Dear preceptor - page 11

by Ivanna_Nurse 60,589 Views | 175 Comments

Dear preceptor.. I came to you smiling, full of energy and ready to tackle the last leg of my orientation journey, with your guidance of course. I haven't really gotten any inclination on where that guidance is at. You tell me... Read More


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    As difficult as it must be to tolerate her acting out like that maybe view it as an opportunity to use her as a model of what you never want to become. I have met nurses with similar erratic behaviors. Who needs their abuse? I also believe that you should confront her.....pull her covers about her actions in a diplomatic honest manner.I am sure the administrators put the newbies with her and figure if they can survive her then they are fit to work there. Sad.
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    I have precepted many, many nurses in my time, and unfortunately you hit the nail on the head. For some reasons, as nurses, we tend to 'eat our young'- even if they are not 'young' in age, they are the newbies. I have fought against this concept for so many years. As the leaders in a unit or facility, we need to quietly assess the capabilities of the 'newbie' and work on strengthening weakness, not running them out the door. Too many great nurses have been pushed out of a new situation because of preceptors just like the one described here. If you are not preceptor material- then just DON'T. Allow the other nurses to do the job. I have always felt that a warm welcome and the chance to prove themselves is the way to approach a new nurse to an area, or even a new grad. You don't know what a person can do unless you let them prove themselves to you. I am sorry for your experience and I hope a lot of nurses read this- because we need to hear it. It reinforces me to make sure that the 'new guy' is welcomed and trained appropriately- after all we need a TEAM to make it work. It is all about the PATIENT and without a team approach, that patient may be forgotten!
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    I think that this is such a sad reality in nursing. When I began nursing I was a PCA, and part of the reason that I wanted to educate myself further was for respect. PCA's are the low man on the totem pole and crap always runs downhill. Since I've been an RN I realize it runs uphill and sideways too. Horizontal violence is one of the biggest problems nursing has, and until we can unite and be peaceful among eachother, there is no way we can unite to face the problems on our unites with cutbacks, increased pt ratios, overtime, burnout etc. Right now, on the floor it is dog eat dog, there is alot of favoritism, and I think that these preceptors may think that by shining a light of negativity on someone else they take the focus off their own shortcomings, keeping them in the manager's favor and keeping their brown nose status. It is not the best nurses who are rewarded for their work, it is the ones who keep management informed and act as 'stool pigeons'. I often think the only thing that matters to anyone is whether I will show up on short notice to cover their butts because they are always short, it doesn't really matter if I do a good job when I get there.
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    I love this "letter". It sure does hit the nail right on the head, but it goes for a lot of nursing or any staff in health care. I am a recent grad, I have worked in acute care as a CNA but only LTC as an actual nurse, I am terrified to go into a completely different setting, with new faces, procedures, and being "green". Personally, I feel like I still need that person behind me saying, "yes, do it that way". So, that being said, I don't want to be at work (a new orientee) any more than anyone else does, so lets make this a good day!!!! I wish it was that easy!
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    I have experienced that type of negativity more than a few times from other nurses. One thing I have learned is that it is easy to become part of that negativity and lose focus of what matters (optimal patient care). As difficult as it may be to do this I recommend to NEVER "take the bait" do not allow that person to"hook" you into their perverse behaviors and just try to let it roll off of you. I believe that for me I can always learn something in any situation especially about what you DO NOT want to become: petty and bitter. Just set the highest standard that you can set for yourself and be consistent.I believe that it is important to be neutral and flexible when you have to interact with difficult people. Our lives and our time is precious so we owe it to ourselves to make the best of things. I would try to communicate in an honest diplomatic manner with my preceptor and convey that I am an asset to be utilized
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    I just wanted to say thanks to all of you who have read, understood and offered support. It is lovely to see that I have the support of you gals and guys. Thanks a bunch, and Happy New Year! ~Ivanna
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    Wow - after reading everyones responsed I must say I feel blessed to have had such fabulous preceptee expriences.

    However I have been witness to some terrible precepting, and your letter Ivanka reminds me to actually see the person I am precepting, not just the "newbie".
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    find the silver lining.....you now know how NOT to act when you are in her shoes She seems to have been trying to gain notice by belittling you ...very sad is the person who trys for acknowledgment at anothers expense. Lesson: always respect your supervisors, peers, your CNA's , dietary , housekeeping and especially respitory staff ( don't forget your patients & their families.... NOT IN THE WORK PLACE...THAT WOULD MAKE YOU WORSE THAN:bowingpur HER. HAPPY NEW YEAR
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    Well I guess I am not surprised, I have seen this myself, I have felt this myself and I have reported the person that actually was inflicting this pain on others. I as a male found this clinical instructor to be the most knowledgeable and (worthless) person in any place of authority. She had the opportunity to be a mentor that we would look up to for the rest of our lives. Instead she chose to belittle and degrade us to the point that we no longer listened to her. She insulted us from day one after she sweet talked us into letting our guards down.She told her life experiences and her accreditation's, then she asked us what experiences we had. Something from the start said Randy don't do it! I should have listened to the voice in my head. I was the last one in our class to offer up my experiences and it was the last time I offered ANY knowledge on ANY subject relating to health care. I had previous experience in the ER, ICU, and 3 1/2 years in the Dialysis Unit. Not to mention I was a Paramedic as well. The second I finished, We were all told how we Didn't know (*&^%) (crap) about anything and we were told to keep our mouths shut from there on OUT. Word for word! She was pulled out of retirement TWICE, to be a preceptor/clinical instructor. She told us how she didn't want to be there in the first place and it showed! She was 70 something years old so you know she was from the OLD school for sure. Do I have to tell you she HATED MEN. and I knew it! I was told by other male students who had her, That I was in trouble from day one. She rode me like a dog! She gave me a patient one evening that she was sure, Going to rip me apart. This older patient, a woman also hated men. It was well known, and I was told this by the nurses on the floor as well. I still laugh when I think about how I had that very patient eating out of my hand by the (NIGHTS END). It fried the preceptors butt to see how I handled that patient with professionalism, respect and authority! It was my pleasure to report her to the Dean of Nursing prior to starting our hospital clinical time! She (the Dean) promised that this Clinical instructor would NEVER be asked back to the college. I checked the next year just to make sure, and she was GONE! What a GREAT chance she missed out on, to be so useful to the students that were there to depend on guidance from her. It was her loss. My best to you from here on out. You will be GREAT as a Preceptor!
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    I relate so much to your letter to your preceptor, because I have dealt with these preceptors myself! I hope we all remember the way we felt when we, ourselves, become preceptors for new nurses.


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