Meth is destroying communities

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I am originally from a small town in southern West Virginia. I have lived away from the area for about 8 years now, but I continue to go back 3-4 times a year to visit family and friends. I have noticed over the last several years that the town I grew up in (and many small towns just like it) is being devastated by the growing methamphetamine problem. Streets that I used to ride bikes on as a kid are no longer safe, the crime rate has skyrocketed (vandalism, theft, assault, arson, you name it), a growing number of people are on welfare and are jobless because they spend all of their money doing drugs. The conditions of these towns are terrible....run-down builidings, condemned buildings (from houses that were used as meth labs), people not taking care of themselves and their properties. It makes me want to cry just thinking about how nice my little town used to be and now it's completely overrun by drugs. My mother told me that she could guarantee that if a car drives down our street past 10:00pm, 9 out of 10 times it will be a drug-run. My next door neighbors have taken in a baby of one of their relatives because the parents were so strung out on meth that they left her laying in a crib and her skull was sunken in. My first cousin has had two people found dead in her trailer within the last year and she recently came into some money (about $60,000, but that is a long story) and it's ALL gone within 4 months....all spent on drugs! Stories like this are all I hear now about the area that I grew up in. Is anyone else facing issues like this? What can be done to change this worsening epidemic? Any thougtful input would be appreciated!

Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Thanks everyone. Like I said, I truly debated posting to this thread. I so know how hard it is to watch a loved one disintegrate slowly. If nothing else, the compassion that we have for these folks only makes us better people.

In the ER, I was known as the nurse that would take all the OD's, do all the psych patients, drunks, no matter how obnoxious, dirty, nasty, aggressive, etc. I always said a prayer for these folks because I remembered that it could have just as easily been my son and I would always want someone to care for him with empathy and compassion.

So...just please remember that these addicts, drunks and mentally ill are someone's brother, sister, son or daughter.

Specializes in PMHNP.

Well, I have never used the s*** myself, but my brother had a very troubled time overcomming his addiction. I grew up in the suburbs of Minnesota and even though my high school wasn't that huge in terms of population it was one of the high end of list for the most drug users. Many barns and old farmhouses have been destroyed by meth labs and I have seen many of my friends that I went to high school with become addicts. What is surprising is that most of those people were girls because they were attracted to the drug for it's ability to make them lose a lot of weight really fast.

As for the whole pot issue going on, I don't ever think our country will legalize it because of the health effects that it can still cause to the body. I remember when I was little and my brother was addicted to meth how he could be laughing and talking on the phone to screaming his lungs out and then to finally bawling his eyes out. It makes me so sad to think how a nice guy who got good grades, had great friends, and was great at sports go to a high school drop out, having an 85lbs girlfriend (who is also addicted) and working at a grocery store in his mid-twenties. It truly breaks my heart. :crying2:

Willow,

Can you please comment on how one gets approached on these drugs? What may be the reason for someone to try these drugs, knowing the effects that it has on a persons life? Party? Losing weight? self esteem? Sense of family with other users?

I have a son, and I have friends that have children. I want to know what are the signs of someone that is using.

As a former user, what is your thought on knowing if your child is heading down this path?

Trauma,

If you dont mind:

Can you add how you found out that your son was using?

How long has he been using?

Thank you both for your very brave and informative responses to this post. My thoughts are with you both.

Have a blessed day:nurse:

Willow,

Can you please comment on how one gets approached on these drugs? What may be the reason for someone to try these drugs, knowing the effects that it has on a persons life? Party? Losing weight? self esteem? Sense of family with other users?

I have a son, and I have friends that have children. I want to know what are the signs of someone that is using.

As a former user, what is your thought on knowing if your child is heading down this path?

