Hospital Love Stories ! ! ! - page 6

it would be nice to read about someone having a crush on one of their co-workers or how you fell in love with that special someone.....this would be cute, so everyone share your... Read More

  1. by   Cute_CNA
    Quote from Mave
    :yeahthat: :redlight: :redlight: :redlight: NOT A GOOD IDEA!!! HE'S MARRIED. DON'T BECOME A HOMEWRECKER. YOU HAVE BETTER THINGS GOING FOR YOU. Be professional and always remember that he has a family. I've been through my father being unfaithful to my mother and IT IS NOT FUN!!! Look elsewhere. There are plenty of available fish in the sea.
    About that word, homewrecker... it takes more than one person to wreck a home.
  2. by   NPAlby
    Neri,

    Girl, I've been in your shoes. This past summer to be exact. An attending, I had to work very closely with for a few weeks while the regular ward nurse was on vaca (small psych hospital). I got all the clues that he was into me. And with my aggressive nature it was difficult not to pounce on him. I would have to call my best friend frequently to remind me not to do anything stupid. The thing is he was getting married (which he barely spoke of ever even though we used have frequent long chats). Whatever the deal with him (married, engaged, gay whatever) I knew if anything was going to happen it would end up in drama. Drama at the work place is the worst. I was in the Navy on a ship so I've been through more than my fair share. Annoying at 18. Damaging to your career once you're a professional with a license and a reputation to protect. Others here have mentioned being a homewrecker. Don't wreck your own career before it even starts. Believe me you will meet plenty of hot residents!
  3. by   NPAlby
    Oh and by the way for those posters that don't want this to be a negative thread. I just wrote the above b/c I had a similiar situation. I can understand how difficult it is to stay away from temptation.
    But I'm still a romantic. I will probably meet my future husband at one of the hospitals (I'm a traveler). I don't have much of a social life and work crazy amount of hours sometimes. Plus I want someone who understands when I say I had a tough day what that really means. Anyway, keep the inspiring stories coming! Gives me hope that I won't end up alone with my cat and candles.
  4. by   Havin' A Party!
    Quote from neri
    ... he's married so he's out of bounds...
    Unlike some of the other opinions posted, think you can be friendly and professional.

    Good luck!
  5. by   Havin' A Party!
    Quote from Cute_CNA
    About that word, homewrecker... it takes more than one person to wreck a home.
    Right on!
  6. by   Corvette Guy
    Quote from Cute_CNA
    About that word, homewrecker... it takes more than one person to wreck a home.
    True that, however just like it takes two to dance... one has to lead & the other follows. Plus, if one party is single, and the other is married [the proverbial established home] thus the single party is labeled the homewrecker. Nonetheless, both parties are responsible for any infidelity.

    Like I mentioned before, the fella should be flattered, and leave it at that. BTW, we should not be too hard on the OP since she was open with her feelings on the Msg Brd here.
  7. by   MMARN
    Quote from Cute_CNA
    About that word, homewrecker... it takes more than one person to wreck a home.

    You are absolutely right. However, don't be a part of it. I'm sorry if I offended you. I didn't mean to. I was just saying that I've been through it. This thread is positive. I don't want to begin a debate. I'm sorry again. Just posting my thoughts.:wink2:

    Mave.
  8. by   Corvette Guy
    Quote from Cute_CNA
    About that word, homewrecker... it takes more than one person to wreck a home.
    "NOT A GOOD IDEA!!! HE'S MARRIED. DON'T BECOME A HOMEWRECKER. YOU HAVE BETTER THINGS GOING FOR YOU. Be professional and always remember that he has a family. I've been through my father being unfaithful to my mother and IT IS NOT FUN!!! Look elsewhere. There are plenty of available fish in the sea." - Mave

    Cute_CNA,

    Why the hate [its an expression, btw] towards Mave? She was just saying there are plenty of available single guys [& vice versa] to meet, rather than pursue an attraction towards a married guy [or, vice versa]. It is usually understood, the one wearing "the ring" has an established home [a bond btwn 2 people], whereas a single person does not. BTW, this is not meaning in the literal sense of owning a home. So, if a married person has an affair with a single person the single person is labeled a homewrecker. By the same token, the married person is labeled several different negatives, and rightly so, yet I won't post such here. My previous wife cheated on me, so I could throw out some superlatives here, LOL.

    IMHO, a wedding band should mean to others... yes, I'll be your friend but my heart is already taken. Translation; the one that wears "the ring" better never forget the ultimate promise & the admirer not wearing "the ring" should realize they should never be more than friends.

  9. by   Corvette Guy
    Quote from RNalby
    Neri,

    Girl, I've been in your shoes. This past summer to be exact. An attending, I had to work very closely with for a few weeks while the regular ward nurse was on vaca (small psych hospital). I got all the clues that he was into me. And with my aggressive nature it was difficult not to pounce on him. I would have to call my best friend frequently to remind me not to do anything stupid. The thing is he was getting married (which he barely spoke of ever even though we used have frequent long chats). Whatever the deal with him (married, engaged, gay whatever) I knew if anything was going to happen it would end up in drama. Drama at the work place is the worst. I was in the Navy on a ship so I've been through more than my fair share. Annoying at 18. Damaging to your career once you're a professional with a license and a reputation to protect. Others here have mentioned being a homewrecker. Don't wreck your own career before it even starts. Believe me you will meet plenty of hot residents!
    RNalby,

    You rock Sailor! You were wise to confide in your best friend & leave the player alone. I wonder if the attending ever got married, if so hope he has stayed faithful. :stone
  10. by   Corvette Guy
    Quote from RNalby
    Oh and by the way for those posters that don't want this to be a negative thread. I just wrote the above b/c I had a similiar situation. I can understand how difficult it is to stay away from temptation.
    But I'm still a romantic. I will probably meet my future husband at one of the hospitals (I'm a traveler). I don't have much of a social life and work crazy amount of hours sometimes. Plus, I want someone who understands when I say I had a tough day what that really means. Anyway, keep the inspiring stories coming! Gives me hope that I won't end up alone with my cat and candles.
    My crystal ball indicates... you will meet your future hubby in the health care field some day, and live happily ever after.

    It helps when your significant other is an RN [or, at least another health care professional], therefore understands the trials & tribulations of being an RN. Plus, you can actually learn from each other just like at nursing school clinical post conferences, LOL.
  11. by   Corvette Guy
    Quote from Havin' A Party!
    Unlike some of the other opinions posted, think you can be friendly and professional.

    Good luck!
    BTW, the OP admitted to being concerned with wanting to be more than friends with the married guy, right?

    So, why your comment? IMHO, I see nothing wrong with a single person being friendly and professional with a married person. The line is crossed when the single person's actions allow true feelings of attraction towards a married person show.

    ... just my .02

  12. by   Havin' A Party!
    Quote from Corvette Guy
    ... Cute_CNA,

    Why the hate [its an expression, btw] towards Mave?...
    Hey there, CC. Didn't notice any "hate" in Cute's post.

    Where are you seeing it?
  13. by   Havin' A Party!
    Quote from Corvette Guy
    BTW, the OP admitted to being concerned with wanting to be more than friends with the married guy, right?

    So, why your comment?...
    Just pointing out, CC, that we can have "feelings" and not have to act on them.

    Staying friendly and professional is something I think we've gotta get used to practicing... 'cause inevitably, in the course of our careers, we're bound to run into someone that tickles our fancy a certain way.

    Pondering potential consequences might also be effective mental exercise.

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