Munchausen by Internet: The Lying Disease that Preys on the Heart

We all know how it feels to discover that we've been lied to. Have you considered the possibility that you have been the victim of an elaborate online deception? Find out how you can protect yourself from this type of scam. Nurses General Nursing Article

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For decades, people have heard of Munchausen syndrome, a disorder characterized by people taking extraordinary measures to fake illnesses or psychological trauma for the sole purpose of attracting attention and sympathy from others. Munchausen sufferers will do almost anything to validate the delusion of their illness. Another variation of this disorder is Munchausen by proxy, in which people physically or psychologically harm loved ones to gain attention and sympathy. In more recent years, a newer variation of this disorder has been noted to infect online communities.

Munchausen by Internet

Internet traffic has exploded over the past two decades, providing users with instant access to information and networking with others. With the increasing number of online users and formation of online social communities and support groups, beginning in the 1990's there have been increasing reports of users who have deceived internet forum participants by portraying themselves as gravely ill or as victims of violence or psychological trauma. The internet was made for such fakers. Arming themselves with medical knowledge obtained through hours of perusing the internet, these users create intricate online stories of prolonged suffering and even death which end up being nothing more than fabrications.

A pattern for this new Munchausen variation was identified in 1998 by Dr. Marc Feldman, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Alabama, and an expert on Munchausen syndrome and factitious disorder. Dr. Feldman coined the term "Munchausen by Internet" in an article published in 2000, "Munchausen by Internet: Detecting Factitious Illness and Crisis on the Internet".

What is Munchausen by Internet?

This disorder is essentially the same as the better known Munchausen syndrome, with the main difference being that people carry out their deceptions online. "On the Internet," Feldman explains, "it's very easy to fake. All you have to do is click and you go to another disease site. You can become an expert on anything in 30 minutes by visiting Google." At first, Munchausen by Internet was most common in online medical support groups, but variations of it now show up anywhere that people socialize online, such as social networking sites, blogs, forums, discussion groups and chat rooms. The fictitious stories can take months and even years to play out.

These deceivers are usually not newcomers to the site, but instead have already begun to weave their story of deception, making online friends while they are setting the stage. They portray themselves as incredible, wonderful and charismatic people. The drama unfolds in different ways but usually involves a sudden revelation by the writer that they have contracted a serious illness.

They may have already disclosed lesser challenges they have previously faced, just to ensure they have sympathetic listeners. All the time while weaving their web of deception, they are bravely coping with whatever tragic situation or string of situations they are facing. They go on to provide details of their declining situation, including hospitalizations, doctor appointments, treatments, etc.

Many times their condition/hospitalization will preclude them from using a computer, thus making it possible for another fictitious character to enter the picture and post in their place. This is usually a close friend or family member(s). They refrain from divulging their location or contact information such as telephone number. Most of these liars end up having shocking, sudden, or especially poignant deaths which is relayed by someone close to them. There may be a miraculous recovery, followed by relapses and more drama..... and prolonged suffering for both them and their followers. It will go on and on...

Red Flags

Put yourself in the place of one of the targeted "victims." At first, you are greatly saddened by the predicament of which the member posts. You want to help. You may even offer support. You find yourself drawn into the drama as it continues to unfold with layer upon layer of catastrophic detail. Slowly, you notice the story contains more and more discrepancies. You tend to make excuses for these inconsistencies, thinking the faker's thought processes may be clouded by the medications and illness. As the lies continue to pile up, you slowly come to the realization that you've "been had". And on that day, you feel like a total doofus. There is an overwhelming sense of betrayal as you realize you have been lied to, used, and manipulated. You may even feel angry at the perpetrator.

7 Clues To Detecting Munchausen by Internet Sufferers

Once you have been fooled by one of these liars, looking back you will see more and more inconsistencies and red flags in their story. While the stories vary greatly, the behavior of these people is consistent enough that Dr Feldman has described seven "clues to detection of false claims" based on numerous case studies.

  1. The posts consistently duplicate material in other posts, in books, or on health-related websites;
  2. The characteristics of the supposed illness emerge as caricatures based on the individual's misconceptions;
  3. Near-fatal bouts of illness alternate with miraculous recoveries;
  4. Claims are fantastic, contradicted by subsequent posts, or flatly disproved (e.g. a call to the hospital reveals that there is no such patient);
  5. There are continual dramatic events in the person's life, especially when other group members have become the focus of attention;
  6. The individual resists telephone contact or contact via mail, sometimes offering odd justifications
  7. There is feigned blitheness about crises (e.g., going into septic shock) that will predictably attract immediate attention;
  8. Others apparently posting on behalf of the individual (e.g., family members, friends) have identical patterns of writing.

