Deathbed visions - page 7

Have you taken care of any patients who've had any? The first time I had a patient who was apparently having one was a lady who kept looking straight ahead at the wall & having conversations with... Read More

  1. by   missingmydad
    I don't know how to send a private message :! and I'd like to ask a question. My father died recently (cancer). Something spiritual seemed to happen as cancer progressed (virtually his family members would pray for something, the answer would come from other family members that were unaware of original prayer). Anyway, this seemed relevant to my father's preparation for death (he was angry with God and had some unfinished issues--these incidences eventually seemed to pave the way to acceptance/forgiveness of some sort.) Anyway, I'm desperate to understand how important specific religion at death. It seems that nurses often view patients of all faiths having similar positive visions. I'd really like to know if nurses (based on experience) feel a certain faith is necessary for a positive, spiritual/supernatural (talking to dead people, seeing angels, etc.) death experience . Or does it seem that "God" makes himself visible to all at death? And what about evil experiences (those that are fearful or see "demons")? I know this is a loaded question, but I'm asking as many nurses as I can. Trying to understand my dad's death seems to be a major part of my healing process. Thanks so much!
  2. by   LouisVRN
    I've never had a pt with visions before they die, but *knock on wood* I have yet to have a pt die on my shift. We do have one room where it seems that people who are in the dying process or have a terminal diagnosis seem to be afraid of the painting on the wall. This has happened multiple times and it seems to be very upsetting to the pt. (The painting by the way is a landscape and is in several other rooms as well, but never had a complaint about it in any other room). Recently had a pt admitted with pancreatic cancer, pretty advanced, went in to do bedside report at shift change and found the pt's husband trying to hang a sheet over the painting, I asked what he was doing and he said his wife asked him to do it because she didn't like it. Knowing the history of the room I arranged to have her moved a couple rooms down where she stayed without incident before being transferred to hospice.
    I wish I knew what it was these pts who are in their right mind are seeing in this painting, or maybe I just dont want to know.
  3. by   Chaya
    Quote from LouisVRN
    I've never had a pt with visions before they die, but *knock on wood* I have yet to have a pt die on my shift. We do have one room where it seems that people who are in the dying process or have a terminal diagnosis seem to be afraid of the painting on the wall. This has happened multiple times and it seems to be very upsetting to the pt. (The painting by the way is a landscape and is in several other rooms as well, but never had a complaint about it in any other room). Recently had a pt admitted with pancreatic cancer, pretty advanced, went in to do bedside report at shift change and found the pt's husband trying to hang a sheet over the painting, I asked what he was doing and he said his wife asked him to do it because she didn't like it. Knowing the history of the room I arranged to have her moved a couple rooms down where she stayed without incident before being transferred to hospice.
    I wish I knew what it was these pts who are in their right mind are seeing in this painting, or maybe I just dont want to know.
    I would guess they are perceiving the painting as some kind of a portal to another world....
  4. by   missingmydad
    Quote from LouisVRN
    I've never had a pt with visions before they die, but *knock on wood* I have yet to have a pt die on my shift. We do have one room where it seems that people who are in the dying process or have a terminal diagnosis seem to be afraid of the painting on the wall. This has happened multiple times and it seems to be very upsetting to the pt. (The painting by the way is a landscape and is in several other rooms as well, but never had a complaint about it in any other room). Recently had a pt admitted with pancreatic cancer, pretty advanced, went in to do bedside report at shift change and found the pt's husband trying to hang a sheet over the painting, I asked what he was doing and he said his wife asked him to do it because she didn't like it. Knowing the history of the room I arranged to have her moved a couple rooms down where she stayed without incident before being transferred to hospice.
    I wish I knew what it was these pts who are in their right mind are seeing in this painting, or maybe I just dont want to know.
    Yikes, I think I'd study that picture with a microscope
  5. by   ShayRN
    I once had a sweet lady looking in the corner of the room. I always ask people what they see when they are able to talk. She looked me right in the eye and said, "Ohhh, don't you see her? She is just beautiful. That little girl playing in the corner over there. She has blond curly hair and big blue eyes, Oh my, she looks just like an angel." I said to her, "no dear she is here for you to see not me." I later told this story to both her daughters when they visited. They looked at each other and at the same time started crying through their smiles.

