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- by Jw1724 Sep 25, '12I've been struggling for quite some time.
Do I like what I do? Yes. In fact, most days I love it.
Do I hate my schedule? Sure I do. I hate working weekends and holidays and missing out.
The main issue is my boyfriend, who I now live with. I get guilt tripped for missing things on weekends. I constantly have his mother trying to get me to switch shifts for family events. They think I can just say "nah, don't feel like working this weekend." It's stressful.
Another thing, lately our census has been low so they've been calling off nurses. I pretty much always accept it. It's not affecting our vacations, it's not affecting my pay drastically. I get the guilt trip from the boyfriend. He acts angry and then tells me he's jealous I'm off and he's going to work.
I feel like it's lose-lose. I've seriously considered getting an office job or otherwise, just to get rid of the scheduling conflicts. This major issue has been getting in the way of my love for nursing.
How do you all deal? How do you keep the positive thinking going about your job when there's negativity nagging at you?
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- Sep 25, '12 by bioniclewomanI struggle with that sometimes. Don't have any answers for you. I just hope that in the future I will be in a postion I like better and won't have these feelings.
- Sep 25, '12 by DizzyLizzyNurseIt seems the main problem is your boyfriend and his nosy mother. I had a similar problem with a previous boyfriend and his nosy mother. You seem to have accepted the downsides of nursing as just part of the job. How long have you guys been together? It ended up not working out between me and my ex because he just could not accept that I didn't work a M-F 9-5 like he did. Good luck. I know first hand how sucky this situation is.
- Sep 25, '12 by lovinlife11Nursing is nursing, we have to take the good with the not so good. I agree with the previous poster, it doesn't sound like your boyfriend is so supportive of your career choices. Nursing is 24/7, we just have to live with it
- Sep 25, '12 by Jw1724We've been together for a year now, and are absolutely in love and it is the best relationship I have ever experienced. Until schedules come up!
- Sep 25, '12 by DizzyLizzyNurseI'd have a heart to heart. Your schedule is not going to change. He's just going to have to accept it and if he can't it's probably not going to work out. I mean, you don't have to be that harsh, but it's reality. The job is hard enough without our friends and families taking it personally about something we can't change. My mother got really mad at me for missing Christmas, but I just told her there was no point in getting mad and unless she was planning on supporting my fired butt, I'd have to work Christmas lol.
- Sep 25, '12 by Jw1724I think part of the issue is MY dislike of my schedule. I definitely think he feeds off of that energy so maybe I need to make a better effort to accept the suckiness of it.
- Sep 25, '12 by Aurora77Quote from Jw1724If you're miserable, start looking for a job with hours that you do like. Until then, tell them to back off, that they're making things worse for you. Hospital nursing involves taking the bad schedules with the good.I think part of the issue is MY dislike of my schedule. I definitely think he feeds off of that energy so maybe I need to make a better effort to accept the suckiness of it.
Try planning fun events for the weekends/holidays that you are off. Instead of focusing on what you don't like, focus on the good. Until you find a different position, the best thing you can does shift your attitude.
- Sep 26, '12 by jgr1001nurseIf neither one of you like your schedule, find a job with a different one. That is one of the beauties of being a nurse - there are jobs to accommodate just about any schedule you want. There are clinics that work M-F, 9-5 and holidays off. The pay will probably be less, but that is what is given up for a more "normal" schedule.
It's all about what is more important to you. If the relationship is more important than the current job, find a new job. Don't just chuck the whole nursing career. Tell him to be patient and get to looking.
- Sep 30, '12 by Nurse ABCI think you're very lucky to have found a job you love most days esp in nursing!!! Sure the schedule isn't the greatest but it does have it's positives. How many other jobs can you get extra days off all the time? If his family wants you there so bad why don't they plan activities when you're off and can be there? Mine does. I would talk to them and ask that instead of making you feel bad try to plan things when you're off. Also, you yourself said you like taking the extra days off since it's not really affecting your pay but because your boyfriend gets angry and jealous you want to find a different job! I would not change jobs because he gets jealous. Seriously-that's just immature from his part. If you're always complaining then yes he's going to complain too. Have you ever worked five days a week? It's not all it's cracked up to be. Your still tired and you have less free time. I left a job I loved for a normal schedule and always regretted it. I didn't like the job as well, didn't like working five days a week, made less money, and didn't like that I couldn't go part-time after having a baby. I would've much rather been able to work one or two longs days and then had the rest of the week off to spend with my baby but I couldn't do that where I was. My advice to you is either look at the positives and project a better attitude by not complaining and embrace what you love about your job or actively seek to find a position with better hours. Good luck!