Hypothetical question

[MomRN0913]

Say you took a job. It wasn't the one you truly wanted, but you took it because you were unemployed.

A few weeks into that job you get the job offer you want, the one that is not and hour commute to and from and fits in with your single parent lifestyle.

How would you leave leave the other job. Just tell the truth? Be upfront?

So, this situation is hypothetical, because after 5 months of unemplyment I took a full time job that I didn't want to take majorly due to the commute. It's a trafficky long one, and 4 out of the 5 days a week, i pick up and drop off my 4 year old daughter at preschool.

Then a friend had a friend who was looking for a case manager for an insurance company, which is perfect because i really aspire to be a case manager. Flex hours and all. 30 min commute or less as opposed to an hour.

I did not even get the interview yet, but hopefully will. The person admitted the hiring process was slow and could take up to 3 months....

Sorry, I am a little all over the place, I am tired.

If it came to it, for my family I would have to give up the other job. But I would feel really bad, I am just that kind of person.

[carolmaccas66, BSN, RN]

When all is said and done, you have to do what is right for you and your family, not everyone else.

If u try to make NUMs and hospitals happy, they would not think twice about letting you go with a moment's notice. They will ALWAYS shaft you. And their staffing problems are not your problem, it's their job to find staff & fill positions. I've never understood why people feel guilty resigning from jobs, so they can look after their mental and physical health, and that of their family.

Take the other job but make sure you actually have it b4 you resign anywhere else.

[Meriwhen, ASN, BSN, MSN, RN]

It's a professional risk to leave any job after such a short period of time. However I agree with the others in that you need to do what is best for you and your family. And like others have said, don't leave job #1 until you have an official offer from job #2. Even better, keep working until you get a start date at job #2, so you can maximize both time at and income from job 1.

You can't always control if you'll be tagged a DNR with HR at job 1, but you can really minimize that chance by leaving on the most professional terms possible. Find out the required notice and give it, thank them for all you've learned there, be professional through every step of the resignation process, and give the job your all until the last day you walk out the door.

Good luck!

[jedjick]

i saw your comment it is nice for more information about this topic plz contact your friends & relatives.

[JJTRN]

Family first.

Period.

not to mention less stress and better job satisfaction, too.

you do what you gotta do for your family then, you do for yourself. Alot of people forget about themselves in the equation.

[MomRN0913]

Family first.

Period.

not to mention less stress and better job satisfaction, too.

you do what you gotta do for your family then, you do for yourself. Alot of people forget about themselves in the equation.

My daughter always comes first, but I am guilty of not coming in even a close 5th:)

I am ALREADY feeling the stress and I don't start until Monday. It has been very nice not being overstressed and being able to not rush my daughter all the time. Keeping a nice home, making nice meals. Then the thought of an 8 hour work day with 2 hours of driving and doing all the other stuff by myself is giving me anxiety.

But I am glad I can finacially provide for my daughter.

[JJTRN]

I know what you mean about having a clean house, etc...after my three day stint at the hospital, coming home to a disorganized house is brutal!

My wife and are have 1 child and are expecting another in the spring. If I were in your shoes, i too, would feel stress. The commute alone would bother me!

providing for your daughter is paramount. I get that for sure. But, where I am at now( 32 yrs old) with all the hecticness going on...I am starting to see that a change is needed. Meaning.....I have a great career....but I cannot allow it to control me any longer.

For myself, I am slowly taking off those weights that hold me down( for instance....stress at work, commutes, etc.

I am trying to make those memories that count like...

just the other day, my daughter and I made cookies together.

Better than an extra shifts pay for sure.

Sorry for that rant....just hitting the point home that when it all is said and done, it wont be that job that you will remember but moments with family.

and the stress that you bring home from this new job can slowly change who you are as a person. I dont like the stressed out person that I have become. So, I am taking myself back!

[Kooky Korky, BSN, RN]

Everybody uses everybody. We all have to survive. Sometimes that means you will use an employer, usually it's the other way around. Anyway, they are getting work from you while you get paid by them. That probably really isn't using each other.

Just do what is right for your family. Do give plenty of notice, do let them know how much you have enjoyed working there and how much you have learned and that you want to remain on cordial terms or something like that. You never know when you might need them again.

Don't think that they wouldn't let you go in a heartbeat if it suited their needs.

Best wishes, I hope you get the job you are seeking. Caution: absolutely do not say a single, solitary word to anyone on your present job about any of this. Now or ever.

[Kooky Korky, BSN, RN]

Hello!

Well, the best option for your is to talk to the department in charge of your employment. First, read the policies of the company to see if you need to leave a 2 week notice in order to file a report that you will be resigning your position. Like this, it gives you time to think about what your gonna say if that time comes. Second, Let them know your situation not going into personal details, and just stating the reasons why you have to resign. Third, if you need any more pointers, youtube has great videos for ways to bring the subject of a resignation in a professional manner.

Last, I wish you all the luck. I'm sure everything will work perfectly well for you. :)

Do not take the above advice about talking to everyone and dropping hints that you might be leaving. Sorry, Jael. If she does what you suggest, they might fire her before she can get the other job.

[Rohan8]

Honestly that is business. Take the job that is right for you. Employes hire employees to suit their business needs conversly employees take jobs to suit their employment.

[xtxrn, ASN, RN]

You didn't marry anyone- no til death do us part.....do what you need to do. It's a job. Not life-support.