First of all the myth of the evil pusher luring innocent people onto drugs is just that a myth. I'm not saying that these sorts of unscrupulous people don't exist but in the 15+ years that I took drugs I never met one person that could even remotely be considered a pusher. I think this is one of the hardest things for parents to accept, that their child has chosen to take a particular drug. Most people are introduced to Meth through friends or family...the scenario might go something like this, the person is out at a club/concert/rave *insert other party venues* and they see a few people who are really confident and happy and full of energy. They find out that these people are taking Meth and then perhaps someone in the group mentions that they know someone's brother who takes Meth to help him study and so he can party all night. The following week the same group of friends get together but this time one of them has gotten some Meth of the brother and asks who wants to take it with him, some decline others say yes. This of course is only one scenario out of many possibilities but in my experience it is generally the same way all the time, somebody's friend or family member takes it and they are lead into it that way. I know you'd think that with a family member, especially if they have a real problem with it, that it would put the person off of using the drug, but you have to remember nobody ever expects to be a drug addict. It's always the case of "it won't happen to me" as if somehow they are so different as to be immune to addiction.

As for why people do it, well all of the reasons you gave plus the fact that it feels good. People do drugs because they make the feel good, better than any natural or normal high could ever give. When you first start taking Meth you feel fantastic, just so energetic and confident and clear headed...it's hard to describe and a lot of people in the early stages of use don't exhibit signs of being messed up or acting like the stereotypical image of an addict so a lot of people might know the risks, but of course like I said before they're always going to be different, they won't overdose, they won't have a heart attack, they know how to control the drug. I said exactly the same thing with heroin, I knew the risks but of course I was going to be different, I knew how to handle the drug so I didn't develop a problem...hah famous last words.

As for signs someone is using drugs? well there are a few dead giveaways...with Meth the persons pupils will be dilated and there jawline will appear tensed (same with Coke and E's), with Heroin the person will tend to itch, rub their noses, their voice will be croaky, they may nod off periodically, their pupils will be constricted and the colour of their eyes changes slightly (looks lighter and cloudier). With Meth apart from the dilated pupils and tensed jaw the person does not neccessarily look like their messed up on drugs, I have visited my own parents whilst on Meth and had them tell me how wonderful it was to see me so bright and healthy looking, so if you're looking for someone who looks messed up you probably won't see it in the initial stages at least.

I don't know what advice I can give to drug proof anyone's kids, just keep the lines of communication open, never exagerrate the effects of a drug, don't only go on about the negatives but give a balanced and honest account of drugs and their effects on people (when people first try a drug that they have been told all these horror stories about and they feel great on it, but not only that nothing neccessarily bad has happened that first time, they tend to then dismiss all warnings they have ever heard about said drug), make sure you know who there friends are and instill in them a sense of confidence and self esteem so that they will be more likely to say no to drugs.

One more thing if you notice signs of depression or other mental illness in a friend or family member, don't ignore it or hope it will sort itself out...make sure you encourage the person to seek professional help. A lot of people who take Meth and other drugs are suffering from some form of undiagnosed or untreated mental illness and the drug use is their way of self medicating.

Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Willowbrook has hit the nail on the head in my son's case. He was hospitalized several times in the space of a year when he was 16-17, refused meds, counselling, any intervention at all. It has gone downhill from there but about two years ago he stabilized and was working and doing well.

In looking back (something dh and I do frequently), I don't know what we could have done differently. For my son, the drugs are a way to cope with his depression.

Please remember, we are the most depressed society on the planet. We are talking about this in a sociology class that I am taking. We are the most lonely and lost. Even religion does not tend to help. I don't want to get into religion here but in class we discussed Christianity. The normal scenario is that the Christian goes to church on Sunday. They slide into a pew and maybe shake hands when the minister says with the person that is next to them. After church, they leave and go home to their life. My soc teacher said this is part of the problem. Other religions live their life around their particular religion. They have strong family ties. They do not relocate for economic reasons, because frankly, they don't exist. Americans, she said, buy things to make them feel better, but the feeling does not last. She said a car was originally meant to get a person from point A to point B. Now it is used as class warfare. I have a lexus, and you don't mentality. In our local newpaper, there was an article about all the young married couples that are buying 900k houses. The article made it sound that they are better and smarter than the rest of us. I think the nursing profession is just, if not more important. These couples did not have any special type of job. Heck, some of them did not even have a college education. But they were noted as very elite (and smart). Others read these articles and become more depressed as they will never drive a lexus or afford a 900k house. As a last resort, they turn to drugs. It makes them feel better. They can "talk" to strangers more easily, and it basically zones them out. Now, I do not know if this makes any sense or if there is any truth to it, but it made sense to me.

