Good Bye to Nursing for me... - page 10

Well, the start of a new year and I'm kissing nursing good bye after only 5 short months. I graduated in may and started at a hospital in august. My very first preceptor was a nightmare, on my... Read More

  1. by   SpaceshuttleRN
    Congratulations on the pregnancy. I agree you should hang on to the license. You may find that after you have your child/children in school full time, that you may want to give it another shot. Please don't take this next comment the wrong way, but sometimes it is easier to go into nursing when you have had a chance to mature a little. Not that I am saying you are immature, only that as we get older, we get a little tougher and can take a stronger stand. I know when I was younger, I let a lot of the "nurses from hell" get to me also. Now I stand up to them. Some people should never be asked to be preceptors, those are the ones who forget that they were not born nurses, they had to learn just like everyone else. You don't graduate from nursing school knowing everything about nursing, you learn a good part of it from the experience of others. It's unfortunate that they treated you so poorly. A good preceptor would welcome you with open arms and not expect perfection. There is no such thing as a perfect nurse, or one who knows everything, we are continually learning. All new grads deserve to be treated with respect. Good luck, and think about giving it another chance down the road. The world needs good nurses, and you sound like you have the right ideals.
  2. by   rpv_rn
    [font=book antiqua]dear healer 27,
    [font=book antiqua]congratulations on your new addition.
    [font=book antiqua]one positive aspect of nursing is the variety of jobs, hours, & facilities that are open to you. have you thought of working part time or per diem?
    [font=book antiqua]when my children were small, i worked 2 - 3 days / week. it was enough to keep my skills up. if you don't need the benefits, per diem provides you with the independence of working or not. keep in mind, however, that there may be minimum hours / month that you must work.
    [font=book antiqua]just something to consider.
    [font=book antiqua]best wishes to your family!
  3. by   mikethern
    Do what I do. Work part time. I don't enjoy nursing but the money is too good to pass up. I'm good at my job but there's no sense in working full time since I don't enjoy it.
  4. by   SAC101
    Don't give up yet. Simply take time out.
  5. by   RNfromMN
    Quote from mikethern
    Do what I do. Work part time. I don't enjoy nursing but the money is too good to pass up. I'm good at my job but there's no sense in working full time since I don't enjoy it.
    As someone who plans on graduating in May, the idea of working full-time @ a hospital really overwhelms me. Working PT, at least at first, sounds really appealing...do you mind if I ask: Do you have a 2nd job? Or do you make enough to live only nursing PT?
  6. by   Squishie Bananas
    i know how you feel but don't give up so easily. there must have been something that drove you to want to be a nurse.

    when i entered nursing i thought for sure i wanted to be a maternity nurse, well... needless to say no aspect of acute care did anything for me and i quit nursing school after my second year because i hated acute care so much.

    after taking a year of arts i soon realized a was built for nursing just not hospital nursing. i went back into the program and absolutely loved the last year and a half of my degree program. community is where i am meant to be and for a long time i thought in mental health.

    i actually did end up working in acute care when i graduated and there are good time and bad times. i don't think its is that i actually like it now just that i am used to it. but my dreams of community nursing are still much alive and as soon as i can afford to then i'm out.

    i took time off and worked at a pre-trial centre. i loved the nursing there but i need to love the culture of the place too and its was too much harrassment form fellow colleagues for me. but i will never foget what i learned there and don't feel it wasted time at all. same with teh hosptial.

    i have seen my ward go from great to well, really crappy. no staff, the manager doesn't support you, supervisors don't care, unsafe nursing, everything. but the great thing about nursing is you are never stuck anywhere.

    you have it good really, if you don't need to work full time just work casual or part time and try things you never would have thought of. there are so many different things you can do as a nurse. what about wellness coorinator at a university, thats my dream job but most people don't know these options exist.

    take some time off if you need to but try a little more. it about finding your niche and as far as those preceptors go, its not about them. you know what kind of nurse you are and if you feel you are a good nurse go with it. always be open to constructive criticism but also be assertive when you need to.

    it is hard sometimes for those of us who only recently graduated. we come from a completely different paradigm of nursing and not that we are right or wrong it is just that times have changed and nursing has changed so there is resistance between new nurses and thos who graduated 20 or 30 years ago.

    those nurses have been practicing a certain way as long as they can remember and may feel they are right and because they have expereience. just remend them you are not there to step on their toes only to nurse as you have been taught and according ot your standards.

    i have hada few run ins my self and sometimes it won't be accepeted. just hold your head high and know you are doing what you know to be right. trust me everyday i wonder why i am a nurse but i know that right now i am putting in my dues and doing what i need to in order to get that job i want.

