone else feel the same?

When I was in nursing school, I was so excited to get finished and get a job. I thought I would enjoy doing nursing tasks all day...meds, IVs, injections, dressing changes, catheters, charting. I was so proud to tell people I was becoming a nurse. I would be making all of this good money. My job would be exciting all day long. I would be helping people. I would get respect...

But 5 years later, ha! What a joke! Don't get me wrong. I am grateful to have a degree. I am grateful to have a job in this bad economy, but nursing sure turned out to be a disappointment. I never thought that I would be worked to death the way nurses are. I never thought I would be talked to like a dog the way I am by patients, their families, people from other departments, and some doctors. I never thought bosses would be so quick to stab you in the back and try to get you in trouble. I thought I would be a valued employee and appreciated for what I did because I am a nurse who truly has a heart, cares about my patients, likes to get along well with others, and work as a team.

Instead, as a nurse you are treated like a peon. You have a team of 6-8 patients and are running like a mad woman to take care of all of them properly while your boss sits on her butt looking for any one tiny thing you might miss (while not offering to lift a finger to help you). Families sit in the room watching you like a hawk assuming you are going to hurt their family member. Griping because you have to turn people with skin issues or check for incontinence. Griping because you have to change an IV. The other day I had a family member sitting there watching me like a hawk as I had to change the patient's IV. Mind you the patient was an obese lady with huge arms and had had to have deep lines in the past. She said to me very rudely, "You get ONE stick, then somebody else is gonna do it." Then proceeded to stand and watch me with her arms folded across her chest. Excuse me, since when does the family dictate my job? :mad: That really burnt me up. Fortunately I got her IV on the first stick, but I have to take crap like that from people or I would probably be written up by my manager. I never thought nursing would be like this. When I visited people in the hospital before I was a nurse I had respect for the medical staff and would never dream of talking to them the way I am talked to.

You are blamed for everything. Doctor comes in late today? Nurse is yelled at about it by family. Doctor changes a medicine and doesn't tell the family about it? Nurse is grilled about it. Lab wakes you up early for blood draw? Nurse is yelled at about it. Doc orders stat MRI at 5 pm on a Friday? Nurse is yelled at about it by Radiology. Assistant doesn't check patient for incontinence while nurse is trying to start an IV in another room? Nurse is yelled at about it by family. Medicine is late from pharmacy? Nurse is yelled at about it. Dietary doesn't send up a food tray for a patient? Nurse is yelled at about it. We can do nothing right. It has really been disheartening. We go into nursing to help people and instead are treated like crap. I can honestly say that nursing is the job I have felt I have been the least respected in of all the jobs I have ever had. It has just been very disappointing. Maybe I am just venting because I have had a bad week, but just wondering if anyone else has felt this way? I WANT to like nursing because I spent all of this time getting this degree and getting licensed but wow. :crying2:

I absolutlely agree everything you said. I work my ass off all shift, have short or no breaks and finish late with no pay. Yet all I get is treated like **** by families and pts and no one appreciates what we do. I really regret chosing nursing and I am seriously considering to quit nursing. I do not recommend nursing to any human being with feelings it really affect you after doing for a long time ...

Specializes in CEN, CFRN, PHRN, RCIS, EMT-P.
I absolutlely agree everything you said. I work my ass off all shift, have short or no breaks and finish late with no pay. Yet all I get is treated like **** by families and pts and no one appreciates what we do. I really regret chosing nursing and I am seriously considering to quit nursing. I do not recommend nursing to any human being with feelings it really affect you after doing for a long time ...

Don't quit nursing, what you are experiencing is just one "flavor" of nursing and for the sound of it probably Med Surg. Find another field like program coordinator, administration, community health etc. you'll be happier.

Specializes in Emergency.

Sadly. ..reality is... a "nurse" (insert any job title) is nothing more than a commodity. ..if you think otherwise you will always be disappointed.

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
Sadly. ..reality is... a "nurse" (insert any job title) is nothing more than a commodity. ..if you think otherwise you will always be disappointed.

This.

Once you see nursing as a business, then you can put your best interests to work.

We work with the most vulnerable, almost down in the gutter people, regardless of race, culture, class; people get stressed and lash out due to their loss of control-that's what keeps us in business.

As long as you have a good work ethic, advocate, and not take it personal, and treat it like a business-you can still hand-hold, provide therapeutic touch, laughter and all that good stuff, and provide the fuzzy stuff, just in a different way, while maintaing and providing knowledgable, correct, competent, and confident care, you will go far in this business. :yes:

AMEN! I feel the same way. I was so excited while in nursing school...boy was my bubble burst when I got into the real world. I had the compassion...just no time to fully use it. Then add to management never finding a good thing to say about anything you do, just looking for things to complain about. I tried all avenues of nursing and the cruel mentality is there too. I've been out of nursing for over a year and don't know if I'll ever go back. I miss my patients, but not all the BS.

This thread is 4 yrs old so I don't know if the OP is still reading. I have a very unpopular opinion as to why nurses are often taken for granted in so many ways but my advice for any nurse who is being treated in a subordinate way, outside of leaving, is to specialize and get off the floor.

And to dedicate developing an expertise where at least few know more about your job than you do. With that air of confidence it's easier to stand up and assert yourself and command respect. You may still have too large a patient load but no one speaks down to you as well as they trust your leadership. Other providers, patients, families, coworkers/supervisors..when they realize you know your $h!t, and can be strong while respectful, people will respond differently.

All the responses here are scaring the crap out of me; making me think I don't know what I'm getting myself into. On the other hand, there are things like this survey that I see that make me feel a bit better about it.

http://www.amnhealthcare.com/uploadedFiles/MainSite/Content/Healthcare_Industry_Insights/Industry_Research/2013_RNSurvey.pdf

Does this look like its close to the norm, current nurses? Do you think job satisfaction (or the lack thereof) is primarily driven by work environment, personality, a mix of the two, or something else entirely?

Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
All the responses here are scaring the crap out of me; making me think I don't know what I'm getting myself into. On the other hand, there are things like this survey that I see that make me feel a bit better about it.

http://www.amnhealthcare.com/uploadedFiles/MainSite/Content/Healthcare_Industry_Insights/Industry_Research/2013_RNSurvey.pdf

Does this look like its close to the norm, current nurses? Do you think job satisfaction (or the lack thereof) is primarily driven by work environment, personality, a mix of the two, or something else entirely?

I have found it to be a mix; although I haven't really experienced a feeling of not being satisfied by my work performance or even my career; in all my years of being in healthcare-almost 15 years now (5 years CNA, 7 LPN RN 2 years and counting) I knew what to expect in this business and learned to navigate and be in control as much as possible, down to my schedule and gaining experience enough to be knowledgable and marketable.

I have and will continue to be in control of my career. :yes:

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