Head Nursed that are Liars

  1. I work in a physicians office with 2 LPN(im one of them), and a medical assistant, and 2 RNs one is the head nurse. We have all come to the conclusion she is a pathological liar. we have caught her in sooo many lies. Lies about and having to do with work and also her home life. Usually managers have a policy about what you tell them, stays with them. You can tell her about someone else in the office and she will go back and tell that person who said it AND exagerate what you said. Its awful. how do you handle such a pathological liar, that happens to be your boss?
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  2. 7 Comments

  3. by   nurse2002
    Ouch! That is a hard one. Especially working in an office. Makes it harder to get away from her. I really dont have any good advice, but I know someone here will.

    Im sure everyone, including the docs have her number. Id stay as far away from her as possible and keep conversation formal, strictly work. Try not to give her any ammo. Wish I could give you more.

    Good luck.
  4. by   Gator,SN
    Don't tell her anything about anyone that you wouldn't say in front of a group of people.
    This is hard to deal with I'm sure, but now that you know how she is, protect yourself. You probably can't change her but you can change how you interact with her.
    Good luck!
    Gator
  5. by   gwenith
    Be VERY VERY careful. Document, document, document. Even go to the point of cayying a small tape deck in your purse. You would not be able to use the tape deck in a court of law as you would have had to let her know first that you were recoridng her conversations ( telling her you are taping may cause her to start bullying) but it is evidence that could cover your butt.

    I was in a similar situation once. The trouble was the boss I worked under acted like butter wouldn't melt in her mouth and I found out she had been lying her head off. She even went to the point of removing responses I had written from my HRM file so that my side would not be known.

    Know this - she cannot hide her lying forever- sooner or later she will be known by everybody for what she is and what she does, however do not assume that everyone knows NOW. Every time she has to report something "up the ladder" make sure that a true and accurate statement is made. Get your side of the issue out there.

    Keep your interactions with her to minimum. No matter how "nice" she is DO NOT TRUST HER."

    If you ever need some peer support over this issue feel free to PM me. I just wish I had had someone to support me while I dealt with MY "head nurse who was a liar."
    Last edit by gwenith on Apr 28, '03
  6. by   jeannet83
    Ok, you guys are going to think I'm a wimp but... time to get a new job. You will never change her behavior and God forbid something bad happens at work, she will certainly not back you up. Why work in that kind of environment? Just my 2cents- Jeanne
  7. by   susanmary
    Originally posted by jeannet83
    Ok, you guys are going to think I'm a wimp but... time to get a new job. You will never change her behavior and God forbid something bad happens at work, she will certainly not back you up. Why work in that kind of environment? Just my 2cents- Jeanne
    My thoughts exactly. Don't have to like your boss ... but you need to be able to trust and count on your boss. I'd leave.
    My 2 cents, too. Sue
  8. by   betts
    Defamation: to harm or destroy the good name or reputation of; to slander...

    SHE'S THE BOSS! Whom do you think the employer would believe? Best advise, do the assigned work or leave before your INTEGRITY is questioned.
  9. by   colleen10
    Hi Jen,

    I have worked in regular "office environments" with people like this and they honestly scare the bejezzes out of me.

    My advice is to stay away from this person as much as possible, document the heck out of everything and start looking for a new job.

    Like Jeanett said, you will not be able to change her and god forbid something serious should happen where it is your word against hers. In my experience, they always take the side of the manager and to me it just wouldn't be worth my good name and my license to be dragged into the mud.

    I wouldn't say it's wimping out. I'd say it's playing it safe and smart. Aside from my above reasons it's also not worth the aggrevation of having to deal with her lies every day.

    Good Luck in whatever you decide.

    Col

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