Has anyone received a lot of grief over the chose of returning to school for nursing?
At 38 I feel that I still have to gain the acceptance of my family that I've chosen to return for nursing, not to mention changing majors. Which I know is ridiculous, but still??? I mean if I am self-supporting my way through school, what does it matter?
Please let me know your experiences and if your family changed their mind after you got your nursing degree.
Nov 30, '02
Folllow what is right for you. Change is scarry and families fear change. This is a huge change for them with the prospect of even greater change when you graduate. The fear of the unknown future is involved.
Then there is always the "stick with what you know" after all they, at some level, fear you will not suceed then what? This requries a big investment on their part and a risk. They may not be risk takers. It requires a lot of faith that all will be OK no matter what.
You will create this faith for them by suceeding. However, you must suceed first before they can develop the faith needed to support you now.
You might (this is your individual judgement that will determin if this is appropriate for you) tell them you will succeed with their support or with out it, and you prefer it be with it as you love them very much.
Share your sucesses you experience along the way. Show your appreciation for what ever tiny they they do that does support you. Give them credit for you success.
My hubby, though generally supportive near and after graduation started saying things like, "you think you are so much smarter... superior..... or too good for anyone else." etc. Started acting like a real ass. It took about a year before this insecure little boy started to respect me.
I really think that he was afraid that now that I was an RN I would leave him because HE thought that he was not GOOD ENOUGH for me.
He seems secure in my love now and doesn't do this anymore but it was real hard not to strangle him in the mean time.
The trouble with this it would be something stupid or totallly unrelated like say I mentioned I didn't like some inanament object or somesuch. Out would come his stupid remark.
The good thing is I knew this man pretty well before I started school. I knew his insecurities. In fact I was surprised that he supported me at all during school. I expected him to try and sabotoge it.
Instead he felt it was an valuable investment on his part. It is just that when I achieved it that he got scared that I would leave. In his over active imaagination he started to relate to stories of wives who supported thier husbands through school and then the husband would not do the same for the wife. I did support him and continue to. What is more I was the primary breadwinner when I was in shcool. My school was 100 % financed by VA, scolarships and grants.
If he were to return to school I would support that. He won't.
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