Motivation

What motivates people to do this? Dr. Feldman states that the clue to their motivation "may lie in the power granted by online communities to quantify the sympathy for an illness or the shock of a death via comment boxes or replies to a journal thread." These fakers can sit back and read the comments of support from numerous readers who are following the created saga as their illness progresses. They relish the thought that their words are eliciting sadness and tears. "It feeds the desire of the narcissist and provides the lonely with the attention that they may never previously have known."

We know that this type of behavior will only increase as others take their lies to the internet. So what can we do? How do we respond? These people are seeking attention, so indifference is one of our defense tactics. As nurses on a nursing website or in any real-life situations we should of course be compassionate and supportive of others in genuine need. Most people online and in real life, are usually telling something close to the truth most of the time. They may embellish their story a bit, but nothing close to what we are referring to here.

Nurses Targeted

As an online nursing community, we are susceptible to being used by Munchausen by Internet sufferers, as well as deceptive posters in general. Because we are nurses, we are very caring people. We are trained to help folks. People like this know how to prey on others...they know all the right buttons to push. It is easy for us to get caught up in this type of scam. This is a lesson for all of us to learn. We cannot always trust what people post online. We should be alert and question the veracity of online assertions and balance empathy with circumspection. You must guard yourselves against getting sucked in. It is also important to not provide personal information to members you do not know.

If you suspect a member is posting deceitful information with the characteristics of this disorder, it is best to report your suspicions to the Administrators of this site or the site on which you are participating. They will take actions to investigate the matter. Remember......you are dealing with someone who is mentally ill, and their response to confrontation is unpredictable. Upon discovery of false posting, most Munchausen by internet scammers leave after possible denials. They search to find another online group on which they can prey.

Let me leave you with one last thought. We have always heard the phrase "If it seems to be too good to be true, it probably is." In this case... If it seems too bad to be true, it probably isn't.

To read more articles, go to my AN blog: Body, Mind, and Soul, Be the Nurse You Would Want as a Patient, From the Other Side of the Bed Rails - When the Nurse Becomes the Patient


References

Feldman, Marc D., MD. Bibby, and S. D. Crites, "'Virtual' factitious disorders and Munchausen by proxy," The Western Journal of Medicine

Feldman, Marc D., MD, "Munchausen by Internet: Detecting Factitious Illness and Crisis on the Internet," Southern Medical Journal 



Feldman, Marc D., MD and Maheu, Marlene M., Ph.D., "Doctor Exposes Munchausen by Internet," SelfhelpMagazine

Feldman, M.D., (2004): Playing Sick?: Untangling the web of Munchausen syndrome, Munchausen by proxy, malingering, and factitious disorder. New York, Brunner-Routledge Hyman

Madrid, Cienna, "The Lying Disease: Why Would Someone Want to Fake a Serious Illness of the Internet?” www.thestranger.com

Russo, Francine, "Cybersickness - Munchausen by Internet Breeds a Generation of Fakers"

Smith, Morgan, "Munchausen by Internet: People Who Fake Illness and Death Online"

Swains, Harold, "Q&A: Munchausen by internet," Wired.co.uk

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Specializes in LTC, CPR instructor, First aid instructor..
I like to help and support, but there is a line not to cross.I have to add that many members here have had horrible medical problems and I will continue to support them.
Wonderful.
munchausen by internet is preferrable to munchausen by proxy...

I agree because they are not using resources that can be life saving for other people.

Specializes in Peds, Med-Surg, Disaster Nsg, Parish Nsg.

I agree with the above.......At least with Munchausen by internet, there is usually not another innocent victim (usually a child) involved, as is the case with Munchousen by Proxy. And the person using the internet for this ruse is generally not inflicting pain/harm on themselves to make people believe they are ill. They just use words with the help of the internet to gain sympathy and attention.

