Is it age, or is it overwhelming to be a nurse?

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I became an RN three years ago at age 44. Let me start out by saying that I am proud of my accomplishment and proud for any person who survives and graduates from nursing school. Most people have no idea how challenging nursing school is or what the duties and responsibilities of a nurse encompass.

My first job was at my local large medical center/teaching hospital on a trauma unit, which was a great place to learn but completely overwhelming for so many reasons. As so many have shared, the sheer magnitude of responsibilities and learning was overwhelming. Laundry list of meds, diabetes, pumps, labs, wounds, tubes in any and every orifice including man-made holes, burn patients and care, back breaking boosts, washing and cleaning only to have a fresh mess, start an IV/draw blood, depressed/elderly/bariatric patients medicated to stupor and dependency, bariatric patients sick because they weigh 300 lbs., broken bones, chest tubes, poor/city/ghetto population, sad cases, working the system cases, nowhere-to-go-so-stuck-on-the-unit cases, the stench of so many gross bodily things, DOCUMENT it all, admit them, discharge them, need pain meds, wait for a doctor/resident, AND, add a topping of ever changing shifts, 12 hour night shifts, some very wonderful and friendly but many very nasty, mean co-workers (and arrogant doctors) who make you want to cry out of sheer frustration, parking and walking a 20 minute walk away, sometimes in the rain and snow, and then go home to your family and try and have some energy left for husband/kids/aging parents.

I stayed there almost a year until I found a day/ambulatory position. For which I am sincerely grateful.

I am not fishing for sympathy; I am trying to ask, do you feel like sometimes how can it possibly be worth this horrible job? Dealing with gross things, depressed/sick/sick because of their lifestyle/flat out crazy patients, their families, and on top of it, some horrible co-workers? (and I do need to say, I have had absolutely WONDERFUL, caring, helpful, kind coworkers whom any patient would be lucky to have). But nasty people can ruin your whole already sucky day.

So, I became a nurse because at age 40, I had a degree in something else but wanted a career where I could make a difference in peoples' lives daily. Sounds corny but absolutely true. Is it age? Do others of you my age (now 48) feel like to work on a floor is just physically and mentally impossible? I can't help but think that this type of nursing is for the young.

And I must reiterate, the average person has no idea what a nurse does or needs to know to take care of patients. A good, experienced nurse is worth their weight in gold.

Specializes in OB, HH, ADMIN, IC, ED, QI.

A word to the wise!

Whatever you do, don't discuss your age with anyone! That door might become a revolving one if Human Resources gets wind of it.

Insurance companies now charge more than twice their premiums in addition to the regular one for younger employees, when employees over 55 years of age get the insurance offered by the employer! That makes older employees highly undesirable, no matter their capabilities.

You can enroll in Obamacare after Oct. 1. Don't fill out applications for their insurance companies, as you have to fill in the year of your birth on them.

I know this by hard experience, and the loss of jobs when I complied and filled out health insurance applications honestly! My evaluations were great, and the only reason I was given was that the state I was in had "at will" employment.

Everyone is holding their breath waiting to see if the Affordable Care Act will be funded, before anything changes.

Specializes in ICU, CM, Geriatrics, Management.
... Whatever you do, don't discuss your age with anyone! That door might become a revolving one if Human Resources gets wind of it...

Think just about all employers know our age before they hire us.

Don't believe it's been a prob for me though I'm no spring chicken. :)

Yea, that's age discrimination. The crazy part is that discrimination is silent and anyone can be fired for other reasons regardless of the real reason as deemed by management. It's hard to prove. With nursing at bedside there is so many times that a mistake can be made just by the way it's managed. So .... "yea, we don't like that you are pro union but hey we gave you 6 patients and you weren't able to be totally perfect so now we have a good list against you."

Specializes in Orthopedic, LTC, STR, Med-Surg, Tele.

I feel this exact same way and I have only been a nurse for just over 2 years. Sometimes I leave work just so drained, and think to myself, can I really do this for another 35 years?

Specializes in School nursing.

Consider yourself lucky! I'm an older new nurse as well and the best I could find was sub-acute with a 1:30 ratio.

Specializes in ICU, CM, Geriatrics, Management.
... Sometimes I... think to myself, can I really do this for another 35 years?

Yup.

Totally delights me that I'm not 23!

I have been a nurse for 31 years-and my how things have changed-as mentioned patients are sicker,hospital stays are shorter,patients are more informed and always dangling their lawyer in your face! Nurses have more patients on their assignments,less help and clueless administrators pushing us to clock out on time so they dont have to pay overtime-So why if given a choice I would choose nursing over and over again-Its in my blood-I cant think of anything else I'd want to be.And lots of us feel the same way :-)

Specializes in NICU, PICU, PACU.

I give huge kudos to those of you that have entered nursing later in life. I started when I was 21 and have been at it for 28 years. I have worked thru 2 degrees and gone back to bedside nursing. It is mind boggling the changes,not only in practice,but the atmosphere In the nursing world. We are having more and more piled one us with little reward or acknowledgement that we are certainly the backbone of the hospital. I feel I am more slave to doing xyz than I am giving my tiny patients and their families the time they need and deserve. We are responsible for the daily running if everything, including making sure the docs don't kill someone with their orders or not following protocol. I can retire at the age if 51, but will work for another 5 years until the kiddies are out if college. I'll probably move into Informatics. Working holidays, weekends, listening to the new generation of nurses complain about the work load, and working what I've been working for near 30, kids, this is real life and this is what you chose to do, nursing is a hard profession! You sacrifice a lot in your life. Time to put on your big girl/boy panties and git 'er done. Believe me, we sympathize with you, but don't come in and try to take my perks away from me, I have earned them. As you will too. So kudos to you all!

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