Trauma,

I just read your post. I am so very sorry!!!! We are having the same problem here with kids. We live in one of the richest counties in this state. Quite frankly, I want to move out of here, but I do not know if that is the answer. I talk to alot of young people. They tell me drugs are prevalent (they are everywhere in the US). The people I have talked to tell me that the kids have so much money and desire to keep up with what I call the jones. Their not really the jones, but you know what I mean. It worries the hell out of me. I, too have my son in sunday school, basketball, ect. BUT....I know he sees these kids driving around in daddies car doing drugs....I am just so worried for the future of all of our kids!!!! God bless you!!!!!!

Willow,

Thank you for your candid explanation. Allot of what you said reminded me of people I knew in high school. I have to admit that I "experimented" with some drugs after high school. I still lived with my parents and they knew that I was drinking. On Friday night they would ask, " are you going to be drinking tonight?" I would tell them that If I did I would not be home. 9 out of 10 Friday's I would not return home until late in the afternoon, sleep and get up do it all over again. I did not have a job, I think I was trying to find myself now looking back. I did not have a bottom when it came to drinking. I drank allot and weekends came to be several times a week.

I personally feel, that my parents saved me by not complaining or threaten me about anything. I was aware of the fact that it was getting out of hand.

About 19 years old out drinking and partying it up with my "friends" I found my husband. I fell in love with him and I found that alcohol and drugs did not have a place in my life. I have been with him ever since. I am around alcohol frequently to this day. I have no disire to get wasted. I have found that I like to have a clear head. I like the feeling of being in control over the feeling of being out of control. I dont like to be medicated for any medical procedures or illness.

I would have to say that I appreciate the fact that my parents trusted me enough to do the right thing. If they would have yelled or complained.I could have ended up in a totally diffferent place then I am in now.

Today in 2006, is a different world. Maybe it is because I have a child, but it seems that children grow up to fast. Hopefully, I am not as hard on my son as I think I am, but I am instilling respect, responsibility and honor in him.

Thank you for your post's. Have you ever thought about doing public speaking? Your story seems very powerful, you could help people who have lost their way.

Do you find talking about your experience is a form of therapy?

Have a blessed day

Trauma,

My continued thought are with you and your family.

tried to post on this thread but the gremlins must have took it

this is a cancer that is ruining families..causing so many people to have to parent their grandchildren because it is the only place safe for them

i heard at an inservice that 90% of hard drug users did start with marijuana which is NOT to say that 90% of mj users advamce to hard drugs some of these don't like it or they see the problems that their friends have, some will be happy with an occasional joint

but the problems with alcohol and with otc cigarettes i wish that their were 'cures' for the craving

i know of a nurse who the first time i worked with was a normal size person nextt time she looked like a walking skeleton

friend of the family went into a screaming frenzy at her son when he got into 'her' stash sad if he wanted drugs he had to get out and get his own

there are many broken hearted family member when they look into the faces of loved ones and see a wasted life

there are children in foster homes

may we find an answer to this

Thanks everyone. Like I said, I truly debated posting to this thread. I so know how hard it is to watch a loved one disintegrate slowly. If nothing else, the compassion that we have for these folks only makes us better people.

In the ER, I was known as the nurse that would take all the OD's, do all the psych patients, drunks, no matter how obnoxious, dirty, nasty, aggressive, etc. I always said a prayer for these folks because I remembered that it could have just as easily been my son and I would always want someone to care for him with empathy and compassion.

So...just please remember that these addicts, drunks and mentally ill are someone's brother, sister, son or daughter.

Thanks for you post. I especially appreciate your last sentence.

As to why kids try meth, in our local high schools it is a big deal for the football players to use. Along with other athletes. It gets started as a way to get alot of energy to play and then the meth just takes over.

Ways to tell about meth is mood changes. Suddenly there is anger and lashing out. It isn't your typical adolescent stuff.

Thanks to the folks who are sharing difficult things here - we all learn from it.

steph

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