    It seems that they had a sister. A sister that died before either one of them were born. She had blond curly hair, big blue eyes and their mom always said she looked just like an angel.
  6. by   Future_Lpn
    I have worked in LTC for several yrs, I have seen quite a few things. But at one particular place I worked whenever someone was getting ready to go they would speak of 2 children coming in the room, always no matter what the person would describe the same children. One girl who would tell the resident it was ok to let go and that the little boy would stand near the door because he wasnt suppose to talk to strangers. When someone would tell us about the kids they would pass within 3 days.
    At the same place we had an Alzhiemer patient on my unit who would wander about all day. She was strong and ambulatory, but her mind was "out there", well a few times we'd catch her in a residents room and have to re direct her. A couple different times she predicted death. One day that stands out is when she went to this ladies room, and I went down because the resident was hollaring for her to get out. I was gently redirecting her and she kept laughing and saying I wanted to tell her goodbye she is leaving today. I didnt think much of it. Well the lady of whom she was speaking was restless all day, just hollaring for her husband and trying to get out of her wheelchair. Normally her husband was there everyday at 11-ish to feed her lunch. He called that day to tell us he would be there around one, as he had an appointment. We told his wife and she was real upset saying he needed to be there now. Meanwhile the alzhiemer lady came in and said laughing, she is leaving before one. (this is someone who didnt normally even know what time of day it was)...... After lunch, the wife was being transferred to bed for an afternoon nap, just as the aides got her up to move her myself and her husband walked into the room and she had a massive stroke that took her immediatly. Her poor husband was distraught and felt so guilty for being late. He was in the hall while the RN prenounced her dead and the Alzhiemer lady came up and looked him totally serious and said I told them all she was leaving today, and walked away.
    I took her much more seriously from then on.
  7. by   hecallsmeDuchess
    Where I come from, we believe that people on their way out of this dimension can see and interact with those who have gone before them. We also believe that those who have gone can send messages from beyond. It's something I grew up believing, I haven't had a chance to apply science to it and I'm not sure I want to either.


    Recently, an uncle of mine passed and I attended the wake as I couldn't make the burial. Well, weeks after he was buried he was in my dream (as real as can be) telling me 'thank you' for attending his wake and being by his son through it.
  8. by   Inawe
    Hello. Please, understand my reasons for being anonymous with my own story.

    I'm not sure why, but managed to find my way to this website and read your title story. In doing so was compelled to write something I've kept to myself. Something only a few people had shared with me and since that day several years ago am left wondering about so much... but more than anything left with hope and a true sense of gratitude. Thank you in advance for reading this.

    My mother in law had been diagnosed with non Hodgkin's Lymphoma. She was always a strong and brave woman that was always there for her family and never let life or fear get the better of her. Especially throughout her battle with Cancer. The day had come to bring her home to pass away surrounded by family.

    It was an emotionally turbulent time as the siblings each had personal differences to suppress and more than anything wanted to be there in comfort. We all took turns individually or together to be beside her. One of the last discussions mom had with us was that she wished she had a little retriever puppy to snuggle up with while resting in bed. We all smiled. In a matter of days, she slowly began to slip in and out of consciousness. Then it happened...

    All of us were together one sunny afternoon talking with each other and mom in her room when we noticed a little girl dressed in a white dress walking down the road towards our cul-de-sac with a small golden retriever puppy. Not any of us recognized her being from around the neighborhood. We immediately remembered mom's wish and a couple of the daughters rushed out to talk with this little girl.

    She was very fearless in accommodating a small visit with mom after being told of what to expect. We also explained if she was not comfortable that she did not have to come in or at least leave anytime. She only smiled and gently picked up her puppy and quietly entered the house. She was so respectful and brave upon entering mom's room. We all thanked her and she simply smiled. We'd placed the puppy on mom's left side and put her hand on the small dog. The puppy laid there resting with his head on mom's hip and we could see mom's thumb weakly stroking his head!

    We asked the girl if she lived nearby and her response simply was "no, I'm not from around here" softly spoken. We felt so uplifted and grateful for such a blessing. After a short time the little girl left and to this day, not one of us (father in law, three sisters, myself or brother) can recall her name or that of the little dog. After she'd left... we all looked at each other wondering what had just happened... silently comforted, each thinking the same thing about such an odd coincidence. Mom passed away a few short days after and had never regained consciousness after the visit.

    My wife and I lived in that house for a couple more years and neither of us had seen that little girl or this dog again. I honestly am left with the impression of having been in the presence of an angel that day. We all do.
  9. by   leslie :-D
    inawe, you and your family were witness to a phenomenal event...once in a lifetime.
    thank you for sharing your story.

    how did this girl appear physically?
    did she look like a 'regular' child? and the dog?

    leslie
  10. by   tokmom
    Well..that gave me goosebumps!
  11. by   tokmom
    Yes, I have had a dying patient tell me to be quiet, because she was listening to the angels sing. She died a few hours later. I guess my dribble wasn't as exciting, lol.

    My uncle saw my dad (his brother) I knew the end was near and sure enough it was.

    Anytime a relative or patient starts seeing family members I know its not a good sign!
  12. by   Inawe
    Thank you Leslie,

    Indeed, I have no other way to explain what we had experienced together other than a genuine blessing.

    These little visitors appeared quite "typical" really and can still picture her in my head. The girl couldn't have been older than 8 years old. She had medium-length sandy-blond hair, wore a white dress with a kind of band (light blue) that held her hair back. The most vivid thing I recall of her is how calm, brave and kind she was. I feel most children would've been very uncomfortable in such a situation. She appeared calm and her smile was warmly gentle.

    This little puppy was so adorable! He barely moved the entire time that he remained by mom's side.
  13. by   Inawe
    "One of my instructors said that she had experiences where people would see a small dog on their bed before they passed away." (c) damarystx story #61

    I just came across this contribution. My goodness, has anyone else experienced anything like that?

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