I unfortunately had the experience of encountering one of these people, who actually was suffering from Munchhausen By Proxy in real life. Her child was the victim, and so were we, the members of her on-line support group. My child had some health issues and I joined this wonderful group on-line to share experiences and vent after a difficult day to those who understood. There was one mom who was on quite frequently. Her child was preschool aged but very very small and weak. She had several disorders including multiple UTI's, severe feeding intolerances, and other chronic infection-type things. In the course of her being a member of our group, her child underwent a Nissan Fundoplication, exploratory bowel surgery, several scopes, several kidney and bladder studies, had a g-tube put in, then a G-J, then went to TPN via PICC line. She was constantly in the hospital. One day one of the members of the group posted a link to a news article in the local paper that identified the women in our support group and said she had been arrested! We all felt so sick and betrayed. The posts were used in court as evidence along with the evidence collected at the hospital.

Here's the case:

Mom gets 15 years for hurting daughter - US news - Crime & courts | NBC News

I know a family member with this and was unfortunately fell victim as a child. Its horrible when all you can do is watch and have no control over the situation. Luckily i was able to release the grips of this person but they still suffer with it.

Specializes in LTC, CPR instructor, First aid instructor..

I had this experience by a former member several years ago. I was being attacked personally, and didn't understand why. She was banned after several posts to me and to others.

Thanks you tnbutterfly for a great article. I am the founder of and researcher on a website for support of people with breast cancer and in the early stages of the online community detected a member who fits your description of MI. However a definitive diagnosis of MI is elusive due to the transitory nature of support group membership and best left to the mental health professionals but nurses should be aware of this condition and perhaps, in the future, online information will be included in their everyday nursing practice!

Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
tn, thanks for this article. I think a lot of us were not even thinking about this possibility regarding a member here. I had thought possible inconsistencies in posts were a consequence of a particular disease progression. But thank you for watching over everybody here. I simply was not going to fact hunt through all the posts, so I would not have known. Surprisingly when I read your notice, I was not at all mad - I guess it's just a sign of the times.

I would not be one to give out my personal info to this person, and, I have never had a facebook account, etc. I like to help and support, but there is a line not to cross. I think the older nurses here understand that the "interweb" LOL is often for fools. The younger ones who have grown up with it are a lot more trusting.

Edit: I have to add that many members here have had horrible medical problems and I will continue to support them.

Very true, netglow. I approach the interwebs with a healthy dose of skepticism.

I experienced this here with another member (still posts). I just give that member a wide berth and avoid any posts he/she makes.

Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.
I certainly have shared some of my medical experiences with AN.

I wonder if people think I made them up...

I've never thought that. I've shared that I am fighting cancer, and that I had to stop working because of the side effects of treatment. If people choose to disbelieve me, I can't do anything about that. I rely on friends and family for support, though I have appreciated kind words from several members here.

Anyway, tewdels, no...I don't think anyone believes you're faking.

Specializes in ED; Med Surg.

I am so glad that my mother-in-law did not discover the internet. I fought for years to get her doctors to realize that she had Munchausen's...to no avail. They would just fire her when she became a problem. She always had unusual ailments that she would see doctor after doctor for until someone did some sort of "proceejah" or surgery on whatever ailed her. She would then move on to something else. She was also addicted to pain medication. Complained every day about whatever her ailment du jour was.

I always said that on her tombstone I would put "I told you I was sick" but feel guilty now as she died suddenly from one of her rare, real ailments, heart disease.

If she had understood the internet, it would have been a nightmare! The sad legacy is that her son (my husband) won't go to the doctor often because he doesn't want to be a hypochondriac.

Specializes in Oncology, Home Health, Patient Safety.

Wow - this article is incredibly well written and insightful. I had no idea that Munchausen by internet even existed. I feel sure that I've been exposed in the past to some of these folks - as a Patient Safety expert, I routinely check in to patient forums where folks discuss medical errors. I am occasionally distressed by what appears to be a life completely unravelling. I've had a few students who have demonstrated some of these traits as well - like they are being followed around by a dark cloud of disaster. Thank you for giving me some tools for knowing how to tell the difference since unfortunately, some folks have stories that are long, horrible and all too real.

Specializes in Private Practice/Family Healthcare.

I think after all these years I can put many minds to rest, wow!  It really is a small World.  And what really happened is much sadder.  I went to Nursing School with BTLRN.  His Ex hacked not just one account, but to this day, he doesn't even have a facebook, just a LinkdIn Acct he checks when he's itching to travel again.  Just look at his dedication to the site over the years.  Who would throw that away?  The last writings don't even match his writing style- which was all to concerned with helping others, as he does to this day.  He is the sweetest and most unassuming guy I know.  
 

