Kids and cars - page 4

Going along with the thread about the missing children--I wonder how many of you leave your children in the car when you are running errands. I have known parents to leave young children in... Read More

  1. by   Aussienurse2
    Mario!!! Always being in my car when my children are in it WILL keep them safe, not letting my children use public amienities with out me ensuring their safety will ensure that while they are MY responsibility will ensure they get to reach adulthood. Here I am financially responsible for my children untill they are 25 so they will live by my rules untill then. I will decide when they are old enough, and mature enough to gain responsibilty for themselves in stages that I deem appropriate to them. They are a part of me, physically as emotionaly, I would give my life for them and no bugger is going to touch them without my say-so.
    Untill I had my kids I didn't know how completely I could love and I'm NOT giving that up without a fight!
  2. by   nurs2bhopefully
    Mario, just for the record, I wasn't attacking you. I don't like to hurt anyone's feelings! It's just difficult to tell sometimes when you're joking and when you're not. You know how they talk of a mother lioness and how she defends her cubs, it's human nature also. I can't speak for all, but as a mother I'm extremely defensive about the way I raise my children also- don't like for anyone to ridicule how strict or how attentive I am. It's a relief to know that you were kidding!
  3. by   OBNURSEHEATHER
    Originally posted by mario_ragucci
    Heather's blessed childhood of yore :-)
    You don't kid Mario, you insult one's abilities and choices as a parent. Someday, you'll know what that means to a parent.

    I'm done arguing with you. I'm done even looking at your posts, they're senseless dribble. In fact, I'm putting you on my ignore list so I don't even have to stumble upon one of your posts by accident. I was proud to say that I had never done that, but you alone have reduced me to actually disliking a human being that much.

    Heather
  4. by   mario_ragucci
    Heather, I do kid. I fooled around, then showed respect, but you want to see my downfall every time I post. Just be cool! I have no reason to insult you, and have known you for some months now.

    My mom was protective of me too. I grew up in a different time, and place; We are all unique people. Love is greater than fear. Lets halt this onslought of bad feelings, and, again, I am sorry to have poked fun at parenting methods in such a way as to cause folks here to become at odds with me. I don't even have kids. I'd love to have kids, and be a father, but first I have to find my mate, and we haven't met yet.

    Plus, I don't like seeing kids not allowed to be kids. That has nothing to do with your parenting abilities. I've posted in the past about my parents always being there for me, and how dropping kids off at day care can be seen as "not-so-pleasant" for the kids.

    I just want to apologize, and I don't want you to be mad at me.
  5. by   Momma_Penguin
    I have never left my kids in the car when they were small. Now that they are teens... they choose not to follow me in to pay the attendant. I always take the keys w/ me also. Laura LPN
  6. by   Rustyhammer
    I will admit that I have left my kids in the car before but never when they were very young.
    I will leave my 11 and 9 year old in the truck while I run into the gas station. They know everyone in town though and I have never worried about it. Perhaps I am naive or just trusting or live in some sort of dream world.
    I still believe that people are basically good and I encourage my kids to be friendly even to strangers. I am.
    I still pick up hitchhikers (but have become more selective) and still welcome strangers into my life. Some have become very good friends.
    -Russell
  7. by   sunnygirl272
    originally posted by mario_ragucci
    heather, i do kid. i fooled around, then showed respect, but you want to see my downfall every time i post. just be cool! i have no reason to insult you, and have known you for some months now.

    my mom was protective of me too. i grew up in a different time, and place; we are all unique people. love is greater than fear. lets halt this onslought of bad feelings, and, again, i am sorry to have poked fun at parenting methods in such a way as to cause folks here to become at odds with me. i don't even have kids. i'd love to have kids, and be a father, but first i have to find my mate, and we haven't met yet.

    plus, i don't like seeing kids not allowed to be kids. that has nothing to do with your parenting abilities. i've posted in the past about my parents always being there for me, and how dropping kids off at day care can be seen as "not-so-pleasant" for the kids.

    i just want to apologize, and i don't want you to be mad at me.
    ok, mario...what have people posted that you interpret as they are not letting kids be kids? is it letting them be kids to risk them being abducted/raped/murdered????? dismembered? please, explain.....


    disclaimer: i have "step" children only..none of my own...
  8. by   mario_ragucci
    sunnygirl, what I mean is, kids should be able to go out and play. I am ashamed to admit that i base my experiences on my own, and that is becoming shameful of me. When I was a kid, I used to be able to go out and play with the other kids. This was back in the 70's, so please automatically feel sorry for me because I am admitting to be an old man.

    To develop a sense of growth as a child to be left alone and to think. I love protective mothers, and I don't know where everyone lives. Kids need to be kids. Kids do their own thing and sometimes, like anyone, don't want somebody tailing them all the time.

    I don't want to mention me again.
  9. by   mario_ragucci
    Rustyhammer - My dad used to pick up hitch-hikers, with me in the car as a kid. I have been picked up hitch-hiking (mostly in europe and in the mid west, USA) but I am ashamed to admit i would not pick anyone up. Thats how scared I am. I pretty much am so hopelessly pedestrian I don't ride the car very much. My silly dumb life consists of work, sorry, and school.

    I want to beat myself up publically now to get the forgiveness of Heather and to vow not to shoot off my mouth about topics that upset people.

    Heather - I have NO SOCIAL life because I am scared and protective of myself. o I am admitting to being low down and cowardly. Guy my age should be a father and not be on these boards talking about it. Or I should be out bird-dogging women
    and having fun. Instead, like a total loser and geek, I look up medical stuff, refuse to watch tv, and eat like a barn animal w/o any order to my life.

    Heather - you have so much more in life with your son, and I deep down envy you and am jealous of you. I love myself, and thats all I have. YOU have another physical extention of you to hold and take care of the best you know how. And I can tell you do. I admit to being wrong and sarcastic/arrogant with my remarks and I hope you accept my apology, and i give you my word to not make fun of sensitive stuff. If I make fun, it only is a means to hide my own shame for my pathetic and lackluster life alone.

    (Mario turns and cries and also accepts eternal silence from Heather if she can't forgive) (I am so sorry)

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