I got myself in a sort of mess....

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Put all your feelings about homosexuality aside. Homophobes need not respond. Sorry, just had to say that, since that is not the issue.

Anyway, we have a nurse who is male (boderline personality and is probably a sex addict, that's my diagnosis) who just got his license back after loosing it when he transfered from one state to another and it they found he had a drunk driving conviction.

He has been flirting with me for quite a while. I've brushed him off and he and in no way have I encouraged him. He knows I'm happily in a monogamous relationship as I wearing a wedding ring and I have told him so many times.

Lately he has been more and more bold and sexual. Last night he asked me point blank "when are you going to give me some". I said "In your dreams...i.e. never".

I'm beginning to become uncomfortable with him. He just got his license and I'm reluctant to get him into trouble. But what if I keep telling him to lay off and he doesn't, if I report him it gets ugly and he may get fired, loose his license again. Perhaps I shouldn't care, since he's acting very inappropriately.

I'm going to look bad because I've let it go on for many months. He is a good nurse.

Hi 3rdShiftGuy! You know this is sexual harrassment. Since you like the guy as far as his work goes, I suggest the same as another poster of being very blunt. Tell him what he is doing is against the law and you can no longer tolerate it. If he is incapable of understanding this and cont, report him.

Remember, in most situations, that people will only do what you allow them to do to you. Don't let him get away with this any longer. My thoughts are with you. I hope this guy will understand and back off for your sake. I wonder if there are others that he does this to?

report him

I went through this last year, so I know how you feel. It will only get worse if you try to ignore it. I went to my supervisor and an internal investigation took place. He was given a warning and a copy of the sexual harassment policy at our facility. No one else on the floor knew of the charges and the behavior stopped. We have worked along side each other since this occurrence and he has treated me with respect. Good luck!

Can you spell ...... SEXUAL HARRASSMENT ??? I think in every hospital I have been to there is a policy on sexual harrassment. If he is subjecting you to this..... who else is he doing it to? Co-workers, family members, patients ???? I think not only do you need to tell him to back off, but also that you are reporting him and do it ....... Homophobia has nothing to do with it, its a matter of professional conduct.

I agree with all of the above. It doesn't matter, gay, straight, bi, it's all harassment. Maybe he shouldn't have his license at all. Is he trying to pick up his patients as well?? Just report the Loser, he shouldn't have the right or privelage to hold such a dear license and have other peoples lives in his hands. Good Luck!!

Sounds like he is targetting you possibly because he knows he can get away with it. This guy could be a risk to the patients - do something about it before its too late.

So what happened??? Did you confront this person and go to management???

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report him

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Lv--this thread was started in 2002. Just fyi. I'm pretty sure the situation is resolved by now--@ least I hope so!

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Resolved. Thanks.

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