His Ex destroyed his social media accounts the week he went to Latin America, I think Honduras or Peru(frequents Clinics in both) on a Medical Mission .  After being separated because of her infidelity, he was just too trusting.  He had all his passwords by his laptop in a Moleskin Journal, I can see it in my head.

Ironically enough, this was the last week she got to exchange the dog with and between him, because he came back 2 lbs lighter after a week.

She posted DMs to his Bosses about things he'd wrote and said, posted embarrassing photos, just spent the weekend destroying his online presence to this day.  You aren't the only site talking about what happened to him I assure you.

She sent personal information about his recovery and addiction Journals on facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram.  Those that followed him in other places know he completely vanished from online and app life after this, and just devoted a fuller life of service.

BTLRN taught me that life of service, that spirit of gratitude, and that forgiveness frees us, not them.  It's easy to see why he loved those dogs so, haha.  He could trust them.

You don't have to believe me, again read his years of work before making a verdict of the ONE WEEK his ex-wife crazy entries that destroyed his work, online integrity, and cherished friendships in online platforms, and forever changed his trust in people he held the closest, while he travelled abroad far from his loved ones and friends.

I don't know anyone of higher moral character than him.  We had a spat I regret when I was younger and less mature, because he was in the wedding of a cousin that married "the love of my life.”  For that, and my immaturity, I didn't invite him to my wedding (he was to be my best man, we'd always said- as I was his too).  We were besties.  I hurt him too.  But every birthday, on Aug-26th- every Christmas, he's the first to text/call.  On my Daughter's Birthdays, a Card in the Mailbox.  What man remembers these dates?  While in Peru, Argentina, and Honduras.  I think he's actually in Haiti right now- or Dr?

And what's funny, when I told him of this Article and other comments on other boards,…(I'm long time reader, first time writing on the board since we graduated Nursing School in 2003).  His main concern was sorrow for those she hurt.  Not getting to tell one friend goodbye that he held especially close to his heart, that has since passed (a fellow canine lover-Es**).

That's all, just here to say, you got the wrong suspect.  If you want to read BTLRN, read what was really his writings, his photos, his work, and his dedication to the site and others.

His troubled heart for those hurt by a sick woman, and in the Loving Memory of The Brian Short Family who created this awesome experiment in fellowship for "Allnurses.”

And alas, I know he'd say his favorite line, "If you are going through Hell, Keep Going!  For we walk by Faith not Sight.”  That all things can be used for Good in His Father's Kingdom.

You can believe what you want, but BTLRN is one of the best I've seen in my 4 decades on Earth.  I hate he carries a deep scar from me.  And he carries many more from her, but he's very much alive, well, and still helping others to the best of his ability.  A life I can't fathom.

And if anyone seen the loss that boy incurred in 4 decades, You'd see a text-book case for Addiction or alcoholism, but his recovery and help of fellow recovering addicts has been a testimony to what he is built of.

I beg him every time we are in contact to make a Private facebook page, so we can all remain in contact.  And, that's the only lie I know him to be guilty of, every time he says "I'm going to when I get time.. I really need to.”  He'll mention there's plenty of drama in his own life without reading others, haha.  I tell him it can be just for posting his humor- and Marketplace.  
 

"Build an instagram again so we can see your travels and adventures like when we were younger,…” "Yes!  I'm going to one day.  I just never have internet where I am, and people would be hurt when I don't respond for weeks on end…”  “…Just message me on LinkdIn!” "Email me.”

Because he is working the armpit of the Earth, but every evening, I know the Hotels and Mission Teams have Wifi.  But, then again, "would I contact me?”  Probably not.  I miss him, I miss him everyday.  My life was lighter, more humorous, and much more adventurous with his exaggerated "Big Fish" personality type filling it, LOL!  Indeed, I miss him.  Life was simpler then.

Shocking, that Social Media has impacted so many lives so hard.  His fingerprints just aren't at that scene.  There's zero intention.  There's no reason to it.

He is guilty of of being sloppy with online security, his journals, but most of all, being sloppy with his heart.  He has a reckless love for others.  A heart I don't understand, but wish I had a copy of. 

I don't want to be judged on that day, standing by him.  This I know.