I have a friend who was married to a physically/mentally abusive man for 9 years. She needed to get out of the relationship, so when her H.S sweetheart came back into her life and told her he would take her from this life of hell that she was living, she thought she was finally saved. She ended divorcing the lunatic and married her H.S love.
She was excited to start her new life and put the past in the past. She had enrolled in a LPN program and couldn't wait to start her new career.One evening her present husband started to drop subtle hints about"how easy is to get access to oxycontin/oxycodone?" She told him that it was very difficult. He kept persisting. One night he was going thru withdrawals and confessed to her he was a addict begged her to get some pills . He was very sly on also mentioning to her " remember what I did for you, and who was there for you when you needed it the most". She gave in. Then he asked again and again. Until he was asking her to get 20-25 pills per week. She reached her breaking point and told him he needed to go to rehab. He refused to do what she had asked and she felt what she had been doing was so wrong. She felt ashamed to be a nurse, depressed, no self worth, no self esteem.
She left him 3 times and each time went back to him. I did not understand why?? Until she told me this story I'm describing now. He came to visit her the first time she left and showed her several medication slips he had saved with pts names on them and said to her " you have 24 hrs to gather your things and come back home or I'll destroy you!
Presently she lives in her own apt, but he continues to control every aspect of her life. He has also extended the court date for their divorce and will eventually comply as long as she comes thru with pills.( I don't think he will ever sign) He needs to know everything that she is doing at all times and the main reason is for the pills. She recently was told at work she will be filling in for a new position, where she will off the med cart and his answer to her about this " that's not gonna work, you need to find a way to come thru, figure it out or you know what is going to happen to you!"
What would you do if you were in this situation?? What options if any??
To me, he is a predator, who preyed on a severely damaged woman coming from a abusive first marriage and knew he could manipulate her