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The problems with nurses' working conditions and the shortage are complex. Not simplifying but focusing on one element here.

However, I will simplify to some extent to illustrate my point. The "conflict" seems to boil down to management/administration versus working nurses. Two sides that have drawn some fairly definite lines in the sand with the usual anger, bitterness, and frustration that goes with a scenario like this.

Think about the kind of people you are attracted to, respect, and admire. Are they bitter, angry, and have a chip on their shoulder or are they focused on solutions, positive, hopeful, and work toward bringing people together?

We (nursing collectively) have developed a reputation for being difficult, angry, bitter, resentful, irritable, and just no fun to work with. No matter what your profession or job, the human part of us is immediately turned off by this and communication shuts down.

We must demonstrate that we are committed to working out our problems and look at issues objectively and grounded in reality as team players or we will never get out of this mess.

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

sjoe as usual youcut to the heart of the matter.

and i agree with you!

Originally posted by ainz

I received criticism lately that I advocate that a positive attitude is all we need. To that I say this in the words of Zig Ziegler:

A POSITIVE ATTITUDE WILL NOT LET YOU DO ANYTHING. . . . . BUT IT WILL HELP YOU DO EVERYTHING BETTER!!!!!!!!!!

Well, that's great. BUT, will it make our situation better? Will it say increase staffing? If everyone goes around with this positive attitude, I see administration thinking that all is well. No, this saying is not addressing the problem. It's like saying: Here, take this happy pill.

Specializes in Hemodialysis, Home Health.
Originally posted by Todd SPN

Well, that's great. BUT, will it make our situation better? Will it say increase staffing? If everyone goes around with this positive attitude, I see administration thinking that all is well. No, this saying is not addressing the problem. It's like saying: Here, take this happy pill.

No Todd... read Tweety's post... it's not being oblivious to what's not happeneing that SHOULD be happening and walking around with rosecolored glasses. By all means the issues NEED to be addressed. But while so doing, we can make OURSELVES and our surroundings so much more palatable if we kept a positive attitude. I don't know about you, but I just can't STAND myself when I'm down and crabby and miserable ! (not to speak of those poor souls in my presence, either !) ;)

So I CHOOSE to stay lighthearted even in the worst scenarios because I function so much better and treat myself AND others so much better....all the while WORKING ON REMEDYING those situations that need serious overhaul.

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
Originally posted by sjoe

What you significantly leave out of your analysis is that establishing and maintaining a cooperative and supportive working environment is one of the tasks of management. Demonstrating competent leadership tends to create this kind of environment.

Excellent!

Specializes in Med/Surg, ER, L&D, ICU, OR, Educator.
Originally posted by Brownms46

you need to know how to defend yourself

Isn't it becoming exhausting to be defensive at every moment while on the job? I know I'm tired of it...but it is hard not to be when it seems we can not...not ever...measure up (and what is it they are measuring us up to anyway). To be questioned, and so frequently found lacking, wears away on the staff's souls.

The other day, a nurse showed me a new doctor's order that read "place a new order sheet in the chart". Now they are ordering how the charts are stuffed, and when, and by whom?:eek: This reeks of the search for inadequacy and not measuring up, even when there is nothing more than a blank piece of paper, not needed yet, but maybe needed tomorrow...and nursing isn't on top of that?!?

It is exhausting for inate "pleasers" to so inadequately please, even after going to extreme lengths to do so. I think that we cannot please the doctors (some) and administrators...and that we just need to let them "roll off our backs" and focus on good patient care...remember the rewards of doing well by our patients, and if the line has been drawn, let them cross over it to us, who have remembered what we are there to do. This alone will give us peace of mind, leading to that positive attitude that comes from knowing that the job was well done! Just step back from the fray and arguements about "it's us against them"...it just allows reengagement and defocusing and continued bickering an bitterness. Let's take a breath...and decide to take the high road.

Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

the whole point of AINZ's post here is NOT to have to DEFEND ourselves.....

I agree, that isOLD HAT. The rep of being defensive, bitter people seems to be held commonly by admin types, if we are to believe ainz here. so I am still waiting...

Ainz, how do we communicate so we are HEARD, not disregarded as defensive, whining bitter people .....hmm? You are an admin type, you opened the subject, so let us see the "light". Share your ideas, not just tell us what we are doing wrong!

Specializes in Community Health Nurse.
Originally posted by 3rdShiftGuy

.............That administration can't see or appreicate us is a great loss, just because we're asking for what we need.

What has really helped this hospital is that they are actually looking at things like staffing. Our staffing is much better in the midst of this nursing shortage more than it ever has been. Happy nurses, make happy patients and happy doctors, lesser lenght of stay, more patients admitted, more money in the pocket. When our VP of nursing quoted the study that proved better ratios means safe outcomes, and was striving towards that, I nearly passed out. We've a long way to go though. But during that process I refused to get all whiney. Doesn't mean I won't vent my frustrations. Doesn't mean I'm not going to ask for what I need for "my" nurses and my patients either.

Tweety........I'd love to have you as my nurse manager. You've got quite a heart, and many of your posts comments show how much you care for your staff and patients. Are you hiring for your floor right now? I'm looking for employment again come next year. :kiss

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.
Originally posted by cheerfuldoer

Tweety........I'd love to have you as my nurse manager. You've got quite a heart, and many of your posts comments show how much you care for your staff and patients. Are you hiring for your floor right now? I'm looking for employment again come next year. :kiss

Always looking for good people! And thanks so much for the compliment! It's a tough biz. If I'd only known, maybe I'd have stuck with accounting when I was in my 20s......naw, still can't imagine doing anything else.

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