    you have the privilege to work part time if you want. use it because fulltime does add a bundle of stress.

    i am sorry you haven't had a good few months but just be open to other options of nursing and give it a second try. you are blessed with these abilites to help people for a reason right now it is just a matter of finding you happy place.

    good luck and remember to take care of you first
  7. by   rmony
    healer27 vbmenu_register("postmenu_1996169", true); ..............i understand why you would say this. i've had my license for 15 years and found a way to solve your problem. i too have a husband who makes a very good living, which affords me the luxury of working or not. my solution.........if a preceptor had made those remarks within my earshot.........you find your manager as fast as you can and request another nurse to train you and tell them why!!
    i myself have run into the same situation in the past. my attitude towards comments i overheard was to pull them out onto the carpet, so to speak and tell them if they had a problem training me, find me someone else who was willing to take on the task.

    this happened once.........i was assigned to be orientated to a unit by a nurse who barely had her feet wet........she may have had her license 1 year, to my 12 years. sorry, but i had seen and done more than she had probably ever thought of seeing in her nursing career!!! another nurse overheard her and was floored! of course, i had worked with the other nurse previously and thank goodness.............ripped my body away from her and stated, hell........if you don't want an excellent nurse who could teach you a few things, then i'll take her and you can bet........i won't be doing much because she will just jump in with no problem.

    i myself love to get new lpn's or gpn's to train and orientate. you guys are like little sponges.........you suck everything up and if you're unsure you ask questions. i would much rather you ask, then to make a mistake and possibly loose a nurse who would more than likely be a great nurse with a little guidance in the long run.

    oh.............my biggest solution for me to avoid "burnout". since i can afford to work or not work........i work prn. you can bet you will be crosstrained, which is ideal and if you're too stressed a particular day......you can always say your unavailable. ;o) has worked for the past 10 years and i'm still nursing, in fact...........i've even started back to school!

    good luck
  8. by   rnanm
    I wish I could have been your preceptor. I love teaching at the clinical level and new grads are the best! Nurturing, challenge and consistency are needed to develop the nursing process in our new grads. This does not happen in a few weeks or months, but can be destroyed in a few days. Good luck with your future plans, but keep that license active. Who knows what will change down the road.
    Enjoy motherhood and stay strong and caring.
  9. by   smarter
    Keep up with you license and CEU's. It takes awhile to find the right job. There are a lot out there. Some place, some where there is the perfect job. Not all Nursing positions are in hospitals. Not all are med-surg. Take the leadership position. The fewer Nurses you work with the better. The less management that is around is also less stressful. The more positive remarks you hear the better. The world is a depressing place. You don't need that in your work enviornment. Nursing is a helping caring profession. Happy Nurses are those that don't have the dictators/managers and demanding mean people around them. Life is way to short to have to work like that. Keep your chin up and know that not all areas as you wrote about are like that.
  10. by   chickenlegs999
    I've been nursing for 32 yrs and still love it!There is nothing in the world more rewarding than helping someone feel better or easing despair.You've either got it or you havn't-you have to be a tough cookie with a soft heart and if you can't cope then you must let someone else more capable take over.Anyone who disses you as a learner should also be "outed"-we all have to start somewhere!
  11. by   RAD72
    I relate to how your feeling. However, don't let several bad experiences change your mind for good. Anyone, who has worked in nursing can relate to what your feeling. After my first year as an LPN I didn't know if I wanted to further my education and become an RN. I just recently gradeuated from an ADN program and am currently awaiting to take my boards. It does get better ....you just need to hang in there....have thick skin and find your niche.


    p.s. Remember why you chose to become a nurse
  12. by   horvie
    That's too bad. I have been in nursing for 35 years....never worked in a hospital. Went directly into a small suburban home care setting, then shortly after that to a big city health department. Became a pediatric nurse practitioner and worked for several years in a community health center.

    Aside from taking off a period to stay home and raise my family, I have worked in public health ever since. The pay is not as good as I could make in a hospital, but I love the regular hours, no evenings (unless I choose to run an evening health program) and weekends off. There are definitely tradeoffs for the lower pay.

    I hope you enjoy your time with your family but keep in mind that nursing is a wide open field with many opportunities for success.

    In my next life.....I want to go into forensic nursing!
  13. by   Straycat
    I am a nurse who just retired after 40+ years of nursing and seeing the same kind of politics and new grad learning needs of which you speak for all of those years. I have also seen young grads work through this, learn from it and become fantastic nurses. You are giving up too early and maybe aren't really interested in becoming part of the nursing world.
    Good luck